The Good, The Bad & The Spicy: Kicking Cancer

Wednesday, November 18, 2015 by  

A few days ago my husband was diagnosed with aggressive cancer of the prostate. The last time he heard the words “aggressive cancer,” his wife passed away 11 weeks later.

Understandably, we were terrified. We cried. We held each other. We prayed. We cried some more.

The next day, we pulled ourselves together and created a battle plan to conquer this assailant. We learned that over 220,000 cases are diagnosed each year and nearly 30,000 men die from it. It is the 2nd leading cause of cancer death in men.

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (3)By the grace of God, within 24 hours we found ourselves at Sloan Kettering, one of the best cancer hospitals in the world. We met with 6 doctors and learned a lot about what they called “Phillip’s uphill battle.” That day, the scans, MRIs, hematology specialist, surgical date, post treatment options and other specifics were organized. Hematologist because Phillip has a rare blood-clotting gene that makes surgery the least desirable option. Proton radiation so far looks best – we have much to learn in the near future.

It broke my heart. To imagine my husband in pain or suffering from surgery, chemo, radiation, it was just too much to bear.

For anyone who knows Phillip knows he is the kindest, most gentle-hearted, dependable man and I am so sad he has to endure this. He has been my rock all these years and now it is I who must be strong and steadfast for him. Together we will prevail.

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (8)We decided to face this “situation” with positivity and prayer. We decided to not use the dreaded c word but rather use words of encouragement and healing. We are using visualization to lay the foundation of a new path & healthy future.

We are looking at this as an opportunity to re-appreciate all the gifts in life – the colors of the leaves, the feel of our skin when we hold hands, the joy of singing in the car with our kids; routines that were so easily taken for granted over time suddenly became the most important things all week. He even became hotter…seriously, as if that were even possible for me, but with the reality that I could lose him, everything about him became that much more intense.

And we are giving great thanks! Thanks that a simple, unexpected blood test – that lead to a biopsy – caught this aggressive enemy when there were no signs. Thankful that we live near an acclaimed hospital specializing in this treatment, thankful for the doctors and nurses who will help my husband overcome this unwelcome intruder, thankful that today’s full-body bone scan will guide us in the direction we need, and, most definitely, we are thankful that we have an amazing support system in place:

These past days, good friends have stopped by to hug us, our Pastor drove to our home to pray with us, some folks brought wine, others shipped gift baskets, many sent messages of love and healthful wishes, one friend purchased a series of intense healing sessions for Phillip, friends picked up our daughter from school so we could get more tests done, one family came over Sunday morning to join us for breakfast and then worship with us at our church. All so amazing and so appreciated!

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, church, faith, belief, hope, joy (3)Our church, established nearly 300 years ago, supports many missions throughout our state and the world. This Sunday, they invited the men from Pivot House, recovering addicts who have found God, to sing.

They sang 1 song. Individual men sang different verses and it was so powerful that many in the pews were tearing up.

Phillip - Evensong 2aWith the emotionally-charged days leading to this moment & the barrage of information and advice hurled at him in a matter of days, Phillip says he felt this overwhelming feeling that the song was just for him straight from God. He knew he “was not alone.” All his thoughts cleared instantly and he knew we would find the course he would take to conquer this challenge.

He suddenly pulled out his phone and was able to record the last minute:

 
Phillip and I will continue to research treatment options. He has also decided to use this experience to empower other men who are going through this and give strength to their loved ones by writing about his journey, click: Phillip’s Journey. He will share his highs and lows on air as well, and keep his English chin up while continuing to use humor & laughter when he can…after all, that is the best medicine.

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The Bright Spot – With a positive attitude, belief in faith, our doctors and ourselves, we will overcome this challenge.

UPDATE: December 3, 2015

It’s been two weeks since the news and we are so appreciative to everyone who has reached out to us. Emails, Facebook, Twitter, voicemails, cards, phone calls, visits…we are so so incredibly grateful!!!

For the past 5 years, we have devoted our lives to helping others by bringing the public meaningful information to help empower relationships, finances, well-being, kids’ topics, etc. And now you all have been reaching out to us with love, prayers and advice on everything from proton radiation therapy, seed implants, hormone treatments, essaic tea, reishi, chaga extract, benefits of zinc,Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Let's Talk, marriage, happy couple, togetherness (11) magnets, conscious healing, aaah, yes, and even… coffee enemas.

We’ve made a spreadsheet of all of this information as we must find an alternative to surgery. Phillip’s blood-clotting gene, the fear of not sparing the nerves, removal of the prostate and glands, possible incontinence and loss of sexual function, all of these are not options we are willing to risk. So we’ve been reading a lot about proton radiation.

Having spoken to doctors at Sloan Kettering, Mt. Siani, Boston Scientific, and soon Yale’s Smilow Cancer Hospital, we are finding Proton radiation looks the most effective and promising. With costs of up to $200 million for these centers, there are not many in the country so we are thankful a Proton facility is relatively near us.

Our cutting out sugar, dairy & wheat over a year ago slowed Phillip’s cells’ growth & spread. More scans, MRIs, xrays, injections with radioactive chemicals, bloodwork, etc., are on the schedule for this month.

Have learned a lot these 10 days from all of YOU & the docs, putting that info into our CUREageous binder – all this knowledge is the battle tool to knock this out of the park once & for good! 

Amen to that!

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To read about Phillip’s experience, please visit his blog: https://phillsjourneyblog.wordpress.com/

Update: December 6, 2015

We went to Sloan Kettering December 5th with optimism & hopes of proton radiation therapy and left in tears. Positivity went straight out the window when they informed us that Phillip has the most aggressive stage of cancer and they weren’t looking for treatments to just cure it but to save his life in future. The doctor said, “Most men have low or medium stages of this. They can do the proton radiation and it will help them. You, unfortunately, have the aggressive stage. You need surgery followed potentially by chemo & radiation.”  It still all seems so strange – Phillip has NO symptoms! None. It was a blood test for something else that put this on the radar! Phillip wrote about how he felt today, click: Phill’s JourneySmile Roses

We had a rough day & then he came home the next day with a dozen roses to make sure I WAS DOING OKAY. Can you believe it!! I’m supposed to be the strong one for him and he’s making sure I’M fine.

We will find our strength and get through this. I can say this today. Good you didn’t ask me yesterday.

Update: December 9, 2015

We are seeking all routes to health & longevity for Phillip. We spoke this morning with medical medium, Anthony William, who agreed with the surgery option but also recommended melatonin (kills prostate cancer cells), zinc liquid concentrate to shut down further cancer growth, curcumin                                 anti-inflammatory/antioxidant, and B12 for nerve strength, recovery & regrowth.
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The Bright Spot – Yesterday, Maria Caporale came over with 2 pretty boxes, one for Phillip, one for me. She explained that in each was a “Giving Key” with a word engraved on it. Phillip’s said STRENGTH. Mine said BELIEVE. We are to embrace our word. Get through our crisis. Then pay it forward by giving our key to a person we feel needs the message more than we do in the future. Love love love the idea. If you know someone in need of hope, click: The Giving Keys. They employ people transitioning out of homelessness. Now that’s simply wonderful!!

Update: December 11, 2015

Happy couple, marriage, love, hugs, joy, husband, wife, couple (1)Quite honestly, let me say that 3 weeks ago I’d heard of the prostate but really didn’t know what its function was. When we heard Phillip’s case was such that it was best to remove it, the panic to keep my husband healthy set in and we both agreed if there’s cancer there, take it out!!

I thought it was like taking out the gall bladder. Or the spleen. Remove it. Move on.

Happy couple, kisses, hugs, love, husband, wifeBut the following day, our research journey began. The visits to hospitals. The scans, the scares, the radioactive chemicals, more scans. And tons of information. And the number one thing we kept hearing was “nerve-sparing.” Nerve-sparing.

So what exactly does that prostate do?

The urethra runs through the center of the prostate allowing urine to flow out of the body. And it secretes the fluid that protects and transfers the sperm. Ah ha! Oh, no!! This isn’t just an organ removal. This is a potentially life-transforming operation that affects both of us.

Happy couple, marriage, love, hugs, joy, husband, wife, couple (3)I didn’t want to sound selfish while we were going through all the fear of the unknown with this cancer.

But I am. We frolic a lot. Ah-lot. And I didn’t want to lose that. And I definitely don’t want him to lose it for himself.

So as we’ve taken this journey public with the goal of helping the other 220,000 men who are diagnosed with this each year, we’ve learned a lot about “nerve-sparing.” Yup, that’s the KEY! Spare those nerves – spare that activity. The other key is finding the surgeon who has the greatest success sparing those precious nerves.

Robotics have come a long way in the past few years to spare those nerves. Thank God for the men who undergo this surgery and for the women who love them.

Happy marriage, happy couple, love, joy, hugs, smiles, husband and wifeSo we spoke with Dr. Bob Berookhim, one of the nation’s leading physicians who specializes in the management of the after-effects of prostate cancer treatment, particularly with regard to urinary & sexual function. Dr. Berookhim, assistant professor of urology at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City, discusses treatment options to help prostate cancer patients, nerve sparing and what that means for quality of life after surgery.

Happy couple, frolic, robust relationship (3)And the great news ~ I read that men can have an even more intense orgasm with the removal of the prostate and Dr. Berookhim confirmed this and talks in detail about how in this candid interview.

If you know any of the 220,000 men diagnosed with this or the women who love them, this show is loaded with information that will put your mind to rest.

For anyone too embarrassed to ask the questions really on your mind, we cover it all from orgasm to …!

With that said, may I point out that it is graphic medical content meant for adults, click the play arrow:

The above radio interview with Dr. Berookhim includes discussions about the Gleason score, PSA, robotics, nerve-sparing, surgeon selection, urinary incontinence, sexual recovery, seminal vesicles, orgasm, sperm, injection therapy, implants, hormone withdrawal therapy, proton beam radiation, etc. This show has been condensed from an hour to just 28 minutes to give you the most information in the shortest amount of time with all news, weather & commercials edited out for your convenience.
Happy couple, husband, wife, love, marriage, boatingbright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – I look forward to many, many more years rocking & rolling with my amazing husband.

Note: After airing, all radio programs are archived on this site and can be listened to on your cell phone and through your car system.

Update: December 14, 2015

Feeling so blessed by the outpouring of love by our friends. The Fruit bouquet, Edible Arrangements, fruit, bouquet, friends, loveSchaefers stopped over to bring delicious stew, veggies & poinsettia, Lorine Zdanowski drove from afar to deliver her homemade pumpkin pie & chicken soup with treats & a very special card, the Medina family worshiped with us at church & said we should make a covenant with God that when Phillip heals, we will do something meaningful & difficult in return, and Juan Carlos said he will shave his head when Phillip gets out of surgery safely because that is hard for him and he is praying to God to get his friend through. Thankful to the Pechmans for sending this beautiful fruit bouquet ~ deliciously perfect!!

Vitesse Worldwide, limo, limo serviceThank you to Kathy Colborn for offering for me to stay in her apartment in NYC for the overnights of the surgery & recovery, I’ll need that rest! And thank you to Bita & Shawn Abaspor for offering their Vitesse Worldwide car service to get into the City & eventually back home so we have no added stress. Last thing we need to think about…cars, parking garages, NYC traffic.

So grateful to the countless parents who have picked up our little one when we are at hospitals or preparing for the holidays. Everyone’s been sooo A-MAZING & we’ve received an astounding 1,000+ messages, emails, voicemails, texts ~ overwhelming support, so uplifting, so appreciated!! I will get back very soon!! Thank you all!!!!

Update: December 15, 2015

Bianca & Phillip, happy couple, happy marriage, Bianca and Phillip, love my husband, husband, wife, loveToday was a rough day for Phillip. He needed another full-body scan to determine if the cancer had spread to the bones, something this type likes to do. It was different than the other scan that left him radioactive for 24 hours – the hospital gave him papers in case police pulled him over – apparently, police can detect if a car is radioactive!! Scary and cool at the same time…

But today’s scan was in an ironlike encasement that covered his body except for an oval that left his eyes, nose and upper lip free. He had to lay on his hands, palms face down under his butt, elbows in, and then the metal encasement strapped him down to the table. He is not claustrophobic but he said during the hour it was tight, loud & very unnerving. Emotionally and physically draining. Then he had to do another scan. Still went to work after those hours. And later this evening, we headed to the radio station to do the show.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Today marks 1 month since the news. We’ve done so much research, seen so many doctors, spoken to emotional & spiritual healers, ordered holistic supplements, done interview specials, prayed and, on most days, advanced with positivity. God, I love this man. Please protect him.

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Update: December 17, 2015

Tomorrow we find out the results if the cancer has spread to the bones.

If it has, the surgery will be cancelled because that’s a whole different ballgame.

We have received much welcome feedback for going public with this to help empower the hundreds of thousands with this diagnosis.

We are so happy to help in this small way if it alleviates anyone else’s fears. Information is power & we are powering up to make this a success story of health & well being.

Thank you to our pastor’s wife. She gives me great comfort with her words of wisdom, power of prayer and her soothing voice. Peace. Comfort. I need that. I need it to stay strong for my husband.

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Update: December 18, 2015 

The results are in – the cancer has not spread, thank you, God!!!

Now preparing for the next phase…with our CURE-ageous angel from Michele Grace.

Bring it on. We’re ready!Angel, Christmas tree, gingerbread house, Cure-ageous angel (1)

Update: December 31, 2015 

This New Year’s Eve, we reflect on these 6 weeks with full hearts of thankfulness to all who have reached out to us. Most recently, thank you to Michelle & Sue Barra for mailing us the last of their Holy water to help heal Phillip. Sue received the Holy water from Lourdes, France 50 years ago! She had a few drops left and sent them immediately to Phillip. Amazing!!

Thank you to the Szele family for the Christmas Novena at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, D.C. and thank you toOwl Foundation (1), Canada, owls the Cunniffe family for their donation to The Owl Foundation in Phillip’s honor – love to hear about this kind of donation! Our little one named our special recuperating owl Amber for her beautiful eyes. Click their link above to find out more about this wonderful Canadian organization.St. Francis Breadline (3)

Thank you to Liz Irving who donated to The St. Francis Breadline where the Franciscan Friars will offer healing prayers for Phillip. “Hundreds of hungry people eat every morning” on the breadline at 135 West 31st Street in Manhattan since 1930. Please visit: The St. Francis Breadline

And thank you to Maira & her family for offering to have our little one stay over with them the days I’m in NYC at the hospital while our son (23) is home with our pets.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have learned about so many wonderful organizations through our challenging 6-week journey. As scary as it’s been for us, it, too, has been a blessing.

Update: January 1, 2016 

The decision has been made.

After much research, many physicians, interviews & recommendations, Dr. Karim Touijer of Sloan Kettering is our choice for Phillip.Dr. Touijer Specializing in genitourinary cancers, Dr. Touijer is an expert at nerve sparing and has performed more than 1,500 prostate surgeries over 23 years.

We are confident we have the best surgeon for Phillip and will pray for his wisdom and steady hands.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have just been informed that Sloan Kettering has a brand new hospital where I am allowed to stay in Phillip’s room overnight! No closing visiting hours! I can sleep in the room. Thank God! (Thank you, dear Kathy Colborn for your earlier offer.) This hospital is so new many of the staff members we’ve met haven’t even visited it yet. Wow!

