The Hamptons

Thursday, May 19, 2016 by  

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (22)In the 16 weeks since Phillip’s surgery, we’ve been back to the hospital 24 times including a 3rd full-body MRI and chemical injections. (To see the full story, click here: Kicking Cancer) By the end of March, Phillip’s PSA level was tested 4 times, and on each occasion the reading went up!! Having had the prostate removed, the PSA level should be undetectable. When the 4th result came in showing an increase of 77% from the first post-surgery reading, we were really unnerved.

So Phillip surprised me with a weekend house in the Hamptons. The Atlantic was our backyard! If you squint, you can see the kids looking for shells by the water’s edge in the photo above       . The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (6)

He wrote on his blog (Phillip’s Journey), “I wanted my wife to have some down time, as she has been carrying the burden greatly. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (24)For those of you who know her, you know she loves deeply and has deep emotions. This journey has been tough on her, and I wanted her to unwind more than anything. I
didn’t realize how much I needed this, too. 
We spent the weekend in an idyllic beach home with glorious weather. We chilled, played board games, grilled fresh salmon & steak, we talked, we walked, we flew kites, we gazed at the ocean & listened to the breaking surf, we delighted in the laughter of our daughter & her friends playing in the sand, running down the beach, rescuing overturned horseshoe crabs, and we reveled in the pure joy of beach life.

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (25)And the really good news… my latest blood test last week shows that my PSA is now undetectable. So, 40 rounds of daily radiation begins in June, then another round of chemical injections, and my plan is to have kicked it to the curb by then….Cancer out!”

To think Phillip was again worried about me when it is he going through all this agony! How incredibly loving, how completely appreciated!! This weekend was the respite we all needed.The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (4)

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (1)The children made s’mores before watching family movies and Darling played her latest instrument, a Seagull Merlin she just stenciled.Seagull Merlin, stencil, stenciling, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom

Smoked salmon for breakfast & chocolate-dipped strawberries at lunch. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (13)More kite-flying, even by my Mom, exploring the Bay, The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (16)and proper burials & prayers for horseshoe crabs that were found washed ashore. The children crafted their own crosses from beach wood and sea grass. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (18)a

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bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We all feel rejuvenated! The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (29)

Especially Phillip, he looks fantastic!!!!

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Bianca

The 1-Eyed Teddy Bear

Monday, May 2, 2016 by  

The point of this story need not identify of the owner of the 1-eyed teddy bear, but rather WHO this fellow is made all the difference in saving our son’s cuddly animals.

The man actually cannot be identified because he is a secret agent on a very significant level. He is close to our family and we all adore him but we keep conversation limited to family stuff, old friends, or school happenings. He signs his holiday envelopes as James Bond. It’s all very cool in a surreptitious kind of way, the “secret” in secret agent makes it sound so hush-hush, and the undercover missions we are never allowed to know about are wrapped in clandestine mystery. All very exciting, so what does this have to do with stuffed animals?  Proud of our son, strapping young man, England, Abercrombie & Fitch

Our eldest is a strapping 24-year-old dude with beer posters in his room and a steady girlfriend at the helm.

Siberian tiger, blue-eyed tiger, white tiger, little boy, stuffed animals, cuddly animals, The 1-Eyed Teddy BearRewind about 14 years and here was a kid with a ton of stuffed animals, some from babyhood, others won at the amusement park, many from the big glass box with the grabber handle thingie at the diner. An admirer of big cats, one of his favorite was a huge white tiger with sharp blue eyes.

For a long time, my husband felt our son needed to unload his cuddly animals. I’d protest seeing the quiet sadness in our child’s eyes. The subject came up at significant milestones, like award ceremonies, moving from elementary to middle school, etc. I understood my husband’s point of view: he wanted to make our son grow up, be a man, get tough. I understood my son’s point of view: at that time he was still an only child and he wasn’t ready.

Then one year we visited Washington, D.C. and James Bond invited us to stay in his homThe 1-Eyed Teddy Bear, Steiff, Steiff teddy bear, old bear, loved bear, teddy bear, James Bond, James Bond's bear, James Bond's teddy bear, teddy on the bed, revered bear, revered teddye. He was away, as usual, and he couldn’t say where he was, except that he would leave the key for us under the mat. Under the mat?!? He lives with all this enigmatic secrecy but leaves the house key under the mat!

It was very exciting to walk around his home. Medals, awards, Christmas cards from the presidents over the last 20 years, and as we walked upstairs to pick out our rooms for the night, there, in the middle of the master bedroom, sitting proudly atop the big bed, was a 1-eyed Steiff teddy bear with a worn nose, an untied yellow bow & fur so loved-off and cuddled, it was a treasure to behold.

It was also ammunition to ward off any more attempts to clear out stuffed animals from our son’s room. “If James Bond can keep his teddy bear, so can I!” 
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So that was that. More than a decade’s passed and on his own, our son has donated his stuffed animals along the way – but that’s the important part of this story – it was on his terms, his timing and his choice of where they went. The huge white tiger is now the centerpiece & reading buddy in a fantastic enrichment school.Toys, princess dresses, dresses, playroom, play room, donation, giving (4)
I never take anything from my children without asking them. Together we donate what they choose to give up when they choose to. It teaches them to let go, to give to others and to stay organized. (Little One sorting>>)

Toys, princess dresses, dresses, playroom, play room, donation, giving (2)There is a marvelous organization called YoungLives which helps teenage mothers. Every 3rd Wednesday, the young mothers meet at a church in Norwalk, CT to learn about God and their children, plus, they can choose items they need that people have donated.

When our daughter was ready to donate her toys or princess dresses, etc., we would bring them to the church and she would see firsthand the children light up with joy as they pickedBarbies, mermaids, singers, butterfly fairies, butterfly fairy, Barbie mermaid out what they would like. She saw a little     2-year-old boy dive into her Elmo chair exclaiming, “That’s mine, I love this chair!” And little girls picking out sparkly dresses. Or Barbies. Or unicorns.Toys, princess dresses, dresses, playroom, play room, donation, giving (1)

The children were happy and it made our child well up with joy to see the kids’ faces light up while new life was instantly breathed into her cherished pieces. It deeply linked giving to pleasure. You can check out organizations in your area like YoungLives, Birthright, Hopeline or any organization that benefits a cause you believe in. We’ve also donated her crib, baby furniture and Pack-n-Plays.

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Our daughter has given up lots of her cuddly animals, even packing & sending many huge boxes to Africa.

The Bright SpotTM bright spot flower – The exciting thing about the missionary we shipped her stuffed animals toOrphans, stuffed animals, given with love, children snuggling new animals, Africa, love, swells our hearts is that they sent back photos of orphan children cuddling her animals! A fine day, indeed. Again, on our children’s terms while reinforcing a life skill of giving as a pleasure.

 


Bianca

Whimsy & Reverie ~ Fairies Delight

Tuesday, April 12, 2016 by  

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Our darling last year at the renowned     New York Renaissance Faire (left).

 

 

 

 

 

 

For this year’s faire, she knew exactly what she was looking for in a gown…

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For over 38 years, fairies & fellows, princesses & knights alike have gathered throughout 65 acres of Sterling Forest, Tuxedo, NY to celebrate the Elizabethan era at the Renaissance Faire!

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We went again this year with family & friends. Our 10-year-old told us this is her favorite summer tradition, now several years running.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From dragon rides…

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…to cuddling baby dragons, there’s an adventure around every corner.

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If you love acrobats & magic, sword fights & jousting, this is definitely the place for you.

With 20 stages and over 100 shops, there is something for everyone, young or seasoned.

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Our Darling played the flute for the Woodland Fairy, the Acorn Fairy, the harpist and the Queen.

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Armor and headdress for every age…

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…thundering horses and overflowing … overflowing…well, simply overflowing…!!!…

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bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – For swashbuckling pirates, jousting, boating on the lake or dancing around the Maypole, be sure to visit a Renaissance Faire near you, so magical, indeed!

I’m looking forward to seeing what our Darling picks out for her dress next year.

 

 

 

 

Sweet Acorn Fairy kisses farewell till then…

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Bianca

An Excellent Santa

Thursday, December 24, 2015 by  

Daddy, Bianca Tyler & Daddy, Missing you, Daddy, Happy Father's Day in Heaven (1)This is part of the memorial engraved at my beloved Father’s resting site.

We miss you, Daddy!

You will best be remembered as a family man, kind-hearted, determined, giving, vibrant, proud, fearless, dynamic, a visionary, and entrepreneur. A loving husband, a true patriot, a mentor & motivator.

An amazing storyteller, an excellent Santa, a funny Daddy & math genius. 

You were charismatic, creative, incredible and tough but fair.

 But most of all you were larger than life! 

God needed you and we thank Him for making you our Daddy!

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To read all about my father’s story & see one of my *favorite pictorials*, click here:http://theletstalkmom.com/tea-talk-momversations/daddy/

Daddy, Bianca Tyler & Daddy, Missing you, Daddy, Happy Father's Day in Heaven (3)The Bright SpotTM bright spot flower – Thanks for being such an excellent Santa, a man with great imagination, showing us fun sledding, skiing, boating, horseback riding, skating, bike riding, showing us how to work hard & spending time just chilling out with us, reading to us all the time, and most of all for just being such an amazing Daddy. My heart misses you so so much!! Love, me


Bianca

The Good, The Bad & The Spicy: Kicking Cancer

Wednesday, November 18, 2015 by  

A few days ago my husband was diagnosed with aggressive cancer of the prostate. The last time he heard the words “aggressive cancer,” his wife passed away 11 weeks later.

Understandably, we were terrified. We cried. We held each other. We prayed. We cried some more.

The next day, we pulled ourselves together and created a battle plan to conquer this assailant. We learned that over 220,000 cases are diagnosed each year and nearly 30,000 men die from it. It is the 2nd leading cause of cancer death in men.

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (3)By the grace of God, within 24 hours we found ourselves at Sloan Kettering, one of the best cancer hospitals in the world. We met with 6 doctors and learned a lot about what they called “Phillip’s uphill battle.” That day, the scans, MRIs, hematology specialist, surgical date, post treatment options and other specifics were organized. Hematologist because Phillip has a rare blood-clotting gene that makes surgery the least desirable option. Proton radiation so far looks best – we have much to learn in the near future.

It broke my heart. To imagine my husband in pain or suffering from surgery, chemo, radiation, it was just too much to bear.

For anyone who knows Phillip knows he is the kindest, most gentle-hearted, dependable man and I am so sad he has to endure this. He has been my rock all these years and now it is I who must be strong and steadfast for him. Together we will prevail.

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (8)We decided to face this “situation” with positivity and prayer. We decided to not use the dreaded c word but rather use words of encouragement and healing. We are using visualization to lay the foundation of a new path & healthy future.

We are looking at this as an opportunity to re-appreciate all the gifts in life – the colors of the leaves, the feel of our skin when we hold hands, the joy of singing in the car with our kids; routines that were so easily taken for granted over time suddenly became the most important things all week. He even became hotter…seriously, as if that were even possible for me, but with the reality that I could lose him, everything about him became that much more intense.

