Live & Let Love

Friday, January 18, 2013 by  

I was finishing up a really great day trip with my daughter & one of her closest friends. The girls met more than 6 years Affectionate family, mother, father, baby, daughter, loving couple, loving parents, joy, close bond, familyago in a baby lapsit music program. The little friend’s grandmother was with us on this particular day and my husband called to see when we would be home.              

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, happy couple, loving parents, close family, family ties, family bond, happy parenting“It shouldn’t be more than an hour now,” I said and we each finished with “I love you very much, too.”

The grandmother turned to me when I hung up. “I didn’t mean to listen in but it was really nice to hear you talk like that with your husband.”

To me, it’s just normal. My husband and I are tender & loving in our daily routine. It’s good for us & it’s good for the children. Affection is part of their daily life, and I hope that their partners one day in the far future are just as loving & warm.

The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (6)I remember advice from some folks when I first married: “Don’t call your husband at work, just let him just do his job.” “Don’t tell your husband you love him all the time, he’ll bore of you.” “And don’t be overly mushy, guys don’t like it.” The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (4)

But I grew up in a loving home with smoochy parents & grandparents and I went with my gut. To me, men are just as deep as women are and most people, I believe, desire attention, recognition & hugs. The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (2)

And what I find is that many people wish they had a more loving relationship. Or that they connected more with their spouse.

It’s really not hard. It’s the little things that add up to the wonderful bond between you & your significant other.

A brush past your partner with a soft touch across the shoulders. A little kiss as you pass in the kitchen or while your husband is working late into the evening. I leave him notes in his briefcase, he’s left me notes in the pantry, across my computer screen, in my coat pocket or the bottom of a soup pot! Love note from Phillip in my pocket January 2013, love note, sweet note, incredible husband, coat pocket, winter coatPhillip writes Love notes on wife's screen, bianca tyler's computer screen, I love you, messages of love (2)

Arm in arm when you walk, hand holding when you talk, a little text here & a little Google Chat there. It all adds up.  Communication – touch, voice, writing – text or by hand. It all matters.
And nothing beats the kiss! 

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Don’t think your kids don’t notice. They want that comfort of a loving environment.

Bianca Tyler and Phillip, snuggle, happy couple, parents celebrating their children's party, wonderful timesOf course, when they’re preteens, a kiss might evoke a look of disgust or even a groan, but in reality, it gives your children quiet inner peace to know their parents are close & loving and, with a divorce rate of nearly half of all marriages nowadays, don’t underestimate the great security it gives them. Phillip and Bianca Tyler  Let's Talk radio hosts  relaxing  enjoying each other  quiet evening together

Bianca Tyler and Phillip, Bianca Tyler, fun with spouse, fun with husband, goofing aroundSo reach out to your partner. Physically & emotionally. And have fun!   Happy marriage, happy couple, bianca tyler, radio host, phillip, Let's Talk Mom, Let's Talk radio show

It will not only be super for your relationship, but it will teach your children what a loving family is and what a great partnership looks like.
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And the kindness your children experience they will share because they know it as their norm.

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The Bright Spotbright spot flowerThe children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (5) – You already know your children model your behavior.

You have the power to mold their framework for a loving marriage and a connected family structure in their future. The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (1)

 So go on now…smooch the daylights out of your kids and your spouse!  Happy Parenting!™


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