This is Sloan Kettering’s website if you need more information: MSKCC

Update: January 13, 2016 

I loved this from my husband’s blog so I thought I’d let him tell you in his own words: 

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2 Popes & a Nun

Phillip: “Today is the eve of my surgery and I am totally at peace with where I am on this journey. That’s because of each and every person who has contacted my wife & me has not only sent prayers and wishes, but have gone above and beyond in their outreach.

Just this last week, 3 people stunned me. Holly called to let us know that she’s been praying continuously and asking her great cousin to help as he’s been in Heaven since 1958. When we asked why him in particular, she replied “Oh! Did I never tell you? My great cousin was Pope Pius XII.”  While reeling from that phone call, the phone rang again. One of my wife’s oldest friends called to see us as she had something special for us. She informed us that she was given a gift by a close friend of hers who was one of the nuns from the Missionaries of Charity, the congregation founded by Mother Teresa. This gift was a small piece of cloth containing Mother Teresa’s blood and she wanted us to pray over it! I thought Wow! this is getting heavy and then…. Lorine emailed to let us know that she’d just returned from a vacation in Italy, and while she was there she went to Rome to light a candle for me, and who do you think was conducting the service?… Pope Francis! Whoa! Extra prayers were lifted up that day.

So I have 2 Popes and a soon-to-be canonized Saint putting in a good word for me! Now I know why I’m feeling so peaceful and ready to take this on full steam ahead.”

Inspiration…

We just received a card from one of our daughter’s teachers. Inside it she had written half a dozen inspirational quotes. Each one has significance, but moreover, she had put so much thought into the message she was sending. Thank you so much, Mrs. Z:

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

“Feed Your Faith and Your Fears Will Starve to Death.” – Anonymous

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

“Turn your face toward the sun and the shadows will fall behind you.” – Maori Proverb

“Become a possibilitarian.  No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities – always see them, for they’re always there.”  – Norman Vincent Peale

“Know, then, whatever cheerful and serene supports the mind supports the body, too.” –  John Armstrong

WARNING: GRAPHIC IMAGES AHEAD

Update: January 14, 2016 Us 2 

3:45am the alarm clock sounds. It’s the morning of the surgery. As much as Phillip is at peace right now (see Update: January 13 above), I am a walking ball of nerves right now. I’m trying to put on a serene, happy face for him but inside I’m hit with waves of nausea as we prepare to head into the City. I still can’t get my head around the speed with which we found out the news just a few weeks ago and now my husband was about to lose a body part.

UsThis cancer has been referred to as a “couple’s ailment.” The outcome will affect both of us. Following a successful surgery & recovery, rehabilitation of urinary & sexual function will take place. How many nerves can be spared? All, some, half, none? Then depending on the pathology results we receive in 10 days, protocol for radiation and chemo/HRT will be determined. The surgery is part 1 of a 3-part process.

With that said, we still need to get through today. 3:45am Phillip takes the 2nd of a special shower with Hibiclens – an antibacterial soap to protect his body from infection. The car service arrives at 4:50am. Thank you again, Shawn & Bita of Vitesse Worldwide, and for the return trip home when that day came.

Phillip was pretty chipper in the car as we held hands Buildingand made small talk. It was dark and cold and started to snow. When the car swung into the hospital’s drop-off area, we stepped out into the cold and looked at the huge
sign before us. Cancer Center. Phillip turned to me. My ever-strong-rock whispered to me, “Why are we here? I can’t believe we are here.” He looked pale and I knew he was just trying to be strong for me all the time but inside he must be reeling. My heart ached for him and I wanted to burst into tears. But I put my hand in his hand and told him all would be well. I prayed to Building signGod quietly on the way inside.

I still felt nauseous. The greeters were very kind and took us to the 3rd floor where we were met by more very pleasant people. Phillip signed in as I stood silently behind him, tears rolling down my face. The woman came from around the desk and hugged me tightly. Everyone from start to finish at Sloan was incredibly nice.

Sloan Kettering’s new hospital just opened January 1st, 2016. Each patient,Board Tracker nurse, caregiver & visitor has a color-coded tracker. It lets the family member know where the patient is on a large electronic board like an airport flight board – pre-op, in surgery, surgery finished, recovery room, etc. It lets the hospital know exactly where the family members are in the hospital at any time. And whenever the nurse walks into the room, his/her name & title appears on the monitor directly in front of the bed announcing: Sue Smith, head nurse has entered your room.

Phillip is only the 11th patient in this room. Everything is so modern and beautiful and futuristic.

After pre-op procedures are taken care of and the “what if” papers are signed – Health Care Proxy – in case things don’t go as expected and decisions have to be made, God forbid, Phillip was ready for the OR. He kissed me gently and said, “I love you,” as the elevator door shut and the wait began.

I thought I could do this on my own, but I found out that I couldn’t.

I was looking out of the huge window and it was still dark outside. I saw my reflection and he was no longer next to me. I burst into tears and called my friend, Jade Albert, who was on standby in case I fell apart. She said she’d be right there. Would take her 30 minutes to get across town but she was on her way. Then I called my sister and Pastor Jacky. That helped a lot. A very kind cleaning lady found me upset and gave me a ton of hugs and a box of tissues. Sloan Kettering’s tissue boxes are Tiffany colored. We laughed about that and it lifted my spirits. She was such a nice woman! She checked on me during different hours when she was back on that floor.

My husband was in surgery for over 6.5 hours. (These top 3 photos are stock. The bottom 2 are Phillip’s tube & incisions) The body is filled with gas for surgery.

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Phillip had asked the medical team to pray before they knocked him out. They all immediately swooped around him as he asked God to protect them & guide them as they healed him. He said the experience was really overwhelming and he was so touched. Phillip described the bright lights of the sterile operating room & the hectic preparations underway to stay on schedule and when it was announced that this patient had requested prayer before surgery on the paperwork, he said everything suddenly came to a halt and he was surrounded by great people who bowed their heads in silence as he prayed for them. His eyes well up when he describes this beautiful moment. Later in recovery, one of the doctors said they had never done that before & that everyone said how much they liked it & he hoped they will do that more in the future.

Prostate pic 5I later found out the operating table is tilted and the surgery involves 6 incisions and a drainage tube. I spent much of my time pacing back to the large electronic board hoping to see the green check mark under Surgery Finishedtubea (3)

When it finally blinked into its square, I knew the love of my life was out of danger and in recovery. I could finally breathe.

Thank you to everyone who has said prayers. God heard you!

Us 3The cancer was very aggressive & Phillip has an uphill battle but is facing it with positivity & faith! To all those who have said to us these past 6 challenging weeks, “Oh, be glad it’s JUST prostate cancer,” you wouldn’t want it, tubes out of the stomach & all, radiation & chemo.

I’m just pointing out, if someone tells you in future, please be sensitive. It’s scary.
Later that evening, Jennifer Wilkov came to the hospital with dinner for me. She told us something that will stick with me forever and I’d like to share it with you now. She said when people offer to help, allow them. For if you say no, they do not have the opportunity to do something that makes them feel good. She said it stops the “universe of community” that we are all a part of right in its tracks. She believes we all have the urge to help others and we shouldn’t deny that good feeling for others. People stand helpless watching another suffer. So accept with grace and gratitude. Wow! I’ve decided to say yes more often and not feel I need to handle so much of this on my own. Jen was 100% right. The smiles on people’s faces when they help makes me smile. The help they offered gives us comfort. It makes everyone feel good. The giver & the receiver.

So to all who have prayed, to all who have sent well wishes, to all who have cared, to all who have thought about us and sent positive vibes of healing Phillip’s way, to all who have brought sustenance, to all who have treated our little one, to all who have embraced our older one, to all who have lit a candle, to all who have phoned, tweeted, posted, private messaged, snail-mailed, voicemailed & emailed, I say to you thank you, thank you, thank you!!

You have been the force that has lifted Phillip & me through our darkest hours. God sees all.

BedThankfully, I was able to sleep by my love all night holding his hand. Phillip describes it best, click: Phillip’s Journey

Phillip wanted to be the “Poster child of Recovery” & he certainly earns the title ~ even his surgeon was pleasantly surprised to see how well he was that night after his early morning surgery. He’s recuperating so well one friend wrote, “In a war, you’d be the guy I’d be standing next to in the trenches.”

And he certainly hasn’t lost his humor when he proudly declared everyone could see his wedding tackle when nurses were changing his dressing & the curtain flew open!

He has 2 – 3 weeks of recovery at home, no lifting of more than a milk carton for 2 months, the urethra that ran through the prostate has now been “restitched” to the bladder and straining can tear the stitches. Ewww. And the catheter will be removed in about 10 days. It is at that time he will take what’s been coined “The Challenge.” A dose of meds to see if nerves were spared enough to rise to the occasion. If so, certain exercises & a fellow’s fine imagination will help such future situations without meds. Early signs of stirrings have uplifted us.

Unfortunately, Dr. Touijer was unable to spare much of Phillip’s nerves because the organ had opened.

Rest, love and positive thinking will speed recovery so we can face the next hurdle.

Thank you to our amazing son for keeping everything running smoothly while we were in the hospital – from our furbabies to grocery shopping to boring household stuff & more.

Thank you to my sister & little niece for their unending support and beautiful comfort teddy & fruit basket – the perfect gift at 3am when20160116_141841 20160116_142841 I’m reaching for pain meds and some quick sticks of healthy food to line his stomach.

Thank you to Maira & her kids for having our darling stay with them those first 3 critical days. It meant more than most people know because I have never been away from our daughter more than 2 days in 10 years except once when I was needed far from home.

She had a marvelous triple sleepover and I was able to focus only on Phillip. My mind & heart were completely at ease. We are grateful to Maira for everything she did to ensure our little one stayed in routine with school, activities and all the extras to make this a sleepover to remember. And thank you to Marlene, Lisa & Kerrie for having our little one sleep over till the 5th night so I could focus on Phillip’s
1 (2)arecuperation. I took Jen’s advice & didn’t feel awkward when I asked Lisa for a favor and big thanks to Kerrie for making a lovely chicken soup!

Bravo to Juan Carlos for upholding his covenant with God that he would shave his head when Phillip came out of surgery successfully. I know it was hard – you are a good man – and thank you to your family for bringing groceries, so kind! Thank you to the Schaefer family for dinners, groceries & treats – thrice!

“THERE ARE SO MANY MEN WHO SUFFER IN SILENCE”

The morning after the surgery, Dr. Touijer visited again. He said he read this blog story about our journey. “I heard the radio interview. You ask a lot of questions people are afraid to ask. You have information that can really help people. There are so many men who suffer in silence.”

Dr. Touijer 2It made me tear up. It still does. When I think of that last sentence above, I well up knowing some men are going through this alone or are afraid to speak to others. From the day we came home, people have been reaching out to us for more information. We are very happy to offer anything we have learned on this frightening 7-week journey so far and all we will learn in the coming months.

Dr. Touijer was a great listener and a top-notch surgeon. He eased many of our fears. So important.

a (1)Today is January 17th, just 3 days after surgery and Phillip’s upright and looking good. So grateful!

As previously mentioned, this cancer has been referred to as a “couple’s ailment” because it affects both the man and the woman who loves him. Of course, after saving the man’s life by making him cancer free, the sparing of the nerves is vital for sexual function. One doctor told Phillip his quality of life (urinary or sexual function) is not of concern to him, only making him cancer free, and that he could basically kiss his sex life goodbye for the next few years. Hummm. See ya!!!

Dr. Touijer wanted to spare Phillip’s nerves, but he said sparing his life was more important. When the time is right, Phillip will be back on his game. On top of physical healing, the emotional healing has to begin. I’ve encouraged him to look at racy photos.  “It’s for recovery & health,” I point out. After all, Dr. Berookhim states in the radio interview above that orgasms are between the ears. Men have to “think” these good thoughts. For Phillip, stirrings are already in the works. Yay! No pressure, of course, but hallelujah all the same!

For some men, they don’t have a partner. One man we know, his wife died shortly before being diagnosed. We’ve learned from him and from previous prostate cancer patients and doctors, it’s the old adage – Use it or lose it. Taking things in their own hands, no pun intended, would be a start. There are also many other methods from medication, injections, implants and more. For us positive thinking & proactive joy is the way to go ~ yeah, that’s where I come in.

1 (1)More to come as we gather further information on this journey. I thank the people who have reached out for specific prostate cancer info – you know who you are – and we will help any way we can.

As I have said before, we’ve taken this public because if this information can help alleviate anyone else’s fears, Phillip & I are glad we can help in this small way.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – All of YOU!!! Thank you all for your prayers, hope & generosity. So grateful.

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Update: January 16, 2016 In bed - black shirt

One of the nurses said as we were preparing to leave the hospital “…and there’s no sex allowed while the catheter is in place.”
Eww!! “HOW is that EVEN possible!” I asked. “You’d be amazed at who lands in the ER & what we see,” said the nurse. Double ewww!

Phillip will be home 2 – 3 weeks. He has to walk a little each day to prevent clotting & increase lung function. He’ll have his catheter for 10 days & said to me this morning, “I’d love to go to the store & ask the shoe clerk if he has a pair that will match my bag.” Nice. Good to know he hasn’t lost that dry English humor!

Update: January 18, 2016 

IMG_1499bGlad to say he made it downstairs for dinner although it hurts to sit. He says there’s an aching feeling when he sits. Come to find out he’s sitting on the catheter tube. We pictured it running through the urethra & taking a 90 degree turn up to the bladder. But noooooo. It runs along the perineum so every time my dear husband sits down, it squashes the tube. Owww. Only laying down or standing up is tolerable so he’s mostly in bed. How does the catheter tube stay in the bladder? It’s injected with a fluid that fills a balloon inside of the bladder so it can’t slip out.
Robotics 2A pin cushion just last week, upright & moving this week! Fascinating how positivity & prayer can lift one’s spirits and heal the body. He has to walk a little everyday & it’s freezing out so he walks around the house. He woke up a while ago & looked in the mirror, “Why do I Glittering ornamenthave sparkles on my forehead??” I replied, “Remember when we were walking through the playroom & you hit your head on the ornament?” With these whirlwind 7 weeks, I haven’t moved a single holiday ornament.

Glad his stomach is clear of the gas they pumped in him; really, one of the most painful parts of recovery.

Update: January 22, 2016 

The catheter stays in around 10 days. With Phillip’s phenomenal recovery, the catheter was removed on the 8th day. So why are WE BOTH ON CIPRO?? The 2 weeks leading up to surgery I took advantage of him every day. We didn’t know how long until we’d be intimate again following surgery so I didn’t waste a moment. But I ended up with a UTI, 1st one in 15 years, well worth it. Enter…Cipro. Meanwhile, Phillip is required to take Cipro before & during the days of the catheter removal. Weird, we’re on this same strong prescription at the same time!

Catheter removal day (8)aI drove us into the City to have the removal done and sitting in the car was definitely uncomfortable for Phillip, a person who never complains. But just before the Triboro Bridge, I had to slam on the brakes and Phillip slid forward. Oww!! A “perineum roll!” He turned pale and groaned out loud, reclining his seat as far as it would go and counting the minutes till this foreign thing was out of his body. Poor fellow!