And we are giving great thanks! Thanks that a simple, unexpected blood test – that lead to a biopsy – caught this aggressive enemy when there were no signs. Thankful that we live near an acclaimed hospital specializing in this treatment, thankful for the doctors and nurses who will help my husband overcome this unwelcome intruder, thankful that today’s full-body bone scan will guide us in the direction we need, and, most definitely, we are thankful that we have an amazing support system in place:

These past days, good friends have stopped by to hug us, our Pastor drove to our home to pray with us, some folks brought wine, others shipped gift baskets, many sent messages of love and healthful wishes, one friend purchased a series of intense healing sessions for Phillip, friends picked up our daughter from school so we could get more tests done, one family came over Sunday morning to join us for breakfast and then worship with us at our church. All so amazing and so appreciated!

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, church, faith, belief, hope, joy (3)Our church, established nearly 300 years ago, supports many missions throughout our state and the world. This Sunday, they invited the men from Pivot House, recovering addicts who have found God, to sing.

They sang 1 song. Individual men sang different verses and it was so powerful that many in the pews were tearing up.

Phillip - Evensong 2aWith the emotionally-charged days leading to this moment & the barrage of information and advice hurled at him in a matter of days, Phillip says he felt this overwhelming feeling that the song was just for him straight from God. He knew he “was not alone.” All his thoughts cleared instantly and he knew we would find the course he would take to conquer this challenge.

He suddenly pulled out his phone and was able to record the last minute:

 
Phillip and I will continue to research treatment options. He has also decided to use this experience to empower other men who are going through this and give strength to their loved ones by writing about his journey, click: Phillip’s Journey. He will share his highs and lows on air as well, and keep his English chin up while continuing to use humor & laughter when he can…after all, that is the best medicine.

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The Bright Spot – With a positive attitude, belief in faith, our doctors and ourselves, we will overcome this challenge.

UPDATE: December 3, 2015

It’s been two weeks since the news and we are so appreciative to everyone who has reached out to us. Emails, Facebook, Twitter, voicemails, cards, phone calls, visits…we are so so incredibly grateful!!!

For the past 5 years, we have devoted our lives to helping others by bringing the public meaningful information to help empower relationships, finances, well-being, kids’ topics, etc. And now you all have been reaching out to us with love, prayers and advice on everything from proton radiation therapy, seed implants, hormone treatments, essaic tea, reishi, chaga extract, benefits of zinc,Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (11) magnets, conscious healing, aaah, yes, and even… coffee enemas.

We’ve made a spreadsheet of all of this information as we must find an alternative to surgery. Phillip’s blood-clotting gene, the fear of not sparing the nerves, removal of the prostate and glands, possible incontinence and loss of sexual function, all of these are not options we are willing to risk. So we’ve been reading a lot about proton radiation.

Having spoken to doctors at Sloan Kettering, Mt. Siani, Boston Scientific, and soon Yale’s Smilow Cancer Hospital, we are finding Proton radiation looks the most effective and promising. With costs of up to $200 million for these centers, there are not many in the country so we are thankful a Proton facility is relatively near us.

Our cutting out sugar, dairy & wheat over a year ago slowed Phillip’s cells’ growth & spread. Thank you, Dr. Werfel! – click link to find out how. More scans, MRIs, xrays, injections with radioactive chemicals, bloodwork, etc., are on the schedule for this month.

Have learned a lot these 10 days from all of YOU & the docs, putting that info into our CUREageous binder – all this knowledge is the battle tool to knock this out of the park once & for good! 

Amen to that!

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To read about Phillip’s experience, please visit his blog: https://phillsjourneyblog.wordpress.com/

Update: December 6, 2015

We went to Sloan Kettering December 5th with optimism & hopes of proton radiation therapy and left in tears. Positivity went straight out the window when they informed us that Phillip has the most aggressive stage of cancer and they weren’t looking for treatments to just cure it but to save his life in future. The doctor said, “Most men have low or medium stages of this. They can do the proton radiation and it will help them. You, unfortunately, have the aggressive stage. You need surgery followed potentially by chemo & radiation.”  It still all seems so strange – Phillip has NO symptoms! None. It was a blood test for something else that put this on the radar! Phillip wrote about how he felt today, click: Phill’s JourneySmile Roses

We had a rough day & then he came home the next day with a dozen roses to make sure I WAS DOING OKAY. Can you believe it!! I’m supposed to be the strong one for him and he’s making sure I’M fine.

We will find our strength and get through this. I can say this today. Good you didn’t ask me yesterday.

Update: December 9, 2015

We are seeking all routes to health & longevity for Phillip. We spoke this morning with medical medium, Anthony William, who agreed with the surgery option but also recommended melatonin (kills prostate cancer cells), zinc liquid concentrate to shut down further cancer growth, curcumin                                 anti-inflammatory/antioxidant, and B12 for nerve strength, recovery & regrowth.
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The Bright Spot – Yesterday, Maria Caporale came over with 2 pretty boxes, one for Phillip, one for me. She explained that in each was a “Giving Key” with a word engraved on it. Phillip’s said STRENGTH. Mine said BELIEVE. We are to embrace our word. Get through our crisis. Then pay it forward by giving our key to a person we feel needs the message more than we do in the future. Love love love the idea. If you know someone in need of hope, click: The Giving Keys. They employ people transitioning out of homelessness. Now that’s simply wonderful!!

Update: December 11, 2015

Happy couple, marriage, love, hugs, joy, husband, wife, couple (1)Quite honestly, let me say that 3 weeks ago I’d heard of the prostate but really didn’t know what its function was. When we heard Phillip’s case was such that it was best to remove it, the panic to keep my husband healthy set in and we both agreed if there’s cancer there, take it out!!

I thought it was like taking out the gall bladder. Or the spleen. Remove it. Move on.

Happy couple, kisses, hugs, love, husband, wifeBut the following day, our research journey began. The visits to hospitals. The scans, the scares, the radioactive chemicals, more scans. And tons of information. And the number one thing we kept hearing was “nerve-sparing.” Nerve-sparing.

So what exactly does that prostate do?

The urethra runs through the center of the prostate allowing urine to flow out of the body. And it secretes the fluid that protects and transfers the sperm. Ah ha! Oh, no!! This isn’t just an organ removal. This is a potentially life-transforming operation that affects both of us.

Happy couple, marriage, love, hugs, joy, husband, wife, couple (3)I didn’t want to sound selfish while we were going through all the fear of the unknown with this cancer.

But I am. We frolic a lot. Ah-lot. And I didn’t want to lose that. And I definitely don’t want him to lose it for himself.

So as we’ve taken this journey public with the goal of helping the other 220,000 men who are diagnosed with this each year, we’ve learned a lot about “nerve-sparing.” Yup, that’s the KEY! Spare those nerves – spare that activity. The other key is finding the surgeon who has the greatest success sparing those precious nerves.

Robotics have come a long way in the past few years to spare those nerves. Thank God for the men who undergo this surgery and for the women who love them.

Happy marriage, happy couple, love, joy, hugs, smiles, husband and wifeSo we spoke with Dr. Bob Berookhim, one of the nation’s leading physicians who specializes in the management of the after-effects of prostate cancer treatment, particularly with regard to urinary & sexual function. Dr. Berookhim, assistant professor of urology at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, discusses treatment options to help prostate cancer patients, nerve sparing and what that means for quality of life after surgery.

Happy couple, frolic, robust relationship (3)And the great news ~ I read that men can have an even more intense orgasm with the removal of the prostate and Dr. Berookhim confirmed this and talks in detail about how in this candid interview.

If you know any of the 220,000 men diagnosed with this or the women who love them, this show is loaded with information that will put your mind to rest.

For anyone too embarrassed to ask the questions really on your mind, we cover it all from orgasm to …!

With that said, may I point out that it is graphic medical content meant for adults, click the play arrow:

The above radio interview with Dr. Berookhim includes discussions about the Gleason score, PSA, robotics, nerve-sparing, surgeon selection, urinary incontinence, sexual recovery, seminal vesicles, orgasm, sperm, injection therapy, implants, hormone withdrawal therapy, proton beam radiation, etc. This show has been condensed from an hour to just 28 minutes to give you the most information in the shortest amount of time with all news, weather & commercials edited out for your convenience.
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Note: After airing, all radio programs are archived on this site and can be listened to on your cell phone and through your car system.

Update: December 14, 2015

Feeling so blessed by the outpouring of love by our friends. The Fruit bouquet, Edible Arrangements, fruit, bouquet, friends, loveSchaefers stopped over to bring delicious stew, veggies & poinsettia, Lorine Zdanowski drove from afar to deliver her homemade pumpkin pie & chicken soup with treats & a very special card, the Medina family worshiped with us at church & said we should make a covenant with God that when Phillip heals, we will do something meaningful & difficult in return, and Juan Carlos said he will shave his head when Phillip gets out of surgery safely because that is hard for him and he is praying to God to get his friend through. Thankful to the Pechmans for sending this beautiful fruit bouquet ~ deliciously perfect!!

Vitesse Worldwide, limo, limo serviceThank you to Kathy Colborn for offering for me to stay in her apartment in NYC for the overnights of the surgery & recovery, I’ll need that rest! And thank you to Bita & Shawn Abaspor for offering their Vitesse Worldwide car service to get into the City & eventually back home so we have no added stress. Last thing we need to think about…cars, parking garages, NYC traffic.

So grateful to the countless parents who have picked up our little one when we are at hospitals or preparing for the holidays. Everyone’s been sooo A-MAZING & we’ve received an astounding 1,000+ messages, emails, voicemails, texts ~ overwhelming support, so uplifting, so appreciated!! I will get back very soon!! Thank you all!!!!

Update: December 15, 2015

Bianca & Phillip, happy couple, happy marriage, Bianca and Phillip, love my husband, husband, wife, loveToday was a rough day for Phillip. He needed another full-body scan to determine if the cancer had spread to the bones, something this type likes to do. It was different than the other scan that left him radioactive for 24 hours – the hospital gave him papers in case police pulled him over – apparently, police can detect if a car is radioactive!! Scary and cool at the same time…

But today’s scan was in an ironlike encasement that covered his body except for an oval that left his eyes, nose and upper lip free. He had to lay on his hands, palms face down under his butt, elbows in, and then the metal encasement strapped him down to the table. He is not claustrophobic but he said during the hour it was tight, loud & very unnerving. Emotionally and physically draining. Then he had to do another scan. Still went to work after those hours. And later this evening, we headed to the radio station to do the show.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Today marks 1 month since the news. We’ve done so much research, seen so many doctors, spoken to emotional & spiritual healers, ordered holistic supplements, done interview specials, prayed and, on most days, advanced with positivity. God, I love this man. Please protect him.

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Update: December 17, 2015

Tomorrow we find out the results if the cancer has spread to the bones.

If it has, the surgery will be cancelled because that’s a whole different ballgame.

We have received much welcome feedback for going public with this to help empower the hundreds of thousands with this diagnosis.

We are so happy to help in this small way if it alleviates anyone else’s fears. Information is power & we are powering up to make this a success story of health & well being.

Thank you to our pastor’s wife. She gives me great comfort with her words of wisdom, power of prayer and her soothing voice. Peace. Comfort. I need that. I need it to stay strong for my husband.

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Update: December 18, 2015 

The results are in – the cancer has not spread, thank you, God!!!

Now preparing for the next phase…with our CURE-ageous angel from Michele Grace.

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Update: December 31, 2015 

This New Year’s Eve, we reflect on these 6 weeks with full hearts of thankfulness to all who have reached out to us. Most recently, thank you to Michelle & Sue Barra for mailing us the last of their Holy water to help heal Phillip. Sue received the Holy water from Lourdes, France 50 years ago! She had a few drops left and sent them immediately to Phillip. Amazing!!

Thank you to the Szele family for the Christmas Novena at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, D.C. and thank you toOwl Foundation (1), Canada, owls the Cunniffe family for their donation to The Owl Foundation in Phillip’s honor – love to hear about this kind of donation! Our little one named our special recuperating owl Amber for her beautiful eyes. Click their link above to find out more about this wonderful Canadian organization.St. Francis Breadline (3)

Thank you to Liz Irving who donated to The St. Francis Breadline where the Franciscan Friars will offer healing prayers for Phillip. “Hundreds of hungry people eat every morning” on the breadline at 135 West 31st Street in Manhattan since 1930. Please visit: The St. Francis Breadline

And thank you to Maira & her family for offering to have our little one stay over with them the days I’m in NYC at the hospital while our son (23) is home with our pets.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have learned about so many wonderful organizations through our challenging 6-week journey. As scary as it’s been for us, it, too, has been a blessing.

Update: January 1, 2016 

The decision has been made.

After much research, many physicians, interviews & recommendations, Dr. Karim Touijer of Sloan Kettering is our choice for Phillip.Dr. Touijer Specializing in genitourinary cancers, Dr. Touijer is an expert at nerve sparing and has performed more than 1,500 prostate surgeries over 23 years.

We are confident we have the best surgeon for Phillip and will pray for his wisdom and steady hands.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have just been informed that Sloan Kettering has a brand new hospital where I am allowed to stay in Phillip’s room overnight! No closing visiting hours! I can sleep in the room. Thank God! (Thank you, dear Kathy Colborn for your earlier offer.) This hospital is so new many of the staff members we’ve met haven’t even visited it yet. Wow!

This is Sloan Kettering’s website if you need more information: MSKCC

Update: January 13, 2016 

I loved this from my husband’s blog so I thought I’d let him tell you in his own words: 

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2 Popes & a Nun

Phillip: “Today is the eve of my surgery and I am totally at peace with where I am on this journey. That’s because of each and every person who has contacted my wife & me has not only sent prayers and wishes, but have gone above and beyond in their outreach.

Just this last week, 3 people stunned me. Holly called to let us know that she’s been praying continuously and asking her great cousin to help as he’s been in Heaven since 1958. When we asked why him in particular, she replied “Oh! Did I never tell you? My great cousin was Pope Pius XII.”  While reeling from that phone call, the phone rang again. One of my wife’s oldest friends called to see us as she had something special for us. She informed us that she was given a gift by a close friend of hers who was one of the nuns from the Missionaries of Charity, the congregation founded by Mother Teresa. This gift was a small piece of cloth containing Mother Teresa’s blood and she wanted us to pray over it! I thought Wow! this is getting heavy and then…. Lorine emailed to let us know that she’d just returned from a vacation in Italy, and while she was there she went to Rome to light a candle for me, and who do you think was conducting the service?… Pope Francis! Whoa! Extra prayers were lifted up that day.

So I have 2 Popes and a soon-to-be canonized Saint putting in a good word for me! Now I know why I’m feeling so peaceful and ready to take this on full steam ahead.”

Inspiration…

We just received a card from one of our daughter’s teachers. Inside it she had written half a dozen inspirational quotes. Each one has significance, but moreover, she had put so much thought into the message she was sending. Thank you so much, Mrs. Z:

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

“Feed Your Faith and Your Fears Will Starve to Death.” – Anonymous

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Turn your face toward the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.” – Maori Proverb

“Become a possibilitarian.  No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities – always see them, for they’re always there.”  – Norman Vincent Peale

“Know, then, whatever cheerful and serene supports the mind supports the body, too.” –  John Armstrong

WARNING: GRAPHIC IMAGES AHEAD

Update: January 14, 2016 Us 2 

3:45am the alarm clock sounds. It’s the morning of the surgery. As much as Phillip is at peace right now (see Update: January 13 above), I am a walking ball of nerves right now. I’m trying to put on a serene, happy face for him but inside I’m hit with waves of nausea as we prepare to head into the City. I still can’t get my head around the speed with which we found out the news just a few weeks ago and now my husband was about to lose a body part.

UsThis cancer has been referred to as a “couple’s ailment.” The outcome will affect both of us. Following a successful surgery & recovery, rehabilitation of urinary & sexual function will take place. How many nerves can be spared? All, some, half, none? Then depending on the pathology results we receive in 10 days, protocol for radiation and chemo/HRT will be determined. The surgery is part 1 of a 3-part process.

With that said, we still need to get through today. 3:45am Phillip takes the 2nd of a special shower with Hibiclens – an antibacterial soap to protect his body from infection. The car service arrives at 4:50am. Thank you again, Shawn & Bita of Vitesse Worldwide, and for the return trip home when that day came.

Phillip was pretty chipper in the car as we held hands Buildingand made small talk. It was dark and cold and started to snow. When the car swung into the hospital’s drop-off area, we stepped out into the cold and looked at the huge
sign before us. Cancer Center. Phillip turned to me. My ever-strong-rock whispered to me, “Why are we here? I can’t believe we are here.” He looked pale and I knew he was just trying to be strong for me all the time but inside he must be reeling. My heart ached for him and I wanted to burst into tears. But I put my hand in his hand and told him all would be well. I prayed to Building signGod quietly on the way inside.

I still felt nauseous. The greeters were very kind and took us to the 3rd floor where we were met by more very pleasant people. Phillip signed in as I stood silently behind him, tears rolling down my face. The woman came from around the desk and hugged me tightly. Everyone from start to finish at Sloan was incredibly nice.

Sloan Kettering’s new hospital just opened January 1st, 2016. Each patient,Board Tracker nurse, caregiver & visitor has a color-coded tracker. It lets the family member know where the patient is on a large electronic board like an airport flight board – pre-op, in surgery, surgery finished, recovery room, etc. It lets the hospital know exactly where the family members are in the hospital at any time. And whenever the nurse walks into the room, his/her name & title appears on the monitor directly in front of the bed announcing: Sue Smith, head nurse has entered your room.

Phillip is only the 11th patient in this room. Everything is so modern and beautiful and futuristic.

After pre-op procedures are taken care of and the “what if” papers are signed – Health Care Proxy – in case things don’t go as expected and decisions have to be made, God forbid, Phillip was ready for the OR. He kissed me gently and said, “I love you,” as the elevator door shut and the wait began.

I thought I could do this on my own, but I found out that I couldn’t.

I was looking out of the huge window and it was still dark outside. I saw my reflection and he was no longer next to me. I burst into tears and called my friend, Jade Albert, who was on standby in case I fell apart. She said she’d be right there. Would take her 30 minutes to get across town but she was on her way. Then I called my sister and Pastor Jacky. That helped a lot. A very kind cleaning lady found me upset and gave me a ton of hugs and a box of tissues. Sloan Kettering’s tissue boxes are Tiffany colored. We laughed about that and it lifted my spirits. She was such a nice woman! She checked on me during different hours when she was back on that floor.

My husband was in surgery for over 6.5 hours. (These top 3 photos are stock. The bottom 2 are Phillip’s tube & incisions) The body is filled with gas for surgery.

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Phillip had asked the medical team to pray before they knocked him out. They all immediately swooped around him as he asked God to protect them & guide them as they healed him. He said the experience was really overwhelming and he was so touched. Phillip described the bright lights of the sterile operating room & the hectic preparations underway to stay on schedule and when it was announced that this patient had requested prayer before surgery on the paperwork, he said everything suddenly came to a halt and he was surrounded by great people who bowed their heads in silence as he prayed for them. His eyes well up when he describes this beautiful moment. Later in recovery, one of the doctors said they had never done that before & that everyone said how much they liked it & he hoped they will do that more in the future.

Prostate pic 5I later found out the operating table is tilted and the surgery involves 6 incisions and a drainage tube. I spent much of my time pacing back to the large electronic board hoping to see the green check mark under Surgery Finishedtubea (3)

When it finally blinked into its square, I knew the love of my life was out of danger and in recovery. I could finally breathe.

Thank you to everyone who has said prayers. God heard you!

Us 3The cancer was very aggressive & Phillip has an uphill battle but is facing it with positivity & faith! To all those who have said to us these past 6 challenging weeks, “Oh, be glad it’s JUST prostate cancer,” you wouldn’t want it, tubes out of the stomach & all, radiation & chemo.

I’m just pointing out, if someone tells you in future, please be sensitive. It’s scary.
Later that evening, Jennifer Wilkov came to the hospital with dinner for me. She told us something that will stick with me forever and I’d like to share it with you now. She said when people offer to help, allow them. For if you say no, they do not have the opportunity to do something that makes them feel good. She said it stops the “universe of community” that we are all a part of right in its tracks. She believes we all have the urge to help others and we shouldn’t deny that good feeling for others. People stand helpless watching another suffer. So accept with grace and gratitude. Wow! I’ve decided to say yes more often and not feel I need to handle so much of this on my own. Jen was 100% right. The smiles on people’s faces when they help makes me smile. The help they offered gives us comfort. It makes everyone feel good. The giver & the receiver.

So to all who have prayed, to all who have sent well wishes, to all who have cared, to all who have thought about us and sent positive vibes of healing Phillip’s way, to all who have brought sustenance, to all who have treated our little one, to all who have embraced our older one, to all who have lit a candle, to all who have phoned, tweeted, posted, private messaged, snail-mailed, voicemailed & emailed, I say to you thank you, thank you, thank you!!

You have been the force that has lifted Phillip & me through our darkest hours. God sees all.

BedThankfully, I was able to sleep by my love all night holding his hand. Phillip describes it best, click: Phillip’s Journey

Phillip wanted to be the “Poster child of Recovery” & he certainly earns the title ~ even his surgeon was pleasantly surprised to see how well he was that night after his early morning surgery. He’s recuperating so well one friend wrote, “In a war, you’d be the guy I’d be standing next to in the trenches.”

And he certainly hasn’t lost his humor when he proudly declared everyone could see his wedding tackle when nurses were changing his dressing & the curtain flew open!

He has 2 – 3 weeks of recovery at home, no lifting of more than a milk carton for 2 months, the urethra that ran through the prostate has now been “restitched” to the bladder and straining can tear the stitches. Ewww. And the catheter will be removed in about 10 days. It is at that time he will take what’s been coined “The Challenge.” A dose of meds to see if nerves were spared enough to rise to the occasion. If so, certain exercises & a fellow’s fine imagination will help such future situations without meds. Early signs of stirrings have uplifted us; we are happy Dr. Touijer was able to spare a good deal of Phillip’s nerves and are confident his road to recovery will be swift & exciting.