Update: January 23, 2016 

ICoucht was so nice to see Phillip resting downstairs with us in his big cozy robe watching the snow fall during the blizzard. Thank you to Michele and CJ who just called to say they ordered a plow service to plow our driveway!! Kathy Bauer BasketAnd thank you to Kathy for her beautiful basket of organic fruits, a big surprise & most welcome especially on a snowy weekend ~ smoothies, anyone!!

I would also like to take a moment to thank my amazing husband for surprising me the Saturday before his big surgery – he painted the entire kitchen for me while I was out gathering medical supplies & loads of prescriptions and all the stuff he needed for this recovery & other errands I knew I wouldn’t be able to do once we were housebound for a few weeks. Every time I walk into the kitchen, I think of his thoughtfulness during such a trying time in his life. That’s my Phillip. Always thinking of others before himself.

Update: January 24, 2016

Because of stitches inside, outside and all over the place, Phillip cannot bend down. I’veIn bed - blue shirt been helping him with everything, even scratching his ankle when he couldn’t reach an itch. I know this dependency weighs heavily on my Mr. Dependable. Last night, I heard him cry out & raced upstairs to find him clinging to our bureau. “What did you do!” I chided, seeing the agony on his face. “I tried to put on my own pj pants. I don’t want you to have to do everything.”

Oh, brother. Now he’s back in bed having pulled out his back & strained his stomach. But that doesn’t mean healing will slow down. Part of the recovery process is in the mind. I hand Phillip his IPad everyday. “You have homework to do. Look up some racy pictures.” Yup, that’s why he’s looking healthier day by day…and I’m not even a trained nurse! 😉

Indeed, his overall recovery is well underway & all of your wishes helped speed this on. My sister is in touch constantly & Phillip’s mother Skypes him every day: Amazing Grace.

I’m beyond tired and want to give huge thanks to Ana & Regina for showing up on our doorstep Thursday evening with a hot meal in hand. Ana had just read about Phillip that day and ran to the grocery store and cooked a fantastic Mexican dinner. Thursday was a particularly Basket & wine (2)cudraining day and when she rang the bell at 6pm, it was like an angel appeared at the door. We ate that meal for dinner, Friday for lunch and Saturday during the blizzard!! And blessings to the Lindstrom family for all you’ve done for us and thanks, Wayne & Marshall, for the fruit basket & to everyone at Phillip’s workplace, your healing vibes are much appreciated!

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have a wonderful support system and are sending oodles of hugs to everyone with gratitude!

 

Update: January 28, 2016 

“The Challenge”

Recovery (3) “The Challenge” comes about 4 – 6 days after the catheter is finally removed. Prescribed medsRecovery (1) increase blood flow to the nerves that were spared and, in our case, we also choose to continue to take B12 which Muneeza Ahmed of Healthy Moon recommended for nerve strength, nerve recovery & nerve regrowth. (See December 9th update above).

We knew our day would be January 28th. The medication would have reached their prime function and the kids would be out of the house!

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I wanted the day to be super special. Quiet. Relaxed. Beautiful. I found a gorgeous silk nightgown at Victoria Secret with lace & sequins.

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Phillip was geared up in a completely different way. He had it up to his eyeballs with quiet & relaxed. Crown from Maria C. (2)bHe was psyched, eager and wore the fun crown Maria Caporale sent him in the mail the night before!

That familiar “come hither” confidence was the Phillip I love and know so well.

But I was concerned about pressing on his wounds. Would he be comfortable? Would he bend in a weird way and pull on his outside stitches? Would the inside stitches suddenly tear?

All these things were running through my mind and I was full of worry. For Heaven’s sake, he was lying in bed peacefully for nearly 14 days, I didn’t want to suddenly cause chaos.

Plus, I knew intimacy would be different. That’s all I kept hearing. Orgasm would be different. But what did that mean? I’d ask doctors, nurses, former patients, but just hear it would be different.

Phillip must have sensed me fretting. He pulled me close, kissed me passionately and from there, it was like old times. An exciting dose of Afternoon Delight…

Return of the Mojo!!

“The Challenge” was conquered and, in the end, all I can say about the “finale” is that it’s different. A robust response, but different.

Phillip described that it’s just as toe-curling & heart-pounding as before but instead of being more localized, it was all-consuming & uniquely exceptional. Cool! We’ll take it!

We were thrilled and relieved and talked about it later that day. He said he was concerned that reaching climax without the love flow – if you get my drift – would not be as satisfying. But he said it was, indeed, just as satisfying. Good for any fellow going through this to know.

And for me, I was kind of melancholy that I’d never feel his gift surprising me throughout my day any more – ladies, you know what I mean. But I’ll just focus on the bonus: fewer sheets to wash. Enough said.

P&B in bed January 31, 2016 (1)aLater, we reveled in our day & snuggled through our evening.

Then the phone rang.

It was the surgeon.

He asked about urinary function, which for some men can take a few months. Phillip was proud to announce that he was back to full function – to which the doctor rejoiced that this puts Phillip in the top 5% of successful patient recovery! Thank you, Dr. Touijer!!

Then he hit us with the news of the pathology results.

The cancer had broken through the wall of the prostate. Three nodes showed positive for cancer. The doctor says there’s a 70% possibility of recurrence of cancer in the future within this group. A post-surgery prostate-specific antigen test on February 24th will help determine if the cancer is “in transit,” or if the nodes were the last stop. So radiation and chemo are still on the table. Phillip said, “At least we don’t have to worry about losing my hair with the chemo.”

The surgeon continued that the tests on the 24th might be too soon after surgery so he may run them again the following week. Then he talked to us about our experience with “The Challenge.” We gave him a rundown and he said, “That’s what we’re shooting for.”

“No pun intended,” I added cheekily.

Dr. Touijer 3“You two are something else,” he said, more lightheartedly. I could hear the relief in his voice. It must be such a drain on the doctor to deliver unhappy or uncertain news.

The Bright Spotbright spot flower – Having a brilliant surgeon on our side, thank you, Dr. Touijer. The last 8 weeks have been an emotional roller coaster but today, in particular, we were at the highest peak. One moment we were flying high feeling the love between us and later that evening – *BAM!* –  we were dropping at nauseating speeds hearing the pathology results.

But we will remain hopeful & humorous to get us through this.

You know, after we cry.

Update: January 31, 2016

P&B - La Cremaillare January 31, 2016 51yo (12)Hop on that emotional roller coaster again because we’re clinketing back up to the top. Yeah, clinketing is not a word. But you can picture it…clinkclinkclinkclinkclink up the incline.

It’s my birthday and a beautiful family breakfast starts the day. Followed by amazing gifts  – amazing because Phillip never left the bed – thank you, Internet, UPS & our clever son! After, the doorbell rang and the Medinas brought over another yummy homecooked meal – this time eggplant parmesan, creamy cauliflower casserole with sautéed green beans & carrots.

And then later that day, Phillip got dressed and we drove 50 seconds around the corner from our home for a lovely birthday dinner – how convenient to have a renowned 5-star French restaurant less than a minute away! Thank you, Lisa Traweek, for making it extra special!

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We returned home and he went straight back to bed. He looked really weary by the end of the meal.

The Bright Spot – He was up. He was dressed. He was out. Best. Gift. Ever. Top of the rollercoaster hill!

Update: February 2, 2016

The Revelation!

The week of Phillip’s surgery we both still could not believe he was diagnosed with cancer. He felt great. He looked great. We eat well. We live a clean lifestyle. Just couldn’t get our heads around it. So he decided to have blood work done one more time before going under the knife.

He went to our local hospital. The results came back the day before his surgery. Do you know what came back on the paperwork???

The reading that did, indeed, confirm his aggressive state of antigen level BUT ALSO a past reading that showed he had blood work taken for a physical in December 2012 that showed a bad elevated level of the antigen that said “HIGH” next to it!! In caps!!

He’s had cancer for 3 years!! And the doctor never told him!!!

Phillip might have been able to have had seed therapy or proton beam radiation or any of the other non-invasive treatments we hear everyone else is having and be done with it!!

But no!! The doctor, who has since retired, never told Phillip he had cancer and now an organ has been ripped out & his body parts rewired! Not to mention his potential to have lost quality of life with regard to urinary & sexual function, but on top of it, we’ve just received the news that the cancer broke out of the “prostate shell” and moved into the nodes. Those old blood results & now the recent pathology results are a real kick in the gut. But with that said, we will collect ourselves & move forth with a brave face.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Lots of people write to me and ask how we keep upbeat.

It’s simple: God, family & friends, positivity and love. 

Every single ounce of my optimism comes from my greatest hero, click: My Hero

Update: February 3, 2016

Our “Story”

I’d like to make it known that this disease is not our “story.” We will not allow it to take us over & defeat us. No. Our “story” is that of faith & positivity ~ facing fear from a place of hope, rising up no matter what anguish we feel and tackling it head on with the force of God, family & friends around us.

Fern's Card to Phillip-section 1Our “story” is not one where we fall victim to the malignant cells but a story of triumphs with a billion healthy cells that stem from optimism & courage & promise.

Fern's Card to Phillip-section 2

I wanted to share with you parts of a card that arrived in the mail this week from a woman who read this blog story & contacted us. This is the whole point of why we took our journey public. We want to offer anyone going through this information we’ve gleaned: resources, links, interviews, insight, steps in the process, and most of all, comfort.

Eyes cu1It’s not been easy for us. We’ve had our moments. My eyes cried a river when I first heard the news of my dear husband a few  weeks ago. Knowing what his first wife went through and how he lost her so quickly to disease makes fighting for his health all the more real to us.

So, let’s look at the positive, shall we…it’s over 3 weeks since Phillip’s surgery and he’s looking better every day.

Friends continue to stop by – including the mighty Medina family who trudged through the snow today to bring over hot lentil soup.Food 1 Thank you, Joanna, for braving the fog with your incredible chicken marsala & thank you, Kerrie, for the amazing veggie lasagna. Thank you, Susan, for your thoughtful altar of intention & recovery and for all of the energy healings with Bonnie. Alter for Phillip by SusanThank you to Pastor Chuck for visiting many times – before & after surgery – to pray with us. And dear Geri, we really appreciated all the treats & goodies for Super Bowl Sunday and especially the lovely pink tulips!Flowers (2)Food 2 (1)

I swear, I should open a food review blog – I am getting so spoiled! But in reality, not worrying about cooking has given me the physical & emotional fortitude to care for Phillip. He looks marvelous and it’s really because of our Army of Friends.

I did read back in December from a Sloan patient who’s gone through this – people you think you could count on in this situation may not be there for you and other folks – even acquaintances you barely know – come out in full force to make sure you are okay. Phillip & I would have never believed it until we experienced it. Amy Boettcher, whom I’ve never met, has sent me tons of information, links & advice having experienced that not having that information took her husband and she’s doing her best to help save mine. A-MAZING!! And Sue Peters, who I haven’t seen in nearly a decade, has been a huge source of my strength especially on the long day of surgery when she stayed on the phone with me during some of my weakest moments, guiding me having been through something similar, and she has unwaveringly texted solid advice throughout all these weeks giving great comfort – she is one Warrrior Woman, that’s for sure! You’d be amazed who’s come to the rescue and a few we hold dear who are no where to be seen.

I’m not upset about it. I’m interested in the human nature of it. Perhaps disease makes them uneasy. Perhaps they, too, have had significant loss and can’t bear to see someone they’ve known for years go through pain. I’m passing along our experience so if you go through it, too, you can look back and say, “Oh, yeah, I read that somewhere, and it’s okay.” Don’t worry, it IS okay.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Count the blessings you have. Keep the faith. Move forth with knowledge & confidence. Focus on the good.

Update: February 4, 2016

Princess Leia goes to school. Yes, between recovery nursing & running house, I twirl hair.

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Update: February 15, 2016

Interestingly, the 3 people I was writing about above who I thought I could count on have called. It was, indeed, as I had thought. They had issues they had to deal with. Never feel badly if someone you really thought should reach out didn’t because you just don’t know what they’re going through. Just focus on your healing.

Healing 2With that said, Phillip’s recovery is going remarkably well! I can’t believe his surgery was already more than a month ago. His wounds are healing and his tummy hair is growing back. He has pangs, twinges & aches but they are getting better day by day. My “therapy” with sexual recovery continues…yup, that’s always a good day! For some reason, he doesn’t feel pangs and twinges those days!

He can’t lift anything over 10 pounds for 2 months. But something has happened because he now has a hernia! He can’t have another surgery at this time, obviously, so he is being monitored. We are back in Sloan on February 24th for further tests to determine radiation & chemo protocol.

Upright week 5We’ve learned through all this it’s a process. Just one step at a time…

Update: February 21, 2016

Just when I think I should cool it on my exposé of personal details, I am reminded why I feel compelled to help others with this step-by-step account. I have received countless letters/emails that it has helped people go from “paralyzing fear to forward motion.” Just last night, an old dear friend of mine from Texas, Trish, sent me a Facebook private message, this was part of it:

“I was at a Girl Scout meeting today and one of the moms told me her husband was just diagnosed with prostate cancer. I told her about your web page and that it will answer many questions. Her eyes watered up and I could see a sigh of inner relief. I said Bianca and PhillipBirthday know exactly what you are going through and that is why they are sharing their story. So thank you, know you are helping others by sharing your story.”

And then I received an email from a woman named Rosalind who wrote: “You are an inspiration to so many as you traverse this challenging course. You are making a real difference in others’ lives by sharing your story so candidly.”

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – During Pastor Nathan’s sermon this morning, he spoke of today’s culture which revolves so much around the notion of “me me me.” He said look around you and help others while worshiping God. That’s what life is really all about.

I truly hope this journey will help so many other people to see their path a little clearer, begin their healing process and conquer the assailing cells with intention & certitude until total wellness abounds!

Update: February 24, 2016

Upright week 5 (1)Spent the whole day at Sloan between their buildings from 60th to 68th streets. It was pouring rain but that didn’t not dampen our spirits. Today was testing day.

It is so hard to believe it’s been 6 weeks since surgery! Hours later the results came in. Phillip & I thought it looked good but the doctor says it’s not where he wants it to be & has ordered further testing in 3 weeks & then again in 4 weeks. We are looking at the glass half full because the results are heading in the right direction. The doctor says he will not prescribe radiation and/or chemo until further test results come in next month. Okay. Good with that. So moving forth with positivity & faith.

Update: February 25, 2016Kelly & I

Phillip happened upon a post on Facebook on my computer today from my friend Kelly, loving wife & mother of 3. (Kelly & I over 27 years ago, what’s that? A pay phone….?)

Kelly’s post: “Yesterday I had a tough day. Today I praise my friend who I think about often. Her husband was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer. He was the picture of health!! Her ability to stay strong and soooo hopeful is so incredible. She never wavers on her faith in God & what He can do. She is his rock when I know inside her heart is crying. So it brings me back to reality. I say shut up Kelly and stop complaining. I know he’s going to resume his health with God on his side. You are one incredible woman and have taught me more than you know about faith and UNCONDITIONAL love!!!”

Thank you, Kelly, you are an amazing friend and have been with me through all of this. xo

Update: February 27, 2016

Angels-cuBita & Shawn, who gave us round trip car service to & from Sloan with Vitesse Worldwide, spoiled us tonight with a beautiful Persian feast along with authentic pistachio nougat, healing angels for us & the adorable Sweetheart angel for our little one. We are so grateful for all of our wonderful friends!!!