Rest, love and positive thinking will speed recovery so we can face the next hurdle.

Thank you to our amazing son for keeping everything running smoothly while we were in the hospital – from our furbabies to grocery shopping to boring household stuff & more.

Thank you to my sister & little niece for their unending support and beautiful comfort teddy & fruit basket – the perfect gift at 3am when20160116_141841 20160116_142841 I’m reaching for pain meds and some quick sticks of healthy food to line his stomach.

Thank you to Maira & her kids for having our darling stay with them those first 3 critical days. It meant more than most people know because I have never been away from our daughter more than 2 days in 10 years except once when I was needed far from home.

She had a marvelous triple sleepover and I was able to focus only on Phillip. My mind & heart were completely at ease. We are grateful to Maira for everything she did to ensure our little one stayed in routine with school, activities and all the extras to make this a sleepover to remember. And thank you to Marlene, Lisa & Kerrie for having our little one sleep over till the 5th night so I could focus on Phillip’s
1 (2)arecuperation. I took Jen’s advice & didn’t feel awkward when I asked Lisa for a favor and big thanks to Kerrie for making a lovely chicken soup!

Bravo to Juan Carlos for upholding his covenant with God that he would shave his head when Phillip came out of surgery successfully. I know it was hard – you are a good man – and thank you to your family for bringing groceries, so kind! Thank you to the Schaefer family for dinners, groceries & treats – thrice!

“THERE ARE SO MANY MEN WHO SUFFER IN SILENCE”

The morning after the surgery, Dr. Touijer visited again. He said he read this blog story about our journey. “I heard the radio interview. You ask a lot of questions people are afraid to ask. You have information that can really help people. There are so many men who suffer in silence.”

Dr. Touijer 2It made me tear up. It still does. When I think of that last sentence above, I well up knowing some men are going through this alone or are afraid to speak to others. From the day we came home, people have been reaching out to us for more information. We are very happy to offer anything we have learned on this frightening 7-week journey so far and all we will learn in the coming months.

Dr. Touijer was a great listener and a top-notch surgeon. He eased many of our fears. So important.

a (1)Today is January 17th, just 3 days after surgery and Phillip’s upright and looking good. So grateful!

As previously mentioned, this cancer has been referred to as a “couple’s ailment” because it affects both the man and the woman who loves him. Of course, after saving the man’s life by making him cancer free, the sparing of the nerves is vital for sexual function. One doctor told Phillip his quality of life (urinary or sexual function) is not of concern to him, only making him cancer free, and that he could basically kiss his sex life goodbye for the next few years. Hummm. See ya!!!

Dr. Touijer spared a great deal of Phillip’s nerves, we are so grateful. When the time is right, Phillip will be back on his game. On top of physical healing, the emotional healing has to begin. I’ve encouraged him to look at racy photos.  “It’s for recovery & health,” I point out. After all, Dr. Berookhim states in the radio interview above that orgasms are between the ears. Men have to “think” these good thoughts. For Phillip, stirrings are already in the works. Yay! No pressure, of course, but hallelujah all the same!

For some men, they don’t have a partner. One man we know, his wife died shortly before being diagnosed. We’ve learned from him and from previous prostate cancer patients and doctors, it’s the old adage – Use it or lose it. Taking things in their own hands, no pun intended, would be a start. There are also many other methods from medication, injections, implants and more. But with nerves spared, positive thinking & proactive joy is the way to go ~ yeah, that’s where I come in.

1 (1)More to come as we gather further information on this journey. I thank the people who have reached out for specific prostate cancer info – you know who you are – and we will help any way we can.

As I have said before, we’ve taken this public because if this information can help alleviate anyone else’s fears, Phillip & I are glad we can help in this small way.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – All of YOU!!! Thank you all for your prayers, hope & generosity. So grateful.

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Update: January 16, 2016 In bed - black shirt

One of the nurses said as we were preparing to leave the hospital “…and there’s no sex allowed while the catheter is in place.”
Eww!! “HOW is that EVEN possible!” I asked. “You’d be amazed at who lands in the ER & what we see,” said the nurse. Double ewww!

Phillip will be home 2 – 3 weeks. He has to walk a little each day to prevent clotting & increase lung function. He’ll have his catheter for 10 days & said to me this morning, “I’d love to go to the store & ask the shoe clerk if he has a pair that will match my bag.” Nice. Good to know he hasn’t lost that dry English humor!

Update: January 18, 2016 

IMG_1499bGlad to say he made it downstairs for dinner although it hurts to sit. He says there’s an aching feeling when he sits. Come to find out he’s sitting on the catheter tube. We pictured it running through the urethra & taking a 90 degree turn up to the bladder. But noooooo. It runs along the perineum so every time my dear husband sits down, it squashes the tube. Owww. Only laying down or standing up is tolerable so he’s mostly in bed. How does the catheter tube stay in the bladder? It’s injected with a fluid that fills a balloon inside of the bladder so it can’t slip out.
Robotics 2A pin cushion just last week, upright & moving this week! Fascinating how positivity & prayer can lift one’s spirits and heal the body. He has to walk a little everyday & it’s freezing out so he walks around the house. He woke up a while ago & looked in the mirror, “Why do I Glittering ornamenthave sparkles on my forehead??” I replied, “Remember when we were walking through the playroom & you hit your head on the ornament?” With these whirlwind 7 weeks, I haven’t moved a single holiday ornament.

Glad his stomach is clear of the gas they pumped in him; really, one of the most painful parts of recovery.

Update: January 22, 2016 

The catheter stays in around 10 days. With Phillip’s phenomenal recovery, the catheter was removed on the 8th day. So why are WE BOTH ON CIPRO?? The 2 weeks leading up to surgery I took advantage of him every day. We didn’t know how long until we’d be intimate again following surgery so I didn’t waste a moment. But I ended up with a UTI, 1st one in 15 years, well worth it. Enter…Cipro. Meanwhile, Phillip is required to take Cipro before & during the days of the catheter removal. Weird, we’re on this same strong prescription at the same time!

Catheter removal day (8)aI drove us into the City to have the removal done and sitting in the car was definitely uncomfortable for Phillip, a person who never complains. But just before the Triboro Bridge, I had to slam on the brakes and Phillip slid forward. Oww!! A “perineum roll!” He turned pale and groaned out loud, reclining his seat as far as it would go and counting the minutes till this foreign thing was out of his body. Poor fellow!

Update: January 23, 2016 

ICoucht was so nice to see Phillip resting downstairs with us in his big cozy robe watching the snow fall during the blizzard. Thank you to Michele and CJ who just called to say they ordered a plow service to plow our driveway!! Kathy Bauer BasketAnd thank you to Kathy for her beautiful basket of organic fruits, a big surprise & most welcome especially on a snowy weekend ~ smoothies, anyone!!

I would also like to take a moment to thank my amazing husband for surprising me the Saturday before his big surgery – he painted the entire kitchen for me while I was out gathering medical supplies & loads of prescriptions and all the stuff he needed for this recovery & other errands I knew I wouldn’t be able to do once we were housebound for a few weeks. Every time I walk into the kitchen, I think of his thoughtfulness during such a trying time in his life. That’s my Phillip. Always thinking of others before himself.

Update: January 24, 2016

Because of stitches inside, outside and all over the place, Phillip cannot bend down. I’veIn bed - blue shirt been helping him with everything, even scratching his ankle when he couldn’t reach an itch. I know this dependency weighs heavily on my Mr. Dependable. Last night, I heard him cry out & raced upstairs to find him clinging to our bureau. “What did you do!” I chided, seeing the agony on his face. “I tried to put on my own pj pants. I don’t want you to have to do everything.”

Oh, brother. Now he’s back in bed having pulled out his back & strained his stomach. But that doesn’t mean healing will slow down. Part of the recovery process is in the mind. I hand Phillip his IPad everyday. “You have homework to do. Look up some racy pictures.” Yup, that’s why he’s looking healthier day by day…and I’m not even a trained nurse! 😉

Indeed, his overall recovery is well underway & all of your wishes helped speed this on. My sister is in touch constantly & Phillip’s mother Skypes him every day: Amazing Grace.

I’m beyond tired and want to give huge thanks to Ana & Regina for showing up on our doorstep Thursday evening with a hot meal in hand. Ana had just read about Phillip that day and ran to the grocery store and cooked a fantastic Mexican dinner. Thursday was a particularly Basket & wine (2)cudraining day and when she rang the bell at 6pm, it was like an angel appeared at the door. We ate that meal for dinner, Friday for lunch and Saturday during the blizzard!! And blessings to the Lindstrom family for all you’ve done for us and thanks, Wayne & Marshall, for your generous fruit basket & to everyone at Phillip’s workplace, your healing vibes are much appreciated!

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have a wonderful support system and are sending oodles of hugs to everyone with gratitude!

Update: January 28, 2016 

“The Challenge”

Recovery (3) “The Challenge” comes about 4 – 6 days after the catheter is finally removed. Prescribed medsRecovery (1) increase blood flow to the nerves that were spared and, in our case, we also choose to continue to take B12 which Muneeza Ahmed of Healthy Moon recommended for nerve strength, nerve recovery & nerve regrowth. (See December 9th update above).

We knew our day would be January 28th. The medication would have reached their prime function and the kids would be out of the house!

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I wanted the day to be super special. Quiet. Relaxed. Beautiful. I found a gorgeous silk nightgown at Victoria Secret with lace & sequins.

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Phillip was geared up in a completely different way. He had it up to his eyeballs with quiet & relaxed. Crown from Maria C. (2)bHe was psyched, eager and wore the fun crown Maria Caporale sent him in the mail the night before!

That familiar “come hither” confidence was the Phillip I love and know so well.

But I was concerned about pressing on his wounds. Would he be comfortable? Would he bend in a weird way and pull on his outside stitches? Would the inside stitches suddenly tear?

All these things were running through my mind and I was full of worry. For Heaven’s sake, he was lying in bed peacefully for nearly 14 days, I didn’t want to suddenly cause chaos.

Plus, I knew intimacy would be different. That’s all I kept hearing. Orgasm would be different. But what did that mean? I’d ask doctors, nurses, former patients, but just hear it would be different.

Phillip must have sensed me fretting. He pulled me close, kissed me passionately and from there, it was like old times. An exciting dose of Afternoon Delight…

Return of the Mojo!!

“The Challenge” was conquered and, in the end, all I can say about the “finale” is that it’s different. A robust response, but different.

Phillip described that it’s just as toe-curling & heart-pounding as before but instead of being more localized, it was all-consuming & uniquely exceptional. Cool! We’ll take it!

We were thrilled and relieved and talked about it later that day. He said he was concerned that reaching climax without the love flow – if you get my drift – would not be as satisfying. But he said it was, indeed, just as satisfying. Good for any fellow going through this to know.