Update: February 28, 2016

Important message: Our journey has been documented to help anyone who has been diagnosed with prostate cancer know what the process is step by step. I am writing this as I learn it with the hopes it can help alleviate your fear.

With that said, it’s not just for the 220,000 men diagnosed each year. It’s not just for the partners who love them. I hope it also gives all of your friends & acquaintances who don’t know what to do or how to help some suggestions that have helped us along the way. And I hope it helps the caregiver. Fred, who lost his beloved wife, Mary, knows this best & wrote this to me:

“I am on a train to Washington, D.C. and I decided to go to your website and read all of your posts on the current story non-stop. I must say that reading it in its totality is so much more meaningful and moving. It makes for some very compelling (and scary) reading as you write each chapter in real time as it is happening.B&P - Captain & compass pic

You bare your mind and soul and leave nothing out including your love and intimacy with Phillip. Amazing! I wanted you to know that your thoughts, your feelings and your fears are shared more often than you know. Your love and trust in God is always evident in your writings. Your faith will get you through all of it and you will come out of it so much stronger regardless of the outcome. I know this is true. I am living proof.

Often all the attention is on the person who is afflicted with that horrible disease and sometimes the loving caregiver is unintentionally overlooked. I know what you are dealing with and will say a special prayer for you for being the “glue” in your family. My best friend said to me one day that he always knew that I was the captain of the ship in my marriage but never to forget that Mary was the compass. That is how I see your marriage and relationship with Phillip. You are the compass.”

Wow!!! I am looking forward to the day when Fred & I meet. He has been there Candle 3from Day 1 writing words of encouragement throughout this challenging time. Thank you, Fred!! And thank you for lighting candles here and in New Zealand. And to Lorine for lighting candles for Phillip in Italy, and Sonja in California and to George and Michelle and countless folks everywhere who have burned the flame of healing prayer for my husband. We are so appreciative!!

bright spot flowerThe Bright SpotAll of you!!

Update: February 29, 2016

Elise's boxAn enormous package sat in the glistening sunshine on our doorstep today as we drove up the driveway. It was from Elise in Texas (click for story: Elise) Bianca Tyler, Phillip, Bianca and Elise, best friends, girl network, friends forever, bff, friendship (7)(Right: 31 years ago Elise & I) She sent us each an amazing gift with a card that wished us a Happy Spring of Recovery & Wellness. The children received Godiva chocolate bunny & eggs, perfume for Little One, cologne for our son, and sexy nightgown, pjs & robes for Phillip & me.Dolce Perfume

Then the doorbell rang and another large package arrived, this time from Cath in England (click for story: Cath) Nearly 500 tea bags of Phillip’s favorite!! He was over the moon!!

(Below: Cath & I over 26 years ago)Cath & Me004

At night, the Pechman Family arrived with dinner & wine. Phillip loves his wine and catching up with this wonderful family was an evening cherished. Maira and her family gave me immeasurable comfort when I was with Phillip in the hospital for surgery & recovery by having our daughter stay with them those days so I could focus all my energies on Phillip. I will always be so grateful not only for the exciting time she spent with them but for the peace of mind they gave me at a very stressful time.

bright spot flower The Bright Spot – Our awesome friends!!! Love you!!

Update: March 1, 2016

Comfort ShawlToday we learned Phillip – who’s never had an allergy in his life! – is allergic to the medication injected into his body this morning. I have never seen my husband writhe in pain like that before. It was agony for him but excruciating for me as I sat helpless beside him. If only our prior doctor had told Phillip he had cancer 3 years ago, we could have had radiation at that point and been done with it. But now he suffers unnecessarily and it’s still a long road. Back to Sloan on Friday to try another medication.

The pain left him exhausted & drained. When we returned home, he rested while I got the mail. And what a surprise there was!!Comfort Shawl 4! A gorgeous comfort shawl crocheted by Annette O’Neill, Mom of Karen O’Neill Cross from high school! Mrs. O’Neill handmade it at the Cathedral Parish at St. Patrick’s Women’s Guild Prayer Shawl Ministry.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Oh, just everything about the 2nd half of this day! The time & effort by Mrs. O’Neill. The thoughtfulness of Karen to send it. The amazing timing of this gift arriving on a day when Phillip needed deep comfort. And my learning of yet another wonderful organization and a gorgeous way to bring Comfort Shawl (2)warmth & peace into someone else’s life. Wow! I needed to share this with everyone straightaway!

 

Update: March 8, 2016

Sweet, darling Gigi visits us for 12 days as my sister & niece head to California. (Gigi with a hair cut…all 5 pounds of her!)20160303_183647_resized-a

Gigi with haircut

 

 

 

 

Our 9-year-old niece was one of 2 children representing our state in the National Children’s Choir and we were very much looking forward to watching her perform.

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She was selected last October and we were all looking forward to this momentous family event. But the news of Phillip’s cancer the following month squashed those dreams for us. Choir 3He would be recovering from his surgery.

She sang beautifully in front of 2,000 people. Our cousins & friends in California went to the concert.

We watched it at home on video. Not the same but we were there in spirit.

Update: March 18, 2016

1 (1)Keeping our spirits up as we head to Sloan for more tests. Phillip had testing 3 weeks earlier but the results weren’t exactly where the surgeon wanted them to be so we waited for today’s testing.

Walked in with great positivity.

Phillip’s been looking so good just 2 months after surgery so we have full confidence his test levels will be right where the doctor needs them to be.

Waiting. Should be on the portal by 5 or 6pm.

Waiting all day Saturday. Should be up any time now.

Waiting…

Update: March 20, 2016

*Ping!* It’s Sunday morning, the test result has arrived. Opening the portal with great anticipation toHug - levels rise see his number has gone down, down, down. That’s the goal!

But no. It’s gone up. UP!!

As mentioned earlier, the cancer had broken out of the prostate and traveled into the nodes. Now we will see the surgeon in 2 days to determine the next course of action.

HAD our prior doctor 3 years earlier informed Phillip that his PSA level was HIGH, we could have attacked this cancer early with simple radiation and medication. HAD this doctor let us know then what we came to find out 3 years too late, we could have saved a body part. HAD this doctor done his job and told Phillip what his numbers were, we wouldn’t be on cancer schedules, medicine schedules, extended loss of time at work, missed once-in-a-lifetime family events, sexual recovery protocol, excruciating allergic reactions to chemicals pumped into Phillip’s body, upcoming radiation & HRT/chemo, crushing medical debt or fear of the future.

10 year old tries on Mom's wedding gown (1)Will it continue to run through his body, latch on some organ, take his life before his time? Will he see his grandchildren? Will he walk our little one down the aisle?(Here trying on my wedding gown at 10 years old.)

Of course, all this stuff goes through our minds. His especially.

He’s living with this in his body and it plays on the mind. No matter how much we move forth with positivity, it always lingers in the back of the mind. We are human.

It could have all been nipped in the bud! To say we are angry at that doctor from 3 years ago would be an understatement.

 

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We’ve got each other.

And we’ve got a great support network and want to give a shout out to the Mighty Medina Family for taking extreme action this week…you know why & we thank you!!

England, Britain, Great Britain, Grandma, English beauty, English skin, grandchildren (22)And a huge thank you to my mother-in-law who not only Skypes us constantly from England and is a wall of strength for us but for the incredible gift she just gave us – you are one remarkable woman!! Click: Amazing Grace for her story.

 

Update: March 21, 2016

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They’ve just wheeled Phillip into the OR for emergency throat surgery. He choked on his meal – that is the power of stress!

And this is why we try SO hard to focus on the positive because when an inch of stress moves in, it can be damaging.

Go away, stress!! We have the power of God behind us!!

Update at midnight:

His Schatzki muscle at the top of the esophagus was torn. He’s raw now along the esophagus & will be on soup and ice cream for a while.

So add pain meds to cancer meds. This man will heal with positivity – no doubt.

I just have to get him back to that place.

Update: March 22, 2016

Nothing would keep us from meeting with Dr. Touijer at Sloan today. The results on Sunday added to the misery of yesterday and today’s meeting with our surgeon will set the course of our future for Phillip. Sure enough, the doctor was not happy with Sunday’s results so Phillip will start radiation & HRT in 2-4 weeks. Can’t start sooner because his stitches are still healing these 10 weeks on. Racing off to school to pick up Little One. Always on the go these days…

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Our 10-year-old’s school is simply the most wonderful place ever, a tone set by her marvelous Principal Familywhom we admire.

Her 4 main teachers – Mrs. W, Mrs. Z, Mrs. Z & Mrs. C have all kept abreast with this journey and have reached out to us on numerous occasions to say they are keeping a watchful eye on our darling making sure she is as happy & content as always.

And Mrs. K in the Main Office is a Godsend. Always on it for me when I’m scrambling to keep all systems flowing.

It is always of the utmost importance to us that our son & daughter feel happy, comfortable & empowered throughout a journey we cannot shield them from.

Dad’s recuperating. Dad has a catheter over a week. Dad is in bed for 21 days. Dad’s tummy hurts.

We are proud of the strength and adoration they show their father.

They are a testament of his amazing parenting as the Superhero Daddy he is.

I love you, my dear husband!

Update: March 24, 2016

We really thought we were through our darkest hours on thisSloan visits (1) miserable journey. Today marks 10 weeks since the surgery. Phillip’s recovery has been nothing short of remarkable! He looks & feels stronger every day and hopes that even if he has to be zapped for 6 or 8 weeks with radiation, maybe he’ll be lucky and bypass the chemo/HRT.

Sloan visits (4)When we met with the surgeon on the 22nd, I was fishing for some positive news. Perhaps the test results we saw on the portal Sunday morning were not as bad as they looked. Perhaps going up was a fluke. Perhaps they were hovering around the other number and really were “stable.” “You’re really not happy with that number?” I asked, half-anticipatory. “No, I’m not happy with it,” the doctor said quietly. “I’d like you to meet with the oncologist on the 24th.” My heart sunk.

So today’s the 24th. What we hoped would be an hour meeting turned into 4 hours at Sloan. We met with the oncologist who explained, “You have a serious disease – aggressive Gleason 9 (4+5) prostate cancer at a young age and you are a high-risk patient because it broke out of the prostate membrane and traveled into your nodes. With the most aggressive cancer at a 10, you are a 9.”

(Photos of our many trips to Sloan including that horrific allergic-reaction-to-meds day:)Sloan visits (2)

She explained Salvage Radiation Therapy (SRT) in great detail – Phillip will need 40 rounds of radiation & up to 3 years of chemo injection (HRT) to reduce testosterone which exacerbates cancer.

Sloan visits (5)aSide effects include inflamed bladder & burning, bleeding, fatigue and potential damage to the critical neurovascular bundles responsible for carrying the signals that promote the flow of blood to the nether region for an erection. The HRT will destroy libido and potentially change his personality, otherwise described as male menopause. It could take up to another 2 years to recuperate after those 3 years and some men never recuperate.

Great. Just when we’ve been enjoying each other intimately again post surgery – B-A-M!!! – intimacy is the target once again. And this time it could be for years! We were devastated!Dec. 23, 2105 (2)

The oncologist talked about another full-body MRI to help determine where the cancer may have moved, but cautioned it may not be visible at this time. A body cast would be created of his pelvic area to ensure he always lays on the Truebeam Linear Accelerator in the exact same position for each radiation treatment. 4 Truebeamfreckle-sized tattoos would be permanently marked on his skin. The medicine would be injected under his rib cage and we were told 2 “golf balls” form under the ribs and release that medicine over each month.

Phillip & I couldn’t take it anymore. We thought the nightmare was behind us when he had the radical prostatectomy and blitzed through recovery on faith & positivity. But this was just too much. Too much!

Phillip asked the doctor what would happen if he opted out of Sloan visits (6)radiation & the meds. Her face dropped. She looked at him very seriously and turned to a computer screen. We could feel the gravity in the room. She pulled up a program that looked at cancer return rates in 6 years & life expectancy when Gleason Score, test numbers, age, etc., were inputted. With & without post treatment.

The results were bleak.

So as it stands, we are heading into the darkest & longest part of this journey.

…when all we really felt like doing was running away. We went home, ate some soup since that’s all Phillip can really eat because of the stress-caused impaction & surgery on Monday night, and then we just decompressed.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – The Schaefer family picked up our little one from school today and tomorrow they are heading into NYC with the girls to visit American Girl & the Hard Rock Cafe. Yes, Samantha dollie is going, too. The Rinaldi family brought homemade English “Luxury” Flapjacks – yum!!

Bravelet bracelet-r BraveletssTavis & Kelly surprised us with Bravelets! A delicate, feminine one for me and the perfect leather strap band Phillip likes to wear with the words: Be Brave. They came in gift pouches with an insert that read: Our mission is to help people be brave during hard times. Proceeds from these Bravelets were donated to the Prostate Cancer Foundation by Kelly & Tavis. Thank you so much!! If you’d like to help someone going through a challenging time, click here for more cool jewelry ideas by: Bravelets 

And many thanks to our sweet friend, Marji, who sent us this note: “My friend is leaving for Jerusalem in a few days. I sent a prayer for MarjiPhillip’s recovery and to many more years of blissful love for you both. She will put it in the Western wall. Here’s to a miracle.”

Wow!! We are so grateful for our family & friends!!

Update: April 8, 2016

Easter 2016 Phillip, darling, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com It took 2 days to get over the shock of March 24th.

But pulling ourselves together for this weekend was critical because Easter celebrations were the 27th & our daughter’s 11th birthdaybirthday Energy & FUN-cu was the right after that.

And what could be more invigorating than being uplifted in song with our congregation and then celebrating with excited kids!!

So Phillip & I kicked our misery to the curb and embraced all that’s great in life – family, friends, feasting & festivities! Easter 2016 Bianca & Phillip, Let's Talk Radio Mom, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com

A week of great memories were created and then reality set in again.

Phillip was tested again on April 6th.

The results showed his cancer is on the move, aggressive and his number is rising.

So this morning he underwent a 3rd full-body MRI – this time with IV contrast. Large plates were strapped to his thighs, pelvis and chest and his head was put into a V-block so it wouldn’t move at all. Another plate latched over his face with an opening from his eyebrows to his bottom lip. Then they sent him inside the torpedo tube for nearly 2 hours! My husband is not claustrophobic but he says the experience, the noise and the aching & cramping in that tightness is physically & emotionally draining and, most definitely, daunting. These scans will determine if the stray cancer cells have latched onto anything else like bone.

On the 12th, we’ll be back at Sloan where Phillip will receive 2 injections under his rib cage. Oww. Chemical therapy will begin the 12th. 40 rounds of radiation to follow. I love him, dear God. Please hear me. Please let Phillip keep being strong and positive. Please give him that strength. Please. Miracle of Lourdes-a

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Our friends Crazy Sexy Dietgive us amazing strength!!!! Michele just sent this Miracle of Healing in Phillip’s honor and the Lanese Family sent us these books & an awesome documentary by Kris Carr, click: Crazy Sexy Cancer to find out more about how this beautiful & resilient young Bianca & Phillip, Let's Talk Radiowoman deals with her incurable Stage 4 cancer & lives life to the fullest!!

It was the dose of positivity we needed as we head into these uncertain times.

Looking forward to health again like these carefree days not so long ago!

Update: April 12, 2016Sloan - golf-ball injection (1)cu

Left this morning for Sloan. Seriously, everything done at Sloan - golf-ball injection (3)Memorial Sloan Kettering is done beautifully, even their services like complimentary valet parking to make your life easier.