And for me, I was kind of melancholy that I’d never feel his gift surprising me throughout my day any more – ladies, you know what I mean. But I’ll just focus on the bonus: fewer sheets to wash. Enough said.

P&B in bed January 31, 2016 (1)aLater, we reveled in our day & snuggled through our evening.

Then the phone rang.

It was the surgeon.

He asked about urinary function, which for some men can take a few months. Phillip was proud to announce that he was back to full function – to which the doctor rejoiced that this puts Phillip in the top 5% of successful patient recovery! Thank you, Dr. Touijer!!

Then he hit us with the news of the pathology results.

The cancer had broken through the wall of the prostate. Three nodes showed positive for cancer. The doctor says there’s a 70% possibility of recurrence of cancer in the future within this group. A post-surgery prostate-specific antigen test on February 24th will help determine if the cancer is “in transit,” or if the nodes were the last stop. So radiation and chemo are still on the table. Phillip said, “At least we don’t have to worry about losing my hair with the chemo.”

The surgeon continued that the tests on the 24th might be too soon after surgery so he may run them again the following week. Then he talked to us about our experience with “The Challenge.” We gave him a rundown and he said, “That’s what we’re shooting for.”

“No pun intended,” I added cheekily.

Dr. Touijer 3“You two are something else,” he said, more lightheartedly. I could hear the relief in his voice. It must be such a drain on the doctor to deliver unhappy or uncertain news.

The Bright Spotbright spot flower – Having a brilliant surgeon on our side, thank you, Dr. Touijer. The last 8 weeks have been an emotional roller coaster but today, in particular, we were at the highest peak. One moment we were flying high feeling the love between us and later that evening – *BAM!* –  we were dropping at nauseating speeds hearing the pathology results.

But we will remain hopeful & humorous to get us through this.

You know, after we cry.

Update: January 31, 2016

P&B - La Cremaillare January 31, 2016 51yo (12)Hop on that emotional roller coaster again because we’re clinketing back up to the top. Yeah, clinketing is not a word. But you can picture it…clinkclinkclinkclinkclink up the incline.

It’s my birthday and a beautiful family breakfast starts the day. Followed by amazing gifts  – amazing because Phillip never left the bed – thank you, Internet, UPS & our clever son! After, the doorbell rang and the Medinas brought over another yummy homecooked meal – this time eggplant parmesan, creamy cauliflower casserole with sautéed green beans & carrots.

And then later that day, Phillip got dressed and we drove 50 seconds around the corner from our home for a lovely birthday dinner – how convenient to have a renowned 5-star French restaurant less than a minute away! Thank you, Lisa Traweek, for making it extra special!

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We returned home and he went straight back to bed. He looked really weary by the end of the meal.

The Bright Spot – He was up. He was dressed. He was out. Best. Gift. Ever. Top of the rollercoaster hill!

Update: February 2, 2016

The Revelation!

The week of Phillip’s surgery we both still could not believe he was diagnosed with cancer. He felt great. He looked great. We eat well. We live a clean lifestyle. Just couldn’t get our heads around it. So he decided to have blood work done one more time before going under the knife.

He went to our local hospital. The results came back the day before his surgery. Do you know what came back on the paperwork???

The reading that did, indeed, confirm his aggressive state of antigen level BUT ALSO a past reading that showed he had blood work taken for a physical in December 2012 that showed a bad elevated level of the antigen that said “HIGH” next to it!!

He’s had cancer for 3 years!! And the doctor never told him!!

Phillip might have been able to have had seed therapy or proton beam radiation or any of the other non-invasive treatments we hear everyone else is having and be done with it!

But no!! The doctor, who has since retired, never told Phillip he had cancer and now an organ has been ripped out & his body parts rewired! Not to mention his potential to have lost quality of life with regard to urinary & sexual function, but on top of it, we’ve just received the news that the cancer broke out of the “prostate shell” and moved into the nodes. Those old blood results & now the recent pathology results are a real kick in the gut. But with that said, we will collect ourselves & move forth with a brave face.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Lots of people write to me and ask how we keep upbeat.

It’s simple: God, family & friends, positivity and love. 

Every single ounce of my optimism comes from my greatest hero, click: My Hero

Update: February 3, 2016

Our “Story”

I’d like to make it known that this disease is not our “story.” We will not allow it to take us over & defeat us. No. Our “story” is that of faith & positivity ~ facing fear from a place of hope, rising up no matter what anguish we feel and tackling it head on with the force of God, family & friends around us.

Fern's Card to Phillip-section 1Our “story” is not one where we fall victim to the malignant cells but a story of triumphs with a billion healthy cells that stem from optimism & courage & promise.

Fern's Card to Phillip-section 2

I wanted to share with you parts of a card that arrived in the mail this week from a woman who read this blog story & contacted us. This is the whole point of why we took our journey public. We want to offer anyone going through this information we’ve gleaned: resources, links, interviews, insight, steps in the process, and most of all, comfort.

Eyes cu1It’s not been easy for us. We’ve had our moments. My eyes cried a river when I first heard the news of my dear husband a few  weeks ago. Knowing what his first wife went through and how he lost her so quickly to disease makes fighting for his health all the more real to us.

So, let’s look at the positive, shall we…it’s over 3 weeks since Phillip’s surgery and he’s looking better every day.

Friends continue to stop by – including the mighty Medina family who trudged through the snow today to bring over hot lentil soup.Food 1 Thank you, Joanna, for braving the fog with your incredible chicken marsala & thank you, Kerrie, for the amazing veggie lasagna. Thank you, Susan, for your thoughtful altar of intention & recovery and for all of the energy healings with Bonnie. Alter for Phillip by SusanThank you to Pastor Chuck for visiting many times – before & after surgery – to pray with us. And dear Geri, we really appreciated all the treats & goodies for Super Bowl Sunday and especially the lovely pink tulips!Flowers (2)Food 2 (1)

I swear, I should open a food review blog – I am getting so spoiled! But in reality, not worrying about cooking has given me the physical & emotional fortitude to care for Phillip. He looks marvelous and it’s really because of our Army of Friends.

I did read back in December from a Sloan patient who’s gone through this – people you think you could count on in this situation may not be there for you and other folks – even acquaintances you barely know – come out in full force to make sure you are okay. Phillip & I would have never believed it until we experienced it. Amy Boettcher, whom I’ve never met, has sent me tons of information, links & advice having experienced that not having that information took her husband and she’s doing her best to help save mine. A-MAZING!! And Sue Peters, who I haven’t seen in nearly a decade, has been a huge source of my strength especially on the long day of surgery when she stayed on the phone with me during some of my weakest moments, guiding me having been through something similar, and she has unwaveringly texted solid advice throughout all these weeks giving great comfort – she is one Warrrior Woman, that’s for sure! You’d be amazed who’s come to the rescue and a few we hold dear who are no where to be seen.

I’m not upset about it. I’m interested in the human nature of it. Perhaps disease makes them uneasy. Perhaps they, too, have had significant loss and can’t bear to see someone they’ve known for years go through pain. I’m passing along our experience so if you go through it, too, you can look back and say, “Oh, yeah, I read that somewhere, and it’s okay.” Don’t worry, it IS okay.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Count the blessings you have. Keep the faith. Move forth with knowledge & confidence. Focus on the good.

Update: February 4, 2016

Princess Leia goes to school. Yes, between recovery nursing & running house, I twirl hair.

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Update: February 15, 2016

Interestingly, the 3 people I was writing about above who I thought I could count on have called. It was, indeed, as I had thought. They had issues they had to deal with. Never feel badly if someone you really thought should reach out didn’t because you just don’t know what they’re going through. Just focus on your healing.

Healing 2With that said, Phillip’s recovery is going remarkably well! I can’t believe his surgery was already more than a month ago. His wounds are healing and his tummy hair is growing back. He has pangs, twinges & aches but they are getting better day by day. My “therapy” with sexual recovery continues…yup, that’s always a good day! For some reason, he doesn’t feel pangs and twinges those days!

He can’t lift anything over 10 pounds for 2 months. But something has happened because he now has a hernia! He can’t have another surgery at this time, obviously, so he is being monitored. We are back in Sloan on February 24th for further tests to determine radiation & chemo protocol.

Upright week 5We’ve learned through all this it’s a process. Just one step at a time…

Update: February 21, 2016

Just when I think I should cool it on my exposé of personal details, I am reminded why I feel compelled to help others with this step-by-step account. I have received countless letters/emails that it has helped people go from “paralyzing fear to forward motion.” Just last night, an old dear friend of mine from Texas, Trish, sent me a Facebook private message, this was part of it:

“I was at a Girl Scout meeting today and one of the moms told me her husband was just diagnosed with prostate cancer. I told her about your web page and that it will answer many questions. Her eyes watered up and I could see a sigh of inner relief. I said Bianca and PhillipBirthday know exactly what you are going through and that is why they are sharing their story. So thank you, know you are helping others by sharing your story.”

And then I received an email from a woman named Rosalind who wrote: “You are an inspiration to so many as you traverse this challenging course. You are making a real difference in others’ lives by sharing your story so candidly.”

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – During Pastor Nathan’s sermon this morning, he spoke of today’s culture which revolves so much around the notion of “me me me.” He said look around you and help others while worshiping God. That’s what life is really all about.

I truly hope this journey will help so many other people to see their path a little clearer, begin their healing process and conquer the assailing cells with intention & certitude until total wellness abounds!

Update: February 24, 2016

Upright week 5 (1)Spent the whole day at Sloan between their buildings from 60th to 68th streets. It was pouring rain but that didn’t not dampen our spirits. Today was testing day.

It is so hard to believe it’s been 6 weeks since surgery! Hours later the results came in. Phillip & I thought it looked good but the doctor says it’s not where he wants it to be & has ordered further testing in 3 weeks & then again in 4 weeks. We are looking at the glass half full because the results are heading in the right direction. The doctor says he will not prescribe radiation and/or chemo until further test results come in next month. Okay. Good with that. So moving forth with positivity & faith.

Update: February 25, 2016Kelly & I

Phillip happened upon a post on Facebook on my computer today from my friend Kelly, loving wife & mother of 3. (Kelly & I over 27 years ago, what’s that? A pay phone….?)

Kelly’s post: “Yesterday I had a tough day. Today I praise my friend who I think about often. Her husband was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer. He was the picture of health!! Her ability to stay strong and soooo hopeful is so incredible. She never wavers on her faith in God & what He can do. She is his rock when I know inside her heart is crying. So it brings me back to reality. I say shut up Kelly and stop complaining. I know he’s going to resume his health with God on his side. You are one incredible woman and have taught me more than you know about faith and UNCONDITIONAL love!!!”

Thank you, Kelly, you are an amazing friend and have been with me through all of this. xo

Update: February 27, 2016

Angels-cuBita & Shawn, who gave us round trip car service to & from Sloan with Vitesse Worldwide, spoiled us tonight with a beautiful Persian feast along with authentic pistachio nougat, healing angels for us & the adorable Sweetheart angel for our little one. We are so grateful for all of our wonderful friends!!!

Update: February 28, 2016

Important message: Our journey has been documented to help anyone who has been diagnosed with prostate cancer know what the process is step by step. I am writing this as I learn it with the hopes it can help alleviate your fear.

With that said, it’s not just for the 220,000 men diagnosed each year. It’s not just for the partners who love them. I hope it also gives all of your friends & acquaintances who don’t know what to do or how to help some suggestions that have helped us along the way. And I hope it helps the caregiver. Fred, who lost his beloved wife, Mary, knows this best & wrote this to me:

“I am on a train to Washington, D.C. and I decided to go to your website and read all of your posts on the current story non-stop. I must say that reading it in its totality is so much more meaningful and moving. It makes for some very compelling (and scary) reading as you write each chapter in real time as it is happening.B&P - Captain & compass pic

You bare your mind and soul and leave nothing out including your love and intimacy with Phillip. Amazing! I wanted you to know that your thoughts, your feelings and your fears are shared more often than you know. Your love and trust in God is always evident in your writings. Your faith will get you through all of it and you will come out of it so much stronger regardless of the outcome. I know this is true. I am living proof.

Often all the attention is on the person who is afflicted with that horrible disease and sometimes the loving caregiver is unintentionally overlooked. I know what you are dealing with and will say a special prayer for you for being the “glue” in your family. My best friend said to me one day that he always knew that I was the captain of the ship in my marriage but never to forget that Mary was the compass. That is how I see your marriage and relationship with Phillip. You are the compass.”

Wow!!! I am looking forward to the day when Fred & I meet. He has been there Candle 3from Day 1 writing words of encouragement throughout this challenging time. Thank you, Fred!! And thank you for lighting candles here and in New Zealand. And to Lorine for lighting candles for Phillip in Italy, and Sonja in California and to George and Michelle and countless folks everywhere who have burned the flame of healing prayer for my husband. We are so appreciative!!

bright spot flowerThe Bright SpotAll of you!!

Update: February 29, 2016

Elise's boxAn enormous package sat in the glistening sunshine on our doorstep today as we drove up the driveway. It was from Elise in Texas (click for story: Elise) Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Bianca and Elise, best friends, girl network, friends forever, bff, friendship (7)(Right: 31 years ago Elise & I) She sent us each an amazing gift with a card that wished us a Happy Spring of Recovery & Wellness. The children received Godiva chocolate bunny & eggs, perfume for Little One, cologne for our son, and sexy nightgown, pjs & robes for Phillip & me.Dolce Perfume

Then the doorbell rang and another large package arrived, this time from Cath in England (click for story: Cath) Nearly 500 tea bags of Phillip’s favorite!! He was over the moon!!

(Below: Cath & I over 26 years ago)Cath & Me004

At night, the Pechman Family arrived with dinner & wine. Phillip loves his wine and catching up with this wonderful family was an evening cherished. Maira and her family gave me immeasurable comfort when I was with Phillip in the hospital for surgery & recovery by having our daughter stay with them those days so I could focus all my energies on Phillip. I will always be so grateful not only for the exciting time she spent with them but for the peace of mind they gave me at a very stressful time.

bright spot flower The Bright Spot – Our awesome friends!!! Love you!!

Update: March 1, 2016

Comfort ShawlToday we learned Phillip – who’s never had an allergy in his life! – is allergic to the medication injected into his body this morning. I have never seen my husband writhe in pain like that before. It was agony for him but excruciating for me as I sat helpless beside him. If only our prior doctor had told Phillip he had cancer 3 years ago, we could have had radiation at that point and been done with it. But now he suffers unnecessarily and it’s still a long road. Back to Sloan on Friday to try another medication.

The pain left him exhausted & drained. When we returned home, he rested while I got the mail. And what a surprise there was!!Comfort Shawl 4! A gorgeous comfort shawl crocheted by Annette O’Neill, Mom of Karen O’Neill Cross from high school! Mrs. O’Neill handmade it at the Cathedral Parish at St. Patrick’s Women’s Guild Prayer Shawl Ministry.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Oh, just everything about the 2nd half of this day! The time & effort by Mrs. O’Neill. The thoughtfulness of Karen to send it. The amazing timing of this gift arriving on a day when Phillip needed deep comfort. And my learning of yet another wonderful organization and a gorgeous way to bring Comfort Shawl (2)warmth & peace into someone else’s life. Wow! I needed to share this with everyone straightaway!

 

Update: March 8, 2016

Sweet, darling Gigi visits us for 12 days as my sister & niece head to California. (Gigi with a hair cut…all 5 pounds of her!)20160303_183647_resized-a

Gigi with haircut

 

 

 

 

Our 9-year-old niece was one of 2 children representing our state in the National Children’s Choir and we were very much looking forward to watching her perform.

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She was selected last October and we were all looking forward to this momentous family event. But the news of Phillip’s cancer the following month squashed those dreams for us. Choir 3He would be recovering from his surgery.

She sang beautifully in front of 2,000 people. Our cousins & friends in California went to the concert.

We watched it at home on video. Not the same but we were there in spirit.

Update: March 18, 2016

1 (1)Keeping our spirits up as we head to Sloan for more tests. Phillip had testing 3 weeks earlier but the results weren’t exactly where the surgeon wanted them to be so we waited for today’s testing.

Walked in with great positivity.

Phillip’s been looking so good just 2 months after surgery so we have full confidence his test levels will be right where the doctor needs them to be.

Waiting. Should be on the portal by 5 or 6pm.

Waiting all day Saturday. Should be up any time now.

Waiting…

Update: March 20, 2016

*Ping!* It’s Sunday morning, the test result has arrived. Opening the portal with great anticipation toHug - levels rise see his number has gone down, down, down. That’s the goal!

But no. It’s gone up. UP!!

As mentioned earlier, the cancer had broken out of the prostate and traveled into the nodes. Now we will see the surgeon in 2 days to determine the next course of action.

HAD our prior doctor 3 years earlier informed Phillip that his PSA level was HIGH, we could have attacked this cancer early with simple radiation and medication. HAD this doctor let us know then what we came to find out 3 years too late, we could have saved a body part. HAD this doctor done his job and told Phillip what his numbers were, we wouldn’t be on cancer schedules, medicine schedules, extended loss of time at work, missed once-in-a-lifetime family events, sexual recovery protocol, excruciating allergic reactions to chemicals pumped into Phillip’s body, upcoming radiation & HRT/chemo, crushing medical debt or fear of the future.

10 year old tries on Mom's wedding gown (1)Will it continue to run through his body, latch on some organ, take his life before his time? Will he see his grandchildren? Will he walk our little one down the aisle?(Here trying on my wedding gown at 10 years old.)

Of course, all this stuff goes through our minds. His especially.

He’s living with this in his body and it plays on the mind. No matter how much we move forth with positivity, it always lingers in the back of the mind. We are human.

It could have all been nipped in the bud! To say we are angry at that doctor from 3 years ago would be an understatement.

 

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We’ve got each other.

And we’ve got a great support network and want to give a shout out to the Mighty Medina Family for taking extreme action this week…you know why & we thank you!!

England, Britain, Great Britain, Grandma, English beauty, English skin, grandchildren (22)And a huge thank you to my mother-in-law who not only Skypes us constantly from England and is a wall of strength for us but for the incredible gift she just gave us – you are one remarkable woman!! Click: Amazing Grace for her story.

 

Update: March 21, 2016

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They’ve just wheeled Phillip into the OR for emergency throat surgery. He choked on his meal – that is the power of stress!

And this is why we try SO hard to focus on the positive because when an inch of stress moves in, it can be damaging.

Go away, stress!! We have the power of God behind us!!

Update at midnight:

His Schatzki muscle at the top of the esophagus was torn. He’s raw now along the esophagus & will be on soup and ice cream for a while.

So add pain meds to cancer meds. This man will heal with positivity – no doubt.

I just have to get him back to that place.

Update: March 22, 2016

Nothing would keep us from meeting with Dr. Touijer at Sloan today. The results on Sunday added to the misery of yesterday and today’s meeting with our surgeon will set the course of our future for Phillip. Sure enough, the doctor was not happy with Sunday’s results so Phillip will start radiation & HRT in 2-4 weeks. Can’t start sooner because his stitches are still healing these 10 weeks on. Racing off to school to pick up Little One. Always on the go these days…

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Our 10-year-old’s school is simply the most wonderful place ever, a tone set by her marvelous Principal Familywhom we admire.

Her 4 main teachers – Mrs. W, Mrs. Z, Mrs. Z & Mrs. C have all kept abreast with this journey and have reached out to us on numerous occasions to say they are keeping a watchful eye on our darling making sure she is as happy & content as always.

And Mrs. K in the Main Office is a Godsend. Always on it for me when I’m scrambling to keep all systems flowing.

It is always of the utmost importance to us that our son & daughter feel happy, comfortable & empowered throughout a journey we cannot shield them from.

Dad’s recuperating. Dad has a catheter over a week. Dad is in bed for 21 days. Dad’s tummy hurts.

We are proud of the strength and adoration they show their father.

They are a testament of his amazing parenting as the Superhero Daddy he is.

I love you, my dear husband!

Update: March 24, 2016

We really thought we were through our darkest hours on thisSloan visits (1) miserable journey. Today marks 10 weeks since the surgery. Phillip’s recovery has been nothing short of remarkable! He looks & feels stronger every day and hopes that even if he has to be zapped for 6 or 8 weeks with radiation, maybe he’ll be lucky and bypass the chemo/HRT.

Sloan visits (4)When we met with the surgeon on the 22nd, I was fishing for some positive news. Perhaps the test results we saw on the portal Sunday morning were not as bad as they looked. Perhaps going up was a fluke. Perhaps they were hovering around the other number and really were “stable.” “You’re really not happy with that number?” I asked, half-anticipatory. “No, I’m not happy with it,” the doctor said quietly. “I’d like you to meet with the oncologist on the 24th.” My heart sunk.

So today’s the 24th. What we hoped would be an hour meeting turned into 4 hours at Sloan. We met with the oncologist who explained, “You have a serious disease – aggressive Gleason 9 (4+5) prostate cancer at a young age and you are a high-risk patient because it broke out of the prostate membrane and traveled into your nodes. With the most aggressive cancer at a 10, you are a 9.”

(Photos of our many trips to Sloan including that horrific allergic-reaction-to-meds day:)Sloan visits (2)

She explained Salvage Radiation Therapy (SRT) in great detail – Phillip will need 40 rounds of radiation & up to 3 years of chemo injection (HRT) to reduce testosterone which exacerbates cancer.

Sloan visits (5)aSide effects include inflamed bladder & burning, bleeding, fatigue and potential damage to the critical neurovascular bundles responsible for carrying the signals that promote the flow of blood to the nether region for an erection. The HRT will destroy libido and potentially change his personality, otherwise described as male menopause. It could take up to another 2 years to recuperate after those 3 years and some men never recuperate.