Great news about the MRI on Friday! The cancer is on the move but has not latched onto any bone – the 1st place drifting prostate cancer cells like to go.

Sloan - golf-ball injection (6)Sloan - golf-ball injection (9)Still waiting for the test results from today but we are in great spirits about the “no masses, no internal lesions, no latching” comments from the oncologist!

As the good news rushed over us like a flood of purifying water, Phillip prepared for his treatment. Yeah, he looks so hot to me even undressing for something so scary…but I had to quickly snap back to reality so we could get our heads in the moment for some deep breathing and hand holding to ease his pain.Sloan - golf-ball injection (28)cu

Phillip had the 2 injections in his abdomen on either side that turned red and inflamed & Sloan - golf-ball injection (21)cu Sloan - golf-ball injection (27)cuformed hard golf-ball sized pockets of medication that will drip into his body over the next month. More injections to come and still waiting on more results.

When we returned home hours lapolarter, a huge box sat on the front porch.

H-U-G-E!!Polar Bear polar bear sleeping bag sleeping bag Pottery Barn Pottery barn polar bear sleeping bag

A gorgeous, super plush, ivory white, poofy, snuggly, incredibly soft, Horse races, to the races, California, best friends, the let's talk Momhumongous Pottery Barn polar bear sleeping bag for Darling from one of my best friends since high school – Sonja in California!!

What a real pick-me-up for the day!! She just wanted to send a little comfort to her during Daddy’s bumpy journey.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Big thanks to Stephen Bennett for praying with us, thank you to his sister, Debbie, for the documentary & books above, thank you to Scott Davis for your daily prayer email, thank you to Denise for your novenas, thank you to Sonja for “Snowball” & thank you to Ray Pcolar for flying up from Florida just to visit with Phillip!!! All of these friends here I have been blessed to know over 30 years & marvel at the outpouring of support and action. All of our friends amaze me!! Thank you!! Thank you!!

Update: April 28, 2016

Ray, W & PhillipThis weekend, Ray visited from Orlando. Out of the country for a while, he booked a flight as soon as he found out about Phillip. So grateful for our friends! Spent yesterday at Sloan discussing the upcoming radiation protocol, the creation of the pelvic cast & tattooing, etc. Today, Phillip underwent a colonoscopy to ensure his colon is strong enough for radiation. He is not allowed to have a colonoscopy for a year following radiation because it will become weak from the treatment.Phillip, let's talk radio show, let's talk mom, bianca tyler, prostate cancer

Although rare, radiation can burn the bladder & colon. We do know someone who lost his bladder following radiation. In order to minimize the damaging effects of the chemical injections & radiation, Phillip has increased his use of Essaic tea – which takes 12 hours to make!! – grape seed extract, liquid calcium/magnesium, essential oils, dandelion root tea, Frankincense and anything else that is natural & healthful. He smells like a lemon sage herbal garden when he walks by.

We spent last week watching the new 9-part docu-series, A Global Quest, by The Truth About Cancer and definitely learned supplementing this traditional medical route with alternatives has incredible benefits.

Let’s talk about sex…

If you scroll back up to the December 11, 2015 update, you will recall nerve-sparing was Bianca and Phillip, Let's Talk momthe key to continued sexual function. But even those nerves that are spared, we learned, go into “shock” from the surgery. Picture a flower blossoming in reverse back to a bud. That’s what these delicate nerves do. They close for up to a year. A year!

So it is imperative to get blood to the nerves to not only keep them alive and healthy but revive them eventually, Godwilling. In the sexual recovery department of Sloan and all other hospitals that perform prostatectomies, medications and injections can achieve that goal shortly after surgery. The hope is that the nerves revitalize in a few months to a year and supplementation won’t be needed. Bianca and Phillip, Let's Talk mom, parenting show, love, life, prostate cancer

But what is needed is activity to stimulate the tissue in the nether region or the tissue can perish. According to the doctors, the area needs to be stimulated a minimum of 2 times a week, maximum of 3. (Sometimes I wonder who’s making this stuff up…) But taking my vows seriously, you know, “In sickness and in health,” my job is to stay adorable and “helpful” during this trying time. Add to this the challenge that during the HRT/radiation period, the chemicals injected into his body are making his testosterone hit rock bottom for a while. That means I need to up my game. Hummm.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Approaching this responsibility with a positive attitude & designer nightgown!

Update: May 16, 2016  Hampton Respite

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (22)In the 16 weeks since Phillip’s surgery, we’ve been back to the hospital 24 times including a 3rd full-body MRI and chemical injections. By the end of March, Phillip’s PSA level was tested 4 times, and on each occasion the reading went up!! Having had the prostate removed, the PSA level should be undetectable. When the 4th result came in showing an increase of 77% from the first post-surgery reading, we were really unnerved.

So Phillip surprised me with a weekend house in the Hamptons. The Atlantic was our backyard! If you squint, you can see the kids looking for shells by the water’s edge in the photo above       . The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (6)

He wrote on his blog (Phillip’s Journey), “I wanted my wife to have some down time, as she has been carrying the burden greatly. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (24)For those of you who know her, you know she loves deeply and has deep emotions. This journey has been tough on her, and I wanted her to unwind more than anything. I
didn’t realize how much I needed this, too. 
We spent the weekend in an idyllic beach home with glorious weather. We chilled, played board games, grilled fresh salmon & steak, we talked, we walked, we flew kites, we gazed at the ocean & listened to the breaking surf, we delighted in the laughter of our daughter & her friends playing in the sand, running down the beach, rescuing overturned horseshoe crabs, and we reveled in the pure joy of beach life.

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (25)And the really good news… my latest blood test last week shows that my PSA is now undetectable. So, 40 rounds of daily radiation begins in June, then another round of chemical injections, and my plan is to have kicked it to the curb by then….Cancer out!”

To think Phillip was again worried about me when it is he going through all this agony! How incredibly loving, how completely appreciated!! This weekend was the respite we all needed.The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (4)

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (1)The children made s’mores before watching family movies and Darling played her latest instrument, a Seagull Merlin she just stenciled.Seagull Merlin, stencil, stenciling, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom

Smoked salmon for breakfast & chocolate-dipped strawberries at lunch. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (13)More kite-flying, even by my Mom, exploring the Bay, The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (16)and proper burials & prayers for horseshoe crabs that were found washed ashore. The children crafted their own crosses from beach wood and sea grass. The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (18)a

The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (2)The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (21)    A little bit of shopping and a The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (3)REALLY windy ride back on the ferry completed the long weekend.The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (14)a

 

 

 

 

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We all feel rejuvenated! The Hamptons, beach house, beach, oceanside, ocean, Bianca Tyler, The Let's Talk Mom (29)

 

Especially Phillip, he looks fantastic!!!!

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Update: May 18, 2016

MZero Cancer Run Walk, Boston, sister, love, support, TEAM PHILL, Bianca Tyler, www.TheLetsTalkMom.comy amazing sister organized TEAM PHILL with ZERO CANCER.org for the Boston RunWalk to support Phillip on his journey: http://support.zerocancer.org/site/TR/RunWalk/RunWalk16…
 

Thank you to my super duper sister!!!

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – My sister, through & through. Love you!!! xoxoxoxoxoxo

Update: May 23, 2016

england-britain-great-britain-grandma-english-beauty-english-skin-grandchildren-22We had a 2 week window between Phillip’s last chemical injection and the start of his radiation. It will be 40 rounds of daily radiation from June through August. He wanted to see his Mum, click: P’s Mum. Everyone needs their Mum at a time like this!

Phillip’s mother was overjoyed! Her 89th birthday is in June and she said seeing her son was the best gift ever!

So we took our little one out of school late May/early June for this family emergency and visited relatives in Europe. Aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews, Godchildren, close friends, everyone we could see within 2 weeks.

Naturally, everyone we saw wanted to know how England, Spring, Summer, countryside, English countryside, playing, flowers, zipline, zip line, pub, pubs (43)treatments were going. We could not rehash the details over and over. Not only is it draining for us but we didn’t want these conversations to overwhelm or frighten our youngest. Most of the time, we can shield her from it but when you’re traveling from home to home – or pub to pub, as is the case in England – folks want to catch up and we’re very sensitive to little ears in range.

We stayed in close contact with her school, as we always do. Her wonderful Principal, amazing teachers and Mrs. K in the front office have all been incredibly supportive throughout these challenging months. In an effort to reclaim normalcy, we made plans to do fun things between or while incorporating these visits.

20160601_163201While staying for an overnight with dear friends about a hundred miles south of Scotland, we ventured with the girls to a nearby castle where parts of Harry Potter & Downton Abbey were filmed, click for this story: Castles & Angels

Later, we drove nearly 300 miles south to OxfordOxford, Oxford University, England, Eagle and Child pub, Harry Potter snitch, Exeter (26) to visit the university and delve into the history of this beautiful medieval city, click for that story: Oxford

SeaTrek, Sea Life, SeaLife, Europe's 1st Sea Bed Walk, Seabed walk, marine life, marinelife (29)And because our budding marine biologist, during these 2 weeks, would unfortunately be missing a highly-anticipated field trip to the beach to explore the biodiversity of the water’s ecosystem, we wanted to do something special for her and booked her for Seatrek at what’s known as Europe’s 1st Seabed Walk, click to see more: SeaTrek

Her 5th grade teacher kindly allowed our daughter to give a full presentation to her class on the 3 adventures above & what made each so special. Thank you, Mr. K!

And speaking of 5th grade, the Friday we left for the airport was the same day her class was split into just girls/just boys earlier that morning for “The Talk.” You know the one. Menstruation, growing bodies…

But unlike the lecture we had in school when I was that age, this talk was not only about girl stuff…but boy stuff, too! Would be shocking, but the school explained that with the advent of the Internet, kids see much more than we did at this age and need to know more material to educate and protect themselves.

Humm… Still found it shocking. But it certainly made for fits of laughter – of which we need much of

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these days – and especially with a silly 5th grader! as we passed by unassuming pubs like the Dandy Cock, or were served England, Spring, Summer, countryside, English countryside, playing, flowers, zipline, zip line, pub, pubs (6)

Spotted Dick Pudding   England, Spring, Summer, countryside, English countryside, playing, flowers, zipline, zip line, pub, pubs (22)
Nobby Nuts (salted peanuts) or when we read Spotted Dick on the menu – a British sponge pudding made with raisins & served with custard – but I mean, seriously, come on!!

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Everything is fodder these days!

Update: June 12, 2016Vitesse Worldwide, limo, limo service

thomas-cook-stairsHeading back. A big thank you again to Shawn & Bita of Vitesse Worldwide for sending roundtrip limo service to make our journey easier on Phillip. Their generosity & thoughtfulness has been unsurpassed. One less stress to deal with on a long journey, thank you both!!

20160605_212101cu We flew Thomas Cook. Premium was delightful & spacious. The bag that held the accessories was a padded, zippered case that could also serve as a tablet protector. Premium offered proper utensils, good food and roomy comfort. Even cool salt & pepper shakers. This long-haul airbus A330 was 2 stories. 5 extra lavatories downstairs. Doesn’t sound riveting but it is exciting to find an unexpected lighted swirling staircase to the unknown 5 hours into a long journey when you’re tired & bored. Would have been cool to be a restaurant but I guess that’s pushing it.

Update: June 14, 2016 Keeping as upbeat as possible under these circumstances. Maria sent this lovely card after an event.

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Update: June 15, 201620160613_154303varian-6

Preparing for Salvage External Beam Radiation via Image-Guided, Intensity-Modulated Radiation Therapy (IG-IMRT).

It will be 40 days.

Every. Single. Weekday.
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His body was tattooed in 4 places – above the navel, below in the nether region, and on
both hips. The tattoos are known as placement markers.

A special cast was made of his pelvic region complete with space for what Phillip refers to as his Love Bump. Nice.

The custom cast lays across his pelvic area and lines up to the placement markers to ensure pinpoint accuracy of the radiation beams each and every day. The holes along either side of the cast are bolted to the table to make sure he doesn’t move an iota.

The whole radiation process every day takes around 120 minutes from start to finish – from voiding the bladder, measured water intake, bladder retention, preparation/cast placement/table angle, TrueBeam treatment, etc.

Update: June 19, 2016  Father’s Day

Only THE most relaxing gifts to promote calm & peace for the Great Dad of these great kids!! fathers-day-june-2016-10cu-a

 

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Update: June 26, 2016 Our Wedding Anniversary

We decided that until the fatigue & side effects kicked in – doctors said in about 10-14 days, we would to do as many fun things as possible during these summer weeks. At the Top of the World in the Freedom Tower… freedom-tower-june-26-2016-11-3yo-14a

Thank you, Elise, for flying in from Texas to make sure Phillip was doing okay & to Iman for visiting before heading to Houston!elise-a-1img_4633a

Update: August 2016

Let’s Talk” Numbers:

Between November & August, we will have been to Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Hospital 146 times in just 9 months!! With more dates on the schedule…

At this point, the cost of surgery, hrt, radiation, doctor’s visits, etc., is nearing $300,000.00 of which we will be out of pocket $42,000.00

That’s a $21,000.00 per year deductible and since our insurance runs to July 15th each year, this means that at nearly $4,000.00 per day for radiation, we will hit our yearly deductible of $21,000.00 in just over 5 days!!! One could say an emotionally & financially daunting time.

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degerilix-shots-2Injections of Degarelix – a hormone-based chemotherapy – cause golf ball-sized burning pockets under Phillip’s ribcage in his abdomen. The skin is hot to the touch and the pockets of chemicals release into the body for weeks, to be later followed by other hormone-based injections. Among the side effects are blitzes of feverish heat/sweats.

Now we have synchronized hot flashes!!!w-yyyy080

Yeah, not kidding.

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Phillip – who’s been Batman these past 17 years – stuck a Batman sticker on his cast. His medical team was cheered by his positive & determined attitude and remarked that he is the 1st adult to do that with his cast; the comment was bittersweet as I thought about the children who endure this difficult treatment. As the saying goes, we’re not admitting he’s Batman but you’ll never see the two at the same time: My Caped Crusader

In addition to all of the chemical injections, the radiation adds its own list of side effects. My high school friend, Megan, who had breast cancer, was instrumental in helping us with radiation advice. She also told us her frustrations when someone had said to her, “Cancer-lite” when she told them the type of cancer she had. Phillip’s 1st wife died of breast cancer at 36. When people say to us “it’s only prostate cancer,” they don’t realize 30,000 men die from it every year. It’s the #2 cause of cancer death in men.

God called Megan home on July 30th. It was a very rough day for all who knew and loved her. God bless you, Megan, and your family. Thank you, sweet friend, for your advice, encouragent and prayers. xoxo

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Phillip took all of Megan’s advice. He’s done remarkably well considering20160809_085638c the burns on his front,20160803_162724 open sores on his back region, bleeding in between, nausea, diarrhea, memory loss, lack of concentration & fatigue. We were pre-warned of all of that. Phillip was just prescribed Silvadene for the sores. The oncologist said that’s where the radiation beams exit the body in the back. Plus, he has sensitive skin with any sun exposure, so the beams are causing this raw, sunburn-like effect on his skin. Again, we were told about this in advance. Sloan’s paperwork also said it could take up to half a year for the abdominal hair to grow back. And his red & white blood cell counts are down – hence, the compromised immune system.

Again, all to be expected.

Why? Because Sloan prepared us:

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A tech out of state said she didn’t understand why Phillip had such fatigue. She didn’t understand why his skin was so raw and why the oncologist prescribed medication. She said most prostate patients “sail” through radiation. Really? Is she there at night when the patient is feeling the fear of having cancer. Is she the one sleeping with the loved one whose life has changed forever? Is she the one on the table whose cells are being fried to oblivion in the name of health? Is she the one who has to change her diet to accommodate abdominal issues? Is she the one who had to get tattoos to remind her forever that her body was stricken with cancer? Is she the one with abdominal pain, nausea, etc.? No. She’s not. So that sailing? She’s not in the boat so she shouldn’t comment on it. Enough said.

To prevent nicking his soft internal organs like the stomach, intestines, colon, etc., he basically could eat no fruits, no vegetables, no grains, no gravies, no sauces, no fats, just soft stuff like applesauce, proteins, broth…

hair-turning-black-5(On an “up” note: although the radiation has burned away the hair in the abdominal area, the chemicals have been making the hair on his head grow thicker and it’s coming in black! A phenomenon the doctors can’t explain. Weird, but he’ll take it.)

Update: August 15, 2016

Phillip finishes radiation today!!! He was told he can keep the cast. “Some people keep it, others throw it away,” we were told.

We will destroy it!!! And we look forward to doing so!! CANCER WILL NOT SUCCEED!!!! We plan to go to a public outdoor shooting range and symbolically & physically destroy that cast. 

Phillip didn’t realize he would be this emotional this last day of radiation. Tears streamed quietly from the outer edges of his eyes to his ears as he lay clamped to the table listening to Kid Rock’s Only God Knows Why. Really loud. Phillip said, “I wanted to have a track played that signified my journey and my feeling.”

His radiation team said his choice for the last song was really powerful.

He edited the 5:30 track to 1:30 minutes:

(“Only God Knows Why” is a country rock ballad recorded by Kid Rock in 1998 on his album Devil Without a Cause. Written by John A. Travis, Matthew Shafer, R.J. Ritchie. Thank you, Kid Rock, for your music, your passion and your talent.)

Phillip didn’t realize how emotionally devastating this summer has been! And yes, he kept working, too!

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He was surprised by a bunch of delights, a night of comedy in NY, a couple’s massage, etc.  
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Later, he took his cast to the front yard and painted it neon yellow, then black so we would be able to see the marks of impact.

Then we headed upstate to the outdoor range.

Phillip’s competitive target shooting in England years ago (left) & obliterating the cast (right):

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obliterating-radiation-cast-at-range-august-2016-85The Range Master announced on the microphone what that peculiar thing was out on the field. He said, “This man has just finished cancer radiation. He invites anyone who wants to shoot at this cast to feel free!” For 2 hours, person after person after person stopped by to take aim. Later, each would share how cancer touched their lives.

  obliterating-radiation-cast-at-range-august-2016-96We’ve had a lot going on these past 8 weeks – 3 funerals, our anniversary, 20160721_192210cugraduation, parties, Father’s Day, 4th of July celebrations, birthdays, and even my car breaking down on the highway when it was 104 degrees! Hello, tow truck!
Thank you, Maira, for lending us your car so we could get to radiation!!

obliterating-radiation-cast-at-range-august-2016-4Phillip dove headfirst into conventional, holistic and alternative treatments. Thank you to Lisa at Forza 5 for your healthy wisdom.

Although the rigorous treatment is complete, testing will continue every 3 – 6 months for 5 years.

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Recently, I was at a Mom’s Night Out dinner & the evening came to a close. The waitress came to the table, “Excuse me, who’s Bianca?” Surprised, I said me. She said, “Your husband phoned & took care of the bill & says he hopes you ladies had a great time.” The waitress looked at our stunned faces, “Yeah, we never heard of that either,” she said, “we’re all swooning in the back.”

Phillip never ceases to amaze me. He’s going through so much and stops to think of me. I love you, Baby!

phillip-romanticLast week, we were at a friend’s who said a woman commented to her that Phillip must not have been so ill with his Stage 3 aggressive cancer because no one can be that positive and still dote on his wife & kids and be so happy and kind.

Humm. Well, actually, that is precisely why & how Phillip IS so well – he has healed beyond the expectations of his medical team – the surgeon, the radiology oncologists, the other doctors and nurses who gave their all to make him well – and his remarkable healing was done in record time! He has said from Day 1 – the power of the mind can heal the body & soul! Phillip has The Most Optimistic Mind I’ve ever seen.

So step aside, negative person, because that’s not a space we choose to be around.20160526_085810cu

He chooses to be happy. Yes. It’s a choice.

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Update: September 10, 2016

marathonA good friend of my sister’s donated $250 to the Boston Zero Cancer Run/Walk-a-thon in honor of Team Phillip. We are so grateful to her for her generosity on behalf of all men going through this. I normally wouldn’t mention the amount but it has relevance to this story. It was the highest donation of the campaign and he had never met her before.

Later that day, Phillip saw her name on 2 more donations over 50 dollars. He called my sister to reach out to the woman.
“You’ve done so much for me and had never met me before this weekend. Why would you want to donate even more, and twice?”

She replied, “I didn’t. My children did. A few months ago, I heard from Bianca’s sister that you were suffering, so we pray for you as a family each night. They wanted to help in some way.”

Her children are 6, 10, 14 & 16.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – God bless this woman who is teaching her children empathy, compassion, goodwill & benevolence.

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Update: September 13, 2016

A visit to Sloan with the surgeon left us with mixed emotions. Phillip’s results from yesterday’s test on the 12th looked good. I thought.

But the doctor said, “The numbers can be masked at this time. From the chemicals in the injection & the intense radiation therapy.”

Phillip will be tested every 3 – 6 months for the next 5 years. We are looking forward to the “Official Cancer Survivor” title in 5 years.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – We have each other & a positive attitude. Our spirits are up despite the challenges.

Update: September 26, 2016

celebration-drink-aAnd might I just add – my dear husband even hit his sales target at work one month early despite surgery, chemo, complete exhaustion & radiation. Well done!!! He went to work most days during this radiation process except on those days he just couldn’t lift himself out of bed.

Today he pulled in THE biggest order in the history of the company he works for. Nearly half a million dollars for them. I don’t know how he does it. How he finds that last ounce of energy to make the deals. I toast to my husband. You are my Bright Spotbright spot flower

Update: August 8, 2017

It’s been quite a while since I’ve written and there’s a reason for that. You may recall me mentioning a friend, Fred, who lost his wife to cancer years back. He’s been there for us every step of the way. Writing, praying, lighting candles, and reaching out to make sure I was okay, too, since he knew all too well what it was like to be the caregiver. The burdens, stress & sadness seeing your loved one go through pure misery and feeling completely helpless.

Fred gave me great words of wisdom at just the right time. He said if I got too immersed in this disease, it could pull me down. I’d be no use to anyone. My husband. My kids. Myself. He advised stepping back for a while. And he was right.

So from September 2016 till August 2017, I’ve been just as active caring for my husband, but I’ve not spent time writing about all the experiences – a practice that usually gives me great relief, but pulling back was the right thing to do at the time.

But now I’m back and here’s a look at what’s been going on these past months.

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Following Phillip’s 40 rounds of daily radiation, the surgeon warned it could take up to a month or more to come out of the fog. As clear as Phillip seemed on a day-to-day basis, when he’d look back at an email at work or a conversation with a client, he sometimes drew a blank. No recollection. Fogginess. Lack of concentration.

Amazingly, he still pulled off great deals for the company he works for but it completely drained him along the way. And when he was recovering from surgeries or just too weak, he still worked from bed.

But the radiation didn’t just muddle his mind, it took a toll on his body. He required a repair surgery in January 2017 that would be more painful to recover from than the life-changing radical prostatectomy the year before, January 2016. This latest surgery had him bedridden for weeks and doctors told him the recovery would be at least 6 weeks. It was.

These days, he can’t sit too long, stand too long or cross his legs comfortably. Life for us has changed significantly but we are holding up as best we can. There are good days and challenging days.

Phillip just met with his first surgeon (from 1/16) last week. The doctor had written a white paper on his belief that hitting men diagnosed with very aggressive prostate cancer with all 3 major forms of treatment – surgery, chemo/hrt, radiation – gives the best results for preventing metastasis and saving a man’s life in this situation. Let us remember, approximately 30,000 men die each year from prostate cancer. It is the 2nd leading cause of cancer death in men.

Phillip had received those words – “You have Stage 3 very aggressive cancer. Your numbers are bad.”

Why? Let us also remember that was because he had the cancer for 3 years before ever even knowing it because our doctor forgot to tell him (See the February 2, 2016 Update). Yes, we are not letting that slide. The cancer was there for so long, it broke out of the wall of the prostate – out of the “prostate shell” – and moved into the nodes. Pathology results confirm three nodes showed positive signs of cancer. The surgeon told us there’s a 70% possibility of recurrence of cancer in the future within this group. Yes, of course, we will focus on the 30% rate of success but it’s always in the back of our minds!

To lose body parts including prostate, lymph nodes, a major percentage of nerves & have other parts resectioned, is a total mind & body reconditioning in the healing process. 

And because of the urgency when Phillip finally found out he had cancer, his surgeon booked him in for the operation within weeks of our initial meeting, then hit him hard with all the treatments in a matter of months! Too often, the surgeon said, men are given radiation. The cancer goes away. Then comes back. They are then given chemical treatment or surgery, the cancer goes away. Then comes back. Whatever order, the surgeon wrote in the paper, when treated piecemeal, the cancer often comes back. (Not always, but often enough). So Phillip’s surgeon was beaming last week when he saw him – now more than a year later – looking so well and showing numbers that looked good.

He will be tested every 3 months and monitored for 5 years before getting “cancer survivor” status. As of last week, the surgeon said his testosterone is back up at great levels.

But as well as he feels, as I said, the cancer is always in the back of Phillip’s mind. We are not allowing cancer to be “our story” and defeat us. No! We have lifted ourselves up with all of you surrounding us with love but we do live realistically. Let me put it that way.

And although I haven’t written in a long time, people have not stopped writing to me. (I respond to everyone). For I have said all throughout this journey, if our story – as candid as it is – could help just one person, we are happy to be here for you. This email arrived this week: 

Just as this story began with Phillip feeling alone and finding out all of you were behind him, I’m so glad Ann knows that she is truly not alone. May we all take a moment of silence to wish Ann peace as she continues this difficult healing process.

It’s been a long, hard journey for us. We’ve put on a brave face for our children and the outside world when we just want to cry on the inside.

My sister, one of Phillip’s most ardent supporters, surprised him with a homemade cake that says it all!

 

 

If there’s one thing I can say about my sexy beast, he’s kicked cancer’s ass & continues to blow my mind!  That’s one strong man!!

 

 

 

 

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – I suppose, in the end, adversity produces strength. We are approaching this next chapter in our lives with great strength. If you have any questions, need encouragement or would like to reach us, just email me (see nav bar above).

God bless you all and thank you for helping us through this journey.


Bianca

Going National ~ Thanks to YOU!

Monday, October 5, 2015 by  

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Thank you to everyone who listens to our Life, Love & Parenting show, “Let’s Talk with Bianca & Phillip!”

After nearly 500 interviews &             19 Seasons, my husband & I are excited to announce we have been signed for national syndication!

 

For those who are new to this program, here are snippets of our bios & an overview of our show.

Bianca’s Bio:

Bianca Tyler is a 3-time award-winning TV journalist, nationally-syndicated radio show host, popular blogger, Mompreneur, former Miss Connecticut, TV & radio producer, founder of WH Publishing, and “The Momversationalist®,” the title of her new book coming out in 2016.

She’s also been a news anchor, news reporter, parenting contributing editor, entertainment reporter, weathercaster, one-man band, linear & NLVE editor, singer, model, lecturer, teacher, animal-lover, adoring wife, active mom of 2 kids and her pets, and an all-around, bona fide multi-tasking guru ~ a BFMTG!

In addition to her TV awards, Bianca has also been honored with 8 other awards including the Women’s Leadership Award and a Citation of Excellence from the Connecticut State Senate.

Her website, www.TheLetsTalkMom.com, currently celebrates over 10.26 million page hits & counting! Her focus is about family life and empowering oneself by “Finding Your Bright Spot™.”

She has spent over 30 years promoting her charitable causes ~ during her reign as Miss Connecticut, statewide charities raised over a million dollars of fundraising revenue.

Bianca has appeared as a special guest on over 35 television & radio programs and in more than 60 newspaper, journal and magazine publications in over 135 articles, photos and covers worldwide, including USA Today, NY Post, NY Daily News and The New York Times.

Bianca has explored over 120 times more than 50 countries on 5 continents.

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Phillip is a multi-award-winning entrepreneur who founded his 1st company and grew revenue by 268% in the first 3 years. His 2nd venture – a tech company, www.IDCardGuard-us.com, launched last year and specializes in patented RFID-shielding for credit/debit cards & identity theft, SmartTag & WalletTag tracking devices, selfie remotes, RFID-blocking wallets, passport shields and so much more.

An accomplished publishing & media executive, he demonstrates extremely strong strategic and analytical skills with a proven track record in business start-ups & turnarounds. Most recently, the division under his leadership ranked in the Inc.500 list as one of the fastest-growing companies in America showing a 3-year, 937% increase in revenue ranking them as the #9 media company in the USA.

Exceptional P&L and cost control expertise, Phillip is a leader in identifying strategic alliances to build and convert market opportunity into new business revenue streams. He has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars worldwide for charity. 

Headshot - Bianca & Phillip“Let’s Talk!” Show Overview:

“Let’s Talk with Bianca & Phillip” is a Life, Love & Parenting program. It’s a forum to discuss parenting, relationships, single parenting, infertility, marriage commitment, intimacy, loss of a spouse, communication, raising phenomenally close & thoughtful children, romance, matchmaking, healthy living, information and well-being, great tips to make your life easier, getting through any tough situation and, most of all, getting & staying motivated whether you are married, single, male or female.

We’ll help you empower yourself and keep your sanity while keeping your marriage and family strong!

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We have incredible, experienced & dynamic guests from all over the nation, many of whom have been quoted from People magazine to Parenting magazine and have appeared on shows like Today & Good Morning America, experts, authors, parents, and doctors as well as little folks on our “ChitChat with Children™” portion, and teenagers for our “Teen Talk!™” segment, connecting parents and youths through understanding and communication.

All programs are archived on this site. You can listen to the shows on your computer or cell phone at home or in the car for your listening convenience.

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Bianca

Best Mother’s Day Ever

Sunday, May 10, 2015 by  

Mother's Day, NYC, New York City,  bike ride, Mama Bird, baby birds, Freedom Tower (9)Our 9-year-old led us on a 14-mile bike ride to the Freedom Tower on Mother’s Day.

 

 

 

 

7 miles down Manhattan Island & 7 back along the Henry Hudson River South Waterfront Bike Path in sunny 75 degree weather.

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After stopping for ice cream, we enjoyed a lovely dinner and then Phillip gave me one of the most wonderful, thoughtful gifts ever!! Ever!!

To put into perspective how special this Mother’s Day gift was to me, may I just say that one year, he surprised me with a beautiful Mercedes convertible in the driveway; another year, matching silver Mercedes’ with huge green bows. Yes, those were exciting.