Great. Just when we’ve been enjoying each other intimately again post surgery – B-A-M!!! – intimacy is the target once again. And this time it could be for years! We were devastated!Dec. 23, 2105 (2)

The oncologist talked about another full-body MRI to help determine where the cancer may have moved, but cautioned it may not be visible at this time. A body cast would be created of his pelvic area to ensure he always lays on the Truebeam Linear Accelerator in the exact same position for each radiation treatment. 4 Truebeamfreckle-sized tattoos would be permanently marked on his skin. The medicine would be injected under his rib cage and we were told 2 “golf balls” form under the ribs and release that medicine over each month.

Phillip & I couldn’t take it anymore. We thought the nightmare was behind us when he had the radical prostatectomy and blitzed through recovery on faith & positivity. But this was just too much. Too much!

Phillip asked the doctor what would happen if he opted out of Sloan visits (6)radiation & the meds. Her face dropped. She looked at him very seriously and turned to a computer screen. We could feel the gravity in the room. She pulled up a program that looked at cancer return rates in 6 years & life expectancy when Gleason Score, test numbers, age, etc., were inputted. With & without post treatment.

The results were bleak.

So as it stands, we are heading into the darkest & longest part of this journey.

…when all we really felt like doing was running away. We went home, ate some soup since that’s all Phillip can really eat because of the stress-caused impaction & surgery on Monday night, and then we just decompressed.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – The Schaefer family picked up our little one from school today and tomorrow they are heading into NYC with the girls to visit American Girl & the Hard Rock Cafe. Yes, Samantha dollie is going, too. The Rinaldi family brought homemade English “Luxury” Flapjacks – yum!!

Bravelet bracelet-r BraveletssTavis & Kelly surprised us with Bravelets! A delicate, feminine one for me and the perfect leather strap band Phillip likes to wear with the words: Be Brave. They came in gift pouches with an insert that read: Our mission is to help people be brave during hard times. Proceeds from these Bravelets were donated to the Prostate Cancer Foundation by Kelly & Tavis. Thank you so much!! If you’d like to help someone going through a challenging time, click here for more cool jewelry ideas by: Bravelets 

And many thanks to our sweet friend, Marji, who sent us this note: “My friend is leaving for Jerusalem in a few days. I sent a prayer for MarjiPhillip’s recovery and to many more years of blissful love for you both. She will put it in the Western wall. Here’s to a miracle.”

Wow!! We are so grateful for our family & friends!!

Update: April 8, 2016

Easter 2016 Phillip, darling, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com It took 2 days to get over the shock of March 24th.

But pulling ourselves together for this weekend was critical because Easter celebrations were the 27th & our daughter’s 11th birthdaybirthday Energy & FUN-cu was the right after that.

And what could be more invigorating than being uplifted in song with our congregation and then celebrating with excited kids!!

So Phillip & I kicked our misery to the curb and embraced all that’s great in life – family, friends, feasting & festivities! Easter 2016 Bianca & Phillip, Let's Talk Radio Mom, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com

A week of great memories were created and then reality set in again.

Phillip was tested again on April 6th.

The results showed his cancer is on the move, aggressive and his number is rising.

So this morning he underwent a 3rd full-body MRI – this time with IV contrast. Large plates were strapped to his thighs, pelvis and chest and his head was put into a V-block so it wouldn’t move at all. Another plate latched over his face with an opening from his eyebrows to his bottom lip. Then they sent him inside the torpedo tube for nearly 2 hours! My husband is not claustrophobic but he says the experience, the noise and the aching & cramping in that tightness is physically & emotionally draining and, most definitely, daunting. These scans will determine if the stray cancer cells have latched onto anything else like bone.

On the 12th, we’ll be back at Sloan where Phillip will receive 2 injections under his rib cage. Oww. Chemical therapy will begin the 12th. 40 rounds of radiation to follow. I love him, dear God. Please hear me. Please let Phillip keep being strong and positive. Please give him that strength. Please. Miracle of Lourdes-a

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Our friends Crazy Sexy Dietgive us amazing strength!!!! Michele just sent this Miracle of Healing in Phillip’s honor and the Lanese Family sent us these books & an awesome documentary by Kris Carr, click: Crazy Sexy Cancer to find out more about how this beautiful & resilient young Bianca & Phillip, Let's Talk Radiowoman deals with her incurable Stage 4 cancer & lives life to the fullest!!

It was the dose of positivity we needed as we head into these uncertain times.

Looking forward to health again like these carefree days not so long ago!

Update: April 12, 2016Sloan - golf-ball injection (1)cu

Left this morning for Sloan. Seriously, everything done at Sloan - golf-ball injection (3)Memorial Sloan Kettering is done beautifully, even their services like complimentary valet parking to make your life easier.

Great news about the MRI on Friday! The cancer is on the move but has not latched onto any bone – the 1st place drifting prostate cancer cells like to go.

Sloan - golf-ball injection (6)Sloan - golf-ball injection (9)Still waiting for the test results from today but we are in great spirits about the “no masses, no internal lesions, no latching” comments from the oncologist!

As the good news rushed over us like a flood of purifying water, Phillip prepared for his treatment. Yeah, he looks so hot to me even undressing for something so scary…but I had to quickly snap back to reality so we could get our heads in the moment for some deep breathing and hand holding to ease his pain.Sloan - golf-ball injection (28)cu

Phillip had the 2 injections in his abdomen on either side that turned red and inflamed & Sloan - golf-ball injection (21)cu Sloan - golf-ball injection (27)cuformed hard golf-ball sized pockets of medication that will drip into his body over the next month. More injections to come and still waiting on more results.

When we returned home hours lapolarter, a huge box sat on the front porch.

H-U-G-E!!Polar Bear polar bear sleeping bag sleeping bag Pottery Barn Pottery barn polar bear sleeping bag

A gorgeous, super plush, ivory white, poofy, snuggly, incredibly soft, Horse races, to the races, California, best friends, the let's talk Momhumongous Pottery Barn polar bear sleeping bag for Darling from one of my best friends since high school – Sonja in California!!

What a real pick-me-up for the day!! She just wanted to send a little comfort to her during Daddy’s bumpy journey.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Big thanks to Stephen Bennett for praying with us, thank you to his sister, Debbie, for the documentary & books above, thank you to Scott Davis for your daily prayer email, thank you to Denise for your novenas, thank you to Sonja for “Snowball” & thank you to Ray Pcolar for flying up from Florida just to visit with Phillip!!! All of these friends here I have been blessed to know over 30 years & marvel at the outpouring of support and action. All of our friends amaze me!! Thank you!! Thank you!!

Update: April 28, 2016

Ray, W & PhillipThis weekend, Ray visited from Orlando. Out of the country for a while, he booked a flight as soon as he found out about Phillip. So grateful for our friends! Spent yesterday at Sloan discussing the upcoming radiation protocol, the creation of the pelvic cast & tattooing, etc. Today, Phillip underwent a colonoscopy to ensure his colon is strong enough for radiation. He is not allowed to have a colonoscopy for a year following radiation because it will become weak from the treatment.Phillip, let's talk radio show, let's talk mom, bianca tyler, prostate cancer

Although rare, radiation can burn the bladder & colon. We do know someone who lost his bladder following radiation. In order to minimize the damaging effects of the chemical injections & radiation, Phillip has increased his use of Essaic tea – which takes 12 hours to make!! – grape seed extract, liquid calcium/magnesium, essential oils, dandelion root tea, Frankincense and anything else that is natural & healthful. He smells like a lemon sage herbal garden when he walks by.

We spent last week watching the new 9-part docu-series, A Global Quest, by The Truth About Cancer and definitely learned supplementing this traditional medical route with alternatives has incredible benefits.

Let’s talk about sex…

If you scroll back up to the December 11, 2015 update, you will recall nerve-sparing was Bianca and Phillip, Let's Talk momthe key to continued sexual function. But even those nerves that are spared, we learned, go into “shock” from the surgery. Picture a flower blossoming in reverse back to a bud. That’s what these delicate nerves do. They close for up to a year. A year!

So it is imperative to get blood to the nerves to not only keep them alive and healthy but revive them eventually, Godwilling. In the sexual recovery department of Sloan and all other hospitals that perform prostatectomies, medications and injections can achieve that goal shortly after surgery. The hope is that the nerves revitalize in a few months to a year and supplementation won’t be needed. Bianca and Phillip, Let's Talk mom, parenting show, love, life, prostate cancer

But what is needed is activity to stimulate the tissue in the nether region or the tissue can perish. According to the doctors, the area needs to be stimulated a minimum of 2 times a week, maximum of 3. (Sometimes I wonder who’s making this stuff up…) But taking my vows seriously, you know, “In sickness and in health,” my job is to stay adorable and “helpful” during this trying time. Add to this the challenge that during the HRT/radiation period, the chemicals injected into his body are making his testosterone hit rock bottom for a while. That means I need to up my game. Hummm.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Approaching this responsibility with a positive attitude & designer nightgown!

Update: May 16, 2016  Hampton Respite

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (22)In the 16 weeks since Phillip’s surgery, we’ve been back to the hospital 24 times including a 3rd full-body MRI and chemical injections. By the end of March, Phillip’s PSA level was tested 4 times, and on each occasion the reading went up!! Having had the prostate removed, the PSA level should be undetectable. When the 4th result came in showing an increase of 77% from the first post-surgery reading, we were really unnerved.

So Phillip surprised me with a weekend house in the Hamptons. The Atlantic was our backyard! If you squint, you can see the kids looking for shells by the water’s edge in the photo above       . The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (6)

He wrote on his blog (Phillip’s Journey), “I wanted my wife to have some down time, as she has been carrying the burden greatly. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (24)For those of you who know her, you know she loves deeply and has deep emotions. This journey has been tough on her, and I wanted her to unwind more than anything. I
didn’t realize how much I needed this, too. 
We spent the weekend in an idyllic beach home with glorious weather. We chilled, played board games, grilled fresh salmon & steak, we talked, we walked, we flew kites, we gazed at the ocean & listened to the breaking surf, we delighted in the laughter of our daughter & her friends playing in the sand, running down the beach, rescuing overturned horseshoe crabs, and we reveled in the pure joy of beach life.

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (25)And the really good news… my latest blood test last week shows that my PSA is now undetectable. So, 40 rounds of daily radiation begins in June, then another round of chemical injections, and my plan is to have kicked it to the curb by then….Cancer out!”

To think Phillip was again worried about me when it is he going through all this agony! How incredibly loving, how completely appreciated!! This weekend was the respite we all needed.The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (4)

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (1)The children made s’mores before watching family movies and Darling played her latest instrument, a Seagull Merlin she just stenciled.Seagull Merlin, stencil, stenciling, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom

Smoked salmon for breakfast & chocolate-dipped strawberries at lunch. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (13)More kite-flying, even by my Mom, exploring the Bay, The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (16)and proper burials & prayers for horseshoe crabs that were found washed ashore. The children crafted their own crosses from beach wood and sea grass. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (18)a

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Especially Phillip, he looks fantastic!!!!

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Update: May 18, 2016

MZero Cancer Run Walk, Boston, sister, love, support, TEAM PHILL, Bianca Tyler, www.TheLetsTalkMom.comy amazing sister organized TEAM PHILL with ZERO CANCER.org for the Boston RunWalk to support Phillip on his journey: http://support.zerocancer.org/site/TR/RunWalk/RunWalk16…
Our kids & I will be joining my sister. My 1st run….Please, Knee, hold up!! 