But the gift he gave me this evening made my eyes tear & my heart swell! I’ll explain at the end of this story.

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Stopping for ice cream after the 14th mile:

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Mama Bird & her babies:

Okay, so this was Phillip’s gift. A few days earlier, we saw this sign at Nordstrom’s. WOW is exciting for us because it’s our daughter’s initials. Flipped upside down, it spells MOM.
Phillip carved this WOW~MOM sign for me from a block of wood. A handmade gift is the best gift of all to me and the meaning behind it was heartwarming & made with love and thought.                            
What an amazing husband, I love you, Darling. Thank you!!
Those magenta-orange-pastel-sherbet colors are some of my favorite hues & it will be painted those colors soon. 
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One of the best Mother’s Days ever (2014)!!
Today’s 2015 Mother’s Day was just as delightful!
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After breakfast & celebrations, we snapped pics under a very significant tree, then Phillip & the kids surprised me with an afternoon of painting together at Pinot Palette in New York, followed by dinner with my Mom.
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Thank you for sharing. And thank you to my family, I love you all!!         
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Bianca

Why Won’t He Commit?

Monday, May 4, 2015 by  

I Saw Your Future bookWhy won’t he commit?

Is he “The One?” 

How does he really feel about our relationship?

Is there another woman?

If these questions ever entered your head…or heart, wonder no more!

For over 30 years, 2nd-generation psychic & spiritual adviser Louise Helene has answered these questions through thousands of readings.

She shares stories of heartbreaks and misunderstandings and teaches readers how to navigate tough relationship problems by using your intuition.

Louise is a recurrent guest on our Life & Love segments on “Let’s Talk!” and explains why it was love at first sight when I met Phillip and why we had no doubts getting married even though we had only been in each other’s company 46 days prior to saying “I do.”

All shows are archived on this site. Upcoming shows with Louise: November 10, 2015, December 15, 2015, February 23, 2016, April 5, 2016. If you have any questions for her, please send them to: Bianca@TheLetsTalkMom.com. Can be on any topic – life, love, finances, family, etc.

bright spot flowerThe Bright Spot – Find your special someone or find strength to end a bad relationship. Louise will help empower you to take control of your love life!

Find Louise’s book on Amazon.com & Barnes&Noble.com, recommended on GoodReads.com, available for your Kindle or in paperback. To contact Louise directly for a personal reading, click: LouiseHeleneThePsychic@gmail.com


Bianca

Nifty 50!

Sunday, February 1, 2015 by  

Everyone kept asking me what Phillip was planning for my 50th. He’s arranged some pretty spectacular things for me over the years so I knew whatever it was I’d be thrilled. Our son captured the moment:

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Good Lord! What could it be? Well, prior to opening this envelope, Phillip planned a weekend of delights including dinner at La Panetiere.

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We visited the Cloisters on the northern tip of Manhattan overlooking the Hudson to enjoy the stunning array of more than 5,000 pieces of European Medieval works of art from the 12th – 15th centuries including the famous Unicorn Tapestries. The Cloister’s Library contains over 15,000 volumes of books.

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Later, we toured the World of Wings butterfly atrium where I had my 1st opportunity to take photos with my gorgeous new Canon from my son. For the amount of time I invest in my photography, this latest Canon with touchscreen, image sensor & built-in Wi-Fi was the p-e-r-f-e-c-t gift!! Thank you, darling!

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And if anyone knows our family well, you’ll know why the logo above is so significant!! 🙂

As you can sBebe's necklace (1)ee, this day was magnificent with brilliant sunshine & deep blue skies. But 50 years ago, there was a blizzard and my mother arrived at the hospital with a police escort. That’s one way to make an entrance.

Mom recapped the story over dinner. Then she surprised me with a very special gift…a piece of jewelry I’ve admired for 45 years. It was given to mother by my father’s mother when I was 5.Bianca Tyler, gala, television, broadcaster Bebe's necklace, Miss Connecticut (1)

 

 

 

I’ve worn it in the past with great delight (photo on right), but on this special night, my mother said it was now mine. Overjoyed is an understatement. It means so much to me on many levels.

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So what was in the envelope in the opening pics? Let me first explain that my greatest gift ~ now & always ~ is being loved by my family & friends. Flowers & cards, emails & posts. All is appreciated. The kindness, the thoughtfulness, the time spent to make my day special. Thank you all!!

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The above cards from my children touched my heart deeply. My son chose a card that says I make him feel understood, happy and loved. Wonderful, wonderful!! And our little one says I make her happy every day…down to even the school snack. What more could any mother want? Happy, thriving kids – this was, by far, the very best gift of all!!

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16 years ago, I started the Harry Potter series with our son…reading it in “real time,” that is, waiting each year for another book to be published…standing in line at midnight openings with great anticipation for 1st edition hardcovers. We saw the movies, he had the posters, the comforter set, the throw pillows, the robe, Harry’s wand, etc. He even had a Harry-esque look to him, especially when he got his glasses.

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Fast-forward more than a decade and our little daughter & her friends are relishing in the adventures, quoting the spells, whipping up potions and donning the robe. The perfect hardcovers have moved from our son’s room to our daughters’s bookcase. Over the holiday break, we watched all 8 movies (Yes, 8. The last book was filmed in 2 parts).

My friend, Sara, took one of our daughter’s best-est friends (since the girls were infants) to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter last month. The girls are now 9 & 10, the perfect age for the story. Sara posted this video of Platform 9 3/4 on her FB page & that was it!! What more fun could our family have than to venture through the fantastical world of wizards?

Sara said Universal Studios did a magnificent re-creation, a trip not to be missed! With the entire storyline under our belts just the previous month, I could not have dreamed of a more fanciful place to go for my birthday present!! In the envelope was a newspaper-like invitation from the Daily Prophet along with tickets to the mystical world of Harry Potter and a week’s stay at the CoCo Key water resort hotel. Simply marvelous, my darling husband, I love love love it!! And so do the kids!! (Well, as you can clearly see from our little one’s reaction in the 1st photos above as we opened the envelopes together.)

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CoCo Key water resort & hotel:

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We finished up the weekend celebrations with my favorite movie, The Scarlet Pimpernel, with Jane Seymour & Anthony Andrews. Luscious ~ Dreamy ~ Yum!

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So many other details went into this weekend that I would just like to say thank you to my husband, my whole family and my friends for marking this milestone with great joy.

bright spot flowerThe Bright SpotTM  – Thankfulness that my mother is feeling better, it’s on & off and for my birthday she was really “on!” Even sparkly! And thank you to all who sent wishes for a beautiful birthday weekend. So ready for this next great decade, bring it on!!


Bianca

It Would Be Our Honor

Tuesday, August 20, 2013 by  

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I answered my cell on a sunny Friday while I was upstate with the kids. “I’m going to marry my sweetheart on Tuesday,” said the voice. “I was wondering if you & your family would come and represent my family since I’m alone here.”

Incredibly touched, I said it would be our honor! And with that, we attended a beautiful wedding         4 days later. Our friend was from Haiti and his family could not fly in for the ceremony.

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Our friend was marrying into a loving, close-knit family.

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His bride was stunning.

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His in-laws were welcoming & kind. And we were moved by the warmth & joy that surrounded all of us this beautiful August afternoon. May we all be so blessed to have such an affectionate family.

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The Bright SpotTM bright spot flower – Blessings to you, our friend, and your radiant wife. Peace on your journey of life together. See update 2015 below 🙂 b~xoxo

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It’s been a few years & look who’s arrived! The sweetest, darling little baby boy for this wonderful couple. Love those eyes, love those cheeks!

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Bianca

Paradise for Families

Sunday, June 2, 2013 by  

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We were looking for a family vacation & what we found was something above & beyond in Runaway Bay, Jamaica.

It wasn’t the cozy sleep on the flight American Airlines, Jamaica, Caribbean, Kind people, 1st class sleeper seats, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, family time, vacationor the magnificent sunsets or the spa on the stone jetty in the     <Caribbean Sea. Jamaica, spa on the sea, Caribbean, resort, relaxation, beauty, family time, luxuryIt wasn’t the climb to the awesome 100′ slide Jamaica, Caribbean, Kind people, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, swimming, boating, family time, vacation, dolphins, sting rays (52)or the fire-breathing master.

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The FDR resort is an all-inclusive, 78-suite, ultimate family experience consistently rated among the best in the Caribbean. Jamaica, Caribbean, Kind people, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, swimming, boating, family time, vacation, dolphins, sting rays (51)It is Jamaican-owned, Jamaican-operated with Jamaican restaurants so you get the true flavors of this beautiful, tropical island and its people. 

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It’s not an oversized resort with a Starbucks, Burger King or Payless Shoes. I didn’t leave the States to find a mini-USA. 

What took the experience at the FDR resort to the level of “phenomenal” was an intrinsic feeling of being transported back to the days of summer holiday camps like Kellerman’s in Dirty Dancing. Everyone knew everyone at the resort, and if you didn’t, you were welcomed with warm smiles and a handshake.
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I was stunned to find that families have been going there for 25 years. Folks e-mail each other dates of when they’re returning. Families plan around other families they don’t otherwise see but once a year. We’ve been e-mailed by guests – now friends – about the next holiday. Unless I’m visiting friends, I never go back to the same places on Earth so I can explore new territory. So I was intrigued when the 1st family I met said they had been coming for the past 10 years. “Why??” “You’ll see,” smiled the father. By week’s end, I was looking forward to re-visiting this very special & unique place.

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The owner, Franklyn D. Rance, for whom the FDR resort is named, says he has welcomed repeat international families for 25 years, he has watched couples come when young Moms were pregnant, and then watched their children grow up year after year, and then watched those children marry and come back annually with their own kids. I’d never heard of such a thing; it was fascinating to me.

I felt like I was back in the 60s or 70s ~ where parents of other children cared for, bandaged up, and guided with love the children in their midst. If you’re 40 and over, you’ll know that comforting feeling – a mix of common sense, “old school neighborhood,” and family amongst friends. And all the staff members knew everyone’s name, had fun with the parents, and the lifeguard swam with the kids.

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Frank was one of the original 3 partners to found “all-inclusives” 30 years ago. He and his partners built resorts throughout the Caribbean and, now retired, he enjoys his days at the FDR sitting under a palm tree with his advisors. He envisaged a Jamaica, Caribbean, wonderful folks, super staff, authentic Jamaican food, poolside office, Frank Rance & staff, nanny, all-inclusivesrelaxation haven for parents when he created the Personal Vacation Nanny service.
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Each family is matched with a specially-trained, private nanny to follow, entertain, swim with, play with, keep safe and care for every need of your child or children so parents can completely relax – body & mind. Your personal nanny takes care of your suite as well, bedding, towels and even brings up platters of evening treats you request. 

I wasn’t into it at first. I watch my kids. I play with my kids. This is family time.

Jamaica, Caribbean, Daddy Daughter smiles, Kind people, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, family time, vacation, dolphins, sting rays (16)Well…guess what…there’s plenty of family time and one can always play and swim with the kids, Nanny is there to assist from 9-4. She will run back to the room if you forget your sunscreen or hat, she’ll get a drink for you at the bar and, once I was completely comfortable and knew how happy my little one was with all her new friends and their nannies, I could actually take a romantic morning walk on the beach with my husband… or a little afternoon siesta…imagine that…on a family vacation!

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Another delightful and unusual thing about this trip was that each night dinner was served in a different restaurant, or on the beach or on one of the piers throughout the resort. Location & time were listed on the chalkboard by the pool. We didn’t get that at first and went downstairs when we felt like it for dinner. Everyone was finished and going to the dance floor area for entertainment. Whoa, what happened? Families came up and said, “Hi, we missed you at dinner.”

You did??

The next night we came down between the 6:30-9:00 time for cocktails on the pier and dinner. Everyone was there.

Jamaica, Caribbean, Kind people, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, swimming, boating, family time, vacation, dolphins, sting rays (39)Children ran around & played and parents talked about their great day. Amazing! It was so delightful. So friendly. So engaging. So comforting. So not the era we’re all living in now where everyone’s consumed by their handhelds, Facebooking, texting, tweeting, blah, blah, blah. Here everyone was unplugged and relaxed – Eating together. Dancing together. Singing together. And, in Phillip’s case, entertaining us with some funky stick dance on his butt~! LOL! Jamaica, Caribbean, Kind people, Paradise, Island, fun, friends, swimming, boating, family time, vacation, dolphins, sting rays (41)

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The trip was simply wonderful, rejuvenating & exciting. We enjoyed the resort’s glass-bottom boat, spa, our private wedding anniversary dinner with our 7 year old on the pier, Jamaica, wedding anniversary, happy anniversary, private dinner on the pier, joy, balloons, lovely evening in the Caribbean, Caribbean Seathe children’s talent show, the daily activities, the Rum treasure hunt at the bottom of the pool, board games, water trampoline, swimming with the dolphins & stingrays, snorkeling, diving and all the exciting adventures the Caribbean has to offer. 

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The Bright SpotTM bright spot flowerIt was hard to leave Jamaica but e-mails from other families we met there have been flying in: “When are you going again?” I can tell you it will be very soon. A real pleasure and, indeed, the ultimate family experience!

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Bianca

Live & Let Love

Friday, January 18, 2013 by  

I was finishing up a really great day trip with my daughter & one of her closest friends. The girls met more than 6 years Affectionate family, mother, father, baby, daughter, loving couple, loving parents, joy, close bond, familyago in a baby lapsit music program. The little friend’s grandmother was with us on this particular day and my husband called to see when we would be home.              

Bianca Tyler, Phillip, happy couple, loving parents, close family, family ties, family bond, happy parenting“It shouldn’t be more than an hour now,” I said and we each finished with “I love you very much, too.”

The grandmother turned to me when I hung up. “I didn’t mean to listen in but it was really nice to hear you talk like that with your husband.”

To me, it’s just normal. My husband and I are tender & loving in our daily routine. It’s good for us & it’s good for the children. Affection is part of their daily life, and I hope that their partners one day in the far future are just as loving & warm.

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But I grew up in a loving home with smoochy parents & grandparents and I went with my gut. To me, men are just as deep as women are and most people, I believe, desire attention, recognition & hugs. The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (2)

And what I find is that many people wish they had a more loving relationship. Or that they connected more with their spouse.

It’s really not hard. It’s the little things that add up to the wonderful bond between you & your significant other.

A brush past your partner with a soft touch across the shoulders. A little kiss as you pass in the kitchen or while your husband is working late into the evening. I leave him notes in his briefcase, he’s left me notes in the pantry, across my computer screen, in my coat pocket or the bottom of a soup pot! Love note from Phillip in my pocket January 2013, love note, sweet note, incredible husband, coat pocket, winter coatPhillip writes Love notes on wife's screen, bianca tyler's computer screen, I love you, messages of love (2)

Arm in arm when you walk, hand holding when you talk, a little text here & a little Google Chat there. It all adds up.  Communication – touch, voice, writing – text or by hand. It all matters.
And nothing beats the kiss! 

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Don’t think your kids don’t notice. They want that comfort of a loving environment.