Thank you to my super duper sister!!!

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Bianca

Going National ~ Thanks to YOU!

Monday, October 5, 2015 by  

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Thank you to everyone who listens to our Life, Love & Parenting show, “Let’s Talk with Bianca & Phillip!”

After nearly 500 interviews &             19 Seasons, my husband & I are excited to announce we have been signed for national syndication!

 

For those who are new to this program, here are snippets of our bios & an overview of our show.

Bianca’s Bio:

Bianca Tyler is a 3-time award-winning TV journalist, nationally-syndicated radio show host, popular blogger, Mompreneur, former Miss Connecticut, TV & radio producer, founder of WH Publishing, and “The Momversationalist®,” the title of her new book coming out in 2016.

She’s also been a news anchor, news reporter, parenting contributing editor, entertainment reporter, weathercaster, one-man band, linear & NLVE editor, singer, model, lecturer, teacher, animal-lover, adoring wife, active mom of 2 kids and her pets, and an all-around, bona fide multi-tasking guru ~ a BFMTG!

In addition to her TV awards, Bianca has also been honored with 8 other awards including the Women’s Leadership Award and a Citation of Excellence from the Connecticut State Senate.

Her website, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com, currently celebrates over 10.26 million page hits & counting! Her focus is about family life and empowering oneself by “Finding Your Bright Spot™.”

She has spent over 30 years promoting her charitable causes ~ during her reign as Miss Connecticut, statewide charities raised over a million dollars of fundraising revenue.

Bianca has appeared as a special guest on over 35 television & radio programs and in more than 60 newspaper, journal and magazine publications in over 135 articles, photos and covers worldwide, including USA Today, NY Post, NY Daily News and The New York Times.

Bianca has explored over 120 times more than 50 countries on 5 continents.

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Phillip is a multi-award-winning entrepreneur who founded his 1st company and grew revenue by 268% in the first 3 years. His 2nd venture – a tech company, www.IDCardGuard-us.com, launched last year and specializes in patented RFID-shielding for credit/debit cards & identity theft, SmartTag & WalletTag tracking devices, selfie remotes, RFID-blocking wallets, passport shields and so much more.

An accomplished publishing & media executive, he demonstrates extremely strong strategic and analytical skills with a proven track record in business start-ups & turnarounds. Most recently, the division under his leadership ranked in the Inc.500 list as one of the fastest-growing companies in America showing a 3-year, 937% increase in revenue ranking them as the #9 media company in the USA.

Exceptional P&L and cost control expertise, Phillip is a leader in identifying strategic alliances to build and convert market opportunity into new business revenue streams. He has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars worldwide for charity. 

Headshot - Bianca & Phillip“Let’s Talk!” Show Overview:

“Let’s Talk with Bianca & Phillip” is a Life, Love & Parenting program. It’s a forum to discuss parenting, relationships, single parenting, infertility, marriage commitment, intimacy, loss of a spouse, communication, raising phenomenally close & thoughtful children, romance, matchmaking, healthy living, information and well-being, great tips to make your life easier, getting through any tough situation and, most of all, getting & staying motivated whether you are married, single, male or female.

We’ll help you empower yourself and keep your sanity while keeping your marriage and family strong!

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We have incredible, experienced & dynamic guests from all over the nation, many of whom have been quoted from People magazine to Parenting magazine and have appeared on shows like Today & Good Morning America, experts, authors, parents, and doctors as well as little folks on our “ChitChat with Children™” portion, and teenagers for our “Teen Talk!™” segment, connecting parents and youths through understanding and communication.

All programs are archived on this site. You can listen to the shows on your computer or cell phone at home or in the car for your listening convenience.

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Bianca

America the Beautiful ~ September 11th Memorial

Friday, September 11, 2015 by  

“You might want to turn on the news, there’s been talk that a plane hit the Trade Center,” Phillip said to me that fateful morning 14 years ago as he headed toward Wall Street on the subway. The phone lines went down and I didn’t hear from my husband for another 8 hours. My mother-in-law was visiting from England and we turned on the TV, watching in disbelief the horror unfold minute by minute. One of Phillip’s cohorts was on the 1st plane. Phillip saw the burning towers and felt his building shake as they collapsed to the ground.

Boy Scout at September 11 memorial, Yankee Stadium, Credit-AP, September 23, 2001, Boy Scout waving flag, patriotic, New YorkWe knew 6 people who perished that day; we felt great conviction to attend the memorial service at Yankee Stadium September 23rd, 2001. Our 9-year-old son came down the stairs in his boy scout uniform, “Is this okay to wear?” We were so proud of him. Little did we know this shy young boy would appear in over 60 publications worldwide shining as a beacon of hope for many people. Credit: Associated Press

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Years have passed. We prayed with our fellow congregants for continued healing and peace. New England church, congregation, steeple, steeple in the sun, steeple in the cloudsMany of the 800 members of this church either work(ed) in New York City or know friends who did. It is very personal for this community.

Church, New England church, filled church, congregants, packed houseTry to imagine voices of passion in our New England church, established 1731, singing the 4 full verses of America the Beautiful. I dare you not to cry as you read and soak in those incredible words. It just says it all – who we are, what this nation is, and where we came from.

September 11 memorial, beach memorial, 10th anniversary of September 11, CT memorial, Sunset memorialLater, we visited the September 11th Memorial in our area; it’s on the water and faces where the Twin Towers used to be.

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The Bright SpotTM – God bless our country and our diverse people. We work our way through adversity by standing together.


Bianca

Mermazing!

Sunday, August 2, 2015 by  

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When our daughter turned 9, The Pearl Princess movie launched that week. “Wouldn’t it be great if I could be a mermaid, too,” our little future marine biologist dreamed.

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Her party revolved around The Pearl Princess, aquariums & water events but her greatest joy was the sparkly blue fintail that awaited her!

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Bianca

Double-Digit Extravaganza!! (Part 1 of 3)

Friday, July 10, 2015 by  

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Well, that’s just momentous.

These photos are the tickets to an adventure of a lifetime: We took Little One on a Tweendom Extravaganza to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter, Universal Orlando, Disney’s Magic Kingdom, Animal Kingdom, Titanic Artifact Exhibit, Disney’s Epcot Center, and the Clearwater Marine Aquarium to visit Winter & Hope of Dolphin Tale 1 & 2, CoCo Key Water Resort & Mystic Aquarium.

We walked over 120,000 steps – thank you, pedometer – which translates to 52 miles!

In blue are links to Parts 2 & 3 of this story – yes – so remarkable, they deserve their own posts!

To explore the magical world of wizards & wands, chocolate frogs, Butterbeer & Platform 9 3/4, click Part 2: Harry Potter World

To see Winter, the sweet dolphin who lost her tail when she was only 2 months old, click Part 3: Winter & Hope
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Animal Kingdom, Tree of Life, Rainforest lunch, up close with Little One’s favorite bird, Safari

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Disney World’s beautiful Main Street and big smiles!

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Enjoying Disney’s Ferry Boat ride, power lines on the I-4 – cool!! and Epcot Center

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Gorgeous Annual Flower Festival at Epcot, Space Center, coral reef cuddles

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Dad & Little One enjoying the water resort where we stayed. That slide was insane!

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♥♥♥ And best of all was celebrating at Mystic Aquarium & CoCo Key Water Resort with family & friends. ♥♥♥

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bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Enjoy the stories of Harry Potter World and Winter & Hope by clicking these blue links…or just keep scrolling, they’re next. We highly recommend both vacation sites!!  :)


Bianca

The Wizarding World of Harry Potter (Part 2 of 3)

Thursday, July 9, 2015 by  

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Humidity & sunny 90 degree weather in a full-length black satin & polylined cloak ~ with a touch of heat exhaustion on the 2nd day ~ could not stop this 10-year-old from soaking in the sights & sounds of Universal’s magical adventure.

The conductor at Hogsmeade, spotting her special birthday pin, suddenly stopped the crowd of hundreds in the station to heartily announce the arrival of our birthday darling to which the crowd spontaneously erupted into thunderous applause.

It was a movie moment. A memory to last a lifetime.

 

Enjoy this 30-second video of Little One going through Platform 9 3/4, the fire-breathing dragon atop the amazing Escape from Gringotts 3-D ride & more.


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1st stop – Ollivanders – Makers of Fine Wands since 382 BC – to pick up her interactive wand which works throughout the park to make water fly, needles knit, feather pens write, and lots of hands-on spellcasting. It was there that she chose Dumbledore’s Army scroll case & wand collection as a fine memento – heavy, well-crafted, great quality.

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Hogwarts Castle is simultaneously breathtaking & ominous.

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The Birthday Girl enjoyed a special breakfast in the Leaky Cauldron & a Butterbeer toast followed by…

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…an adventurous visit to Gringotts.

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The Hogwarts Express took us on a fascinating journey to Hogsmeade…with Harry, Ron & Hermione!
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Then lunch at the Three Broomsticks & more spellcasting lessons from a passerby witch.

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And what would a trip to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter be without a stop in Honeydukes sweet shop or Weasleys’ Wizard Wheezes store with Wildfire Whiz-bangs or Every Flavour Beans

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Okay, seriously, how excited is this reader ~ broomstick in hand, all her Potter books have come to life!!
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From the Muggles’ perspective, Phillip & I were thrilled for our Little One and her magical week!!

 

 

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – A wonderful adventure for Harry Potter fans. Highly recommend it!!

To see part 1 & 3 of this story, click Part 1Double-Digit Extravaganza for Magic Kingdom, Epcot, Titanic & Animal Kingdom.Harry Potter World, Universal, Harry Potter, wizards, wands, Universal Studios (40)

For Part 3, click: Dolphin Tale-Winter & Hope for the Clearwater adventure or just keep scrolling, it’s next. :)

Thank you for sharing and we hope you enjoy a trip to these family-fun places in the near future.

 

 

 


Bianca

Dolphin Tale – Winter & Hope (Part 3 of 3)

Wednesday, July 8, 2015 by  

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As part of our daughter’s 10th birthday extravaganza, we surprised her with a special visit with Winter, the beautiful dolphin who lost her tail when she was only 2 months old. Her tail was caught in commercial fishing lines.

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She is now 9 years old & lives with her best friend, Hope, at the Clearwater Marine Aquarium.

 

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Our budding marine biologist was thrilled to meet them both and all the marine animals under treatment in the hospital.

 

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Winter’s real-life rehab story has captivated audiences worldwide in Dolphin Tale & Dolphin Tale 2.

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Both movies, starring Harry Connick, Jr. & Ashley Judd, were filmed on location at the Clearwater Marine Aquarium with Winter.

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A look at the timeline these past 9 years and how Winter has inspired suffering children & veterans:

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Our fintastic trip wrapped up with a trolley ride between the filming site rehab center & museum, dinner on the water, and the best memories of Winter & Hope!

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For Part 1, click: Double-Digit Extravaganza      For Part 2, click: Harry Potter World


Bianca