Bianca Tyler and Phillip, snuggle, happy couple, parents celebrating their children's party, wonderful timesOf course, when they’re preteens, a kiss might evoke a look of disgust or even a groan, but in reality, it gives your children quiet inner peace to know their parents are close & loving and, with a divorce rate of nearly half of all marriages nowadays, don’t underestimate the great security it gives them. Phillip and Bianca Tyler  Let's Talk radio hosts  relaxing  enjoying each other  quiet evening together

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It will not only be super for your relationship, but it will teach your children what a loving family is and what a great partnership looks like.
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And the kindness your children experience they will share because they know it as their norm.

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The Bright Spotbright spot flowerThe children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (5) – You already know your children model your behavior.

You have the power to mold their framework for a loving marriage and a connected family structure in their future. The children  brother & sister  close  happy  snuggly  kind  thoughtful  sweet  incredible bond (1)

 So go on now…smooch the daylights out of your kids and your spouse!  Happy Parenting!™


Bianca

Which One Are You?

Tuesday, October 2, 2012 by  

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Janet Jackson’s catchy tune “What have you done for me lately?” and John F. Kennedy’s famous quote from his inaugural address, “…ask not what your country can do for you — ask what can you do for your country,” can symbolize your view of a relationship. Where do you fall in your marriage?

For us, we try to do whatever we can to please one another. If I grab a bottle of water for the car or our room for the night, I grab one for Phillip, too. It’s not even a thought, it’s just automatic. And it goes for anything. If he makes a cup of tea, he always makes two. If I can make my husband’s life more comfortable with simple, loving gestures, I do. And vice versa.

Sometimes I’ll warm a towel or his robe in the dryer for him shortly before he steps out of the shower, or I’ll chill a wine glass in the fridge before he comes home from work. These aren’t hard things to do, they don’t take effort, and are so appreciated. My husband sometimes leaves little notes in the big soup pot that say, “I love you,” and I leave naughty notes in his briefcase. 

I learned very early on in our marriage that Phillip was a giver and a pleaser, and it made me want to do things for him in return. And so it went back and forth, back and forth. Now that’s a relationship cycle one would want to keep going!

Years back when I was about 20, there was a significant holiday – I can’t remember which one at this point – but I bought Grandparents, loving couple, married 61 years, diamond anniversary, diamond celebration, incredible role models, loving grandparents, my dream couple, sweet embrace, sweet to each other, life long journeytwo cards and gave one to my grandmother and one to my grandfather. My grandmother smiled at me tenderly as she gave her card back. She put her arm around me and said, “Your grandfather and I are one; we share everything. We love your thoughtfulness, but we only need one card.” Then she kissed me on the forehead and that was that.

Married 61 years, they were loving and kind to each other every day. They held hands when they walked, when they sat on the couch, whenever they could. The memories are beautifully indelible. Their diamond celebration story: http://theletstalkmom.com/romance-and-spice/the-diamond-celebration/

So as I went into my marriage, I thought to myself I could think, “What have you done for me lately?” …or I could be a thoughtful spouse and say to myself, “What can I do for my husband?”

I know there are some people that might think I’m a wimp. Oh, contraire! When you are great to your significant other and your significant other is great to you, you are united, you are strong, you feel loved, and you are on the 61-year path.

The Bright Spotbright spot flower – When parents are strong together, the whole family benefits and thrives.

 


Bianca

My Caped Crusader

Friday, June 8, 2012 by  

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Happy Birthday, Darling

Whether my dear husband is busy

at Gotham City’s Sherry-Netherland’s Doubles on 5th Ave sweeping ladies off their feet…

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or me off mine…  Bianca and Phillip  happy couple  sexy embrace  long hair  sexy hair       … giving speeches Phillip  Let's Talk radio host  giving speech  man giving speech  castle  beautiful painting  beautiful frame

or playing Cricket…

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giving sweet baby kisses

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and super Daddy hugs…

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 …corporate by weekday and

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Hearth Warrior by weekend

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(God, I love those legs!)

…and whether he’s playing peacefully or keeping the peace,

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up in the sky or under water,

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dressed up…

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dressed down, OR…

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barely dressed…

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Phillip is funny and

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great fun to be around.

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A wonderful father,

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an animal lover and protector,

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a loving husband and great friend to all who know him, I am proud to be his wife, his lifelong partner, his other half.

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I’m also proud to work together as co-hosts on our Live radio show, “Let’s Talk!” about Life, Love and Parenting archived on this site after each show for your listening convenience.

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The Bright SpotTM bright spot flower – I could not think of a better person to take this life journey with! Take a moment to think of all the reasons you love your special someone and go give that person a big kiss! I’ve just finished this story and am looking for my Batman, my Caped Crusader, my darling to give him a big smooch!  😉 b


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100 Pounds in 100 Days

Monday, November 28, 2011 by  

Week 1: Lost 21 pounds combined in a week – Bianca 12 & Phillip 9 

Week 2: Lost 38 pounds combined in 2 weeks – Bianca 21, Phillip 17 

Week 3: Lost 47 pounds combined in 3 weeks – Bianca 26, Phillip 21

Week 4: Lost 53 pounds combined in 4 weeks – Bianca 30, Phillip 23

Week 5: Lost 58 pounds combined in 5 weeks – Bianca 32, Phillip 26

Week 6: Lost 61 pounds combined in 6 weeks – Bianca 33, Phillip 28

Week 8: Lost 68 pounds combined in 55 days  – Bianca 40, Phillip 28

 ** Day 100: Lost 100 pounds combined – Bianca 70, Phillip 30 **

Lose 25 – 40 pounds in 40 days guaranteed! Never gain it back!

Call or text Dr. Werfel: 845–590–9764 for consult & testing.

Use Promo Code: “Bianca” for a special offer!

If you’ve been packing on the pounds lately, it may not be what you think!! Here’s the scoop on surprising reasons why that might be & an answer. Last Christmas, I was rounder than usual but felt okay:

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11 short months later, I’m thinking who’s this girl in the mirror??

Seriously, what was going on with my weight? Button-downs burst open at the bust line. Zippers refuse to budge at the waistline.

I was always long & lean as a child & in my 20s, 30s & 40s. I’ve always gotten away with a few pounds here & there because I’m tall.

To get an idea of my body type, here are some photos of yesteryear…and at the bottom will be the photos as a puffball! At the end of this journey, we’ll show you a series of photos guaranteed to fright!

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But now I’ve passed the margin of slack-ability! And I couldn’t understand why.

Our Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (89)I’ve always taken good care of my health. I don’t smoke. I don’t drink. My heart is strong. My cholesterol is good. I wear the best moisturizers, use salon products for my hair and I still only buy my makeup from the very best – from my years-ago TV makeup consultant, owner, Gail Hayden of Maquillage Makeup Media, in Dallas. I’ve eaten the same Greek salad with vinaigrette dressing every week for the past 15 years, I love fruits & vegetables, and I buy my family good foods.

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True, I have a demanding sweet tooth – chocolate is definitely my weakness! – but it has never caused me this much gain.

And true, this year there was a lotOur Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (5) more late-night writing accompanied by late-night noshing, burning both ends of the candle, owning our own company, busy-busy-busy with PTA happenings & school events, working at the radio station, running in & out of New York City for work, and loads of family & friend activities.

Here’s a tidbit about night eating, according to an article in Shape magazine & Steven Shea, Ph.D., December 2014, “It’s the work of your circadian system, which amps up cravings come sundown…” “Your food urges peak at 8pm and stay high until midnight.” Sound familiar? Watching night-time TV & munching… And for me, it’s writing into the wee hours, I just love it!!

There are many shocking reasons why people gain weight. Many think it’s because someone ate too much. But that’s not necessarily the reason why 1 in 3 people in the United States is now obese…a true epidemic! Below is a list from an article by Jeff Roberts earlier this month, The 5 Surprising & Less-known Reasons You’re Packing on the Weight:

1.) 30 million pounds of antibiotics are used to raise livestock in the United States each year!!! The meds are used to stave off disease and promote weight gain!

2.) Growth-enhancing drugs are also pumped into livestock to fatten them up. What do you think those drugs are doing to the humans who consume them? Many countries have banned these growth-enhancers!

3.) If you’re not eating organic, you may be eating genetically-engineered wheat, sugar, soy, corn and other grown products.

4.) Many cosmetics, household products, plastic storage containers, and home cleaners contain hormone disruptive chemicals.

5.) Artificial sweeteners may actually increase your appetite & stimulate fat storage in your body. Diet foods are not what they are cracked up to be. Eating raw & fresh foods is best and most natural for our bodies. Junk food is targeted and marketed to children. As Mr. Roberts points out, when was the last time you saw an ad for apples or kale?

So here are some early photos of our journey. A far cry from just a while ago on the couch. Then & now:

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Not only have we pudged out, we’ve aged because of it. Here are more pics from this week. I feel like a snowman with these 3 extra tires around my midriff! And just so you can see even more of our roundness, we changed into brighter tops:

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I thought the fatigue, gain and aches & pains had to do with age. I hear so many folks quip, “It’s all downhill after 50,” or I hear ads that women over 40 will experience weight gain, weariness and bloating.

Well, apparently, that’s all malarkey!!!

Dr. Howard Werfel says, “There are 90-year-olds who are kayaking or doing yoga somewhere in the world right now, and 40-year-olds who are creaking & groaning throughout the day. It has nothing to do with age!”

Oh, well there’s good news!!

I heard an ad for Dr. Werfel on the radio where he said people can lose 25 – 40 pounds in 40 days!!  

G-U-A-R-A-N-T-E-E-D!!

All natural! No prepackaged foods, no shots, no cravings, no surgery, no hunger!!

The good doctor did it himself! 220 to 189 in 40 days!!

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Call/text Dr. Werfel: 845–590–9764 for consult & testing. Use Promo Code: “Bianca” for a special offer!

Why is there no hunger? “Your appetite will naturally be satisfied by the 2,000 to up to 7,000 calories of fat you will be burning per day due to the weight loss program!” “We are not aware of any program on the planet that can do what this program does…” So I wrote down his phone number and tucked it away.

Our Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (44)I was tired of feeling tired and my breasts became huge. Yeah, to some that sounds great. But it’s not – they are boobs out of control! Hauling around heavy breasts is no easy task!

(<<Look! My neck didn’t change – but it feels like the twins are taking over my body!)

Dr. Werfel’s program is fast, easy, affordable and guaranteed! And I know when I lose the weight, my breasts will go back to their normal size!

About a week before I finally called the doctor, I was in the store picking up 2 plastic tubs of kitty litter. That’s the key…I was picking them up trying to heave them into the shopping cart by their metal handles. Phew! I thought, how much did those buckets weigh? That’s when reality hit: I weighed the combined Our Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (27)pounds of those kitty litter tubs! I was hauling around 2 buckets of kitty litter on my back wherever I went. NO WONDER I WAS FLIPPING EXHAUSTED!!

But then came November 11th. A mom from school asked me why my father wasn’t sitting with the other vets by the flagpole at a big, school-wide Veterans Day ceremony. “He’s my husband.”

Yes, you can imagine she just wanted to vanish into oblivion at that moment. But the fact was I was turning pleasantly plump and Phillip was not only rounding out but looking older than his years. After all, he’s only 3 years older than me.

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Our Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (12)He rocks my world! To me, he’s as hot as he was the day I met him. To him, he’ll say I’m as lovely. Good man! We don’t see each other’s faults, roundness or laugh lines. We joke about our tummies. But now I knew it was time to get serious about our health.

I pulled out Dr. Werfel’s phone number and made an appointment that would change our lives.

The doctor explained why any diet or program anyone attempts often ultimately fails. More times than not, people actually gain back even more weight. The doctor explained how this program will have anyone losing 25 to 40 pounds in 40 days, guaranteOur Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (22)ed! And how & why you will NOT put the weight back on!

The doctor said it was a mix of unbalanced hormones and outside factors contributing to our gain and the epidemic spreading across this country.

I came to learn that there are hormonal disruptors in our everyday products such as certain toothpastes, facial cleansers, lip balms, vinegars and even frying pans!

Our Journey story Dr. Howard Werfel (90)Here’s an example from the program’s manual. It’s very specific and eye-opening! To get a complete list, try this program by calling Dr. Werfel today for consultation/scan at 845-590-9764. Use Promo Code: “Bianca” to get a special offer!

Phillip and I are doing this journey together. Dr. Werfel put us through the series of tests. The program is customized to every individual. Every person has a different reason why they can’t lose weight. Dr. Werfel pinpoints it through special technology & tailors the program to your body.

After our evaluations, test results showed my metabolic rate is that of the 78-year-old – what! Phillip’s is 64! My visceral fat level – the dangerous fat that the gathers around your organs and waist (a.k.a. tummy fat, “middle-age spread”) that even give off their own !hormones! is a 10. It should be 6 or under making me at risk for stroke, diabetes, and other weight-related ailments. Phillip’s is 12!

Can’t believe in the middle of our 1st Week we had the ULTIMATE test!! T-H-A-N-K-S-G-I-V-I-N-G!!!! The foods, the smells, the desserts, the cozy eating atmosphere! But you know what Phillip and I had? Dr. Werfel’s coaching and his tools to get us through it. Not only did we have a spectacular family & friend event, but we lost a combined 3 pounds!!!

The manual from this program says, “You can do whatever you put your mind to, whatever you plan for: as long as your plan is right and your commitment is strong! I want you to inspire people. I want someone to look at you and say because of you I didn’t give up! So stay committed and let’s get started!!”Banner

The Bright Spot  bright spot flower That’s the message with this system. So get some answers today. Call or text Dr. Werfel right now for a consultation & scan at 845-590-9764. Use Promo Code: “Bianca” to get a special offer!

In a few weeks, I will be posting that frightening series of pictures – yup, all in a row! – that we’ve been capturing during this journey. From Ewwww to Ahhhhh…you will be amazed!

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Here’s Phillip’s before & after pics since he reached is goal weight down 30.

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So we traced back what happened in the past year that caused significant weight gain for me – I was very ill (lungs) for 4 months & had to take Advair, Symbicort, Hydrocodone, Zithromax, etc., and, worst of all – Prednisone! Prednisone, a steriod, has many side effects including weight gain.

Add that to the toxins in our everyday lives, growth hormones in our foods, use of plastics, etc. and it was a recipe for hormonal imbalance & gain. With Dr. Werfel’s program, my hormones are now fully balanced, the pounds melted off faster than they packed on & I’m back to my normal self!!

So here are the frightening before pictures, as promised, and my photos 70 toxic pounds lighter! We took a bunch of snapshots last night in my clothes I haven’t been able to squeeze into in over a year. Dropped from a draining size 16 back down to a comfy 4. So nice to feel my own real clothes on me once again thanks to this amazing program! Sharing with you now:

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(Below) On the left, I’m 30 years old & on the right, I’m 50 (taken last night). So happy to fit in my favorite little red silk dress…size 4.

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The nice thing is that this hormonal reset program only eliminates the toxins & fat in your body & not lean muscle. Quick snap in a swimsuit & a shot I texted Phillip showing him what I was wearing under my coat when I brought him his forgotten briefcase one morning…hummm.

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Our Little One gave me these lovely flowers & snapped these pics on our porch:

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Text Dr. Werfel…do it for yourself today!

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If that’s not motivation enough, do it for your family!

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For more information, just click on the Radio Show flower tab in the navigation bar above & listen to our 4 interviews with Dr. Werfel: December 19, 2014 / January 16, 2015 / March 27, 2015 / April 24, 2015.